Me and this guy has sex, but afterwards he would just ignore me and give me looks when he thinks I'm not looking. I feel all weird and worried. After a week things were still the same so I called him. We talked (very awkard not much conversating) but nothing big we certainly didn't mention about IT either. What's going on?
2006-10-18 12:01:59 · 33 answers · asked by InfoMaster 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've known this guy for 4 years. We we're friends but nothing EVER happened until now.
2006-10-18 12:10:16 · update #1
Kill him.
2006-10-18 12:04:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Perhaps you might want to consider the particular circumstance(s) that led -up to you two having sex in the first place ? Was it a situation prompted by a shared -curiousity... or drink( alcohol) ? Or was it simply that you both were just caught-up in the heat of the moment (which seldom repeats itself)???
One thing for sure though... and as often said and true; that the first impression is usually a "lasting-impression" ! Being a man myself, I would advise the average female of how very careful they should be about how they give-up thier "goodies" and the circumstances involved . Because how you are looked upon by a man after having been laid by him is greatly determined by just how easy of a "lay"you were !!
However, do give it a while . If you are soon approached by one of his associates seeking the same favors of you; well ... need there be any further questions on you part as to "What's Going On" ????
2006-10-18 12:30:50 · answer #2 · answered by anthony J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is an incredibly powerful thing! If it is used according to the plan and design of God - the one that created it, then it is a powerful force that gives life, joy, and incredible satisfaction. If it is used outside of the plan and design, then it becomes a powerful force that takes life, destroys relationships, and devastates those involved.
God's plan for sex is clear... that it be shared by a single man and a single woman in the context of a marriage. Why? Sex only gives benefits when there is a life-long commitment surrounding it. If not in such a commitment, then sex TAKES AWAY. It robs us of what God wants to give us - an incredible gift!
So what's going on with you and the guy you had sex with? He is likely dealing with extreme guilt, shame, and feelings of worthlessness and failure. And though you might deny it or hide it from yourself, you likely feel as though you've been betrayed, cut off, and severely wounded. Sound familiar?
So what now? Get in touch and I'd love to share with you from my own (and many others') personal experiences. I'm not hear to preach at you. In fact, I'm here to offer you hope. I want so badly to see you get back on your feet again, get your wounds taken care of, and succeed! I want to befriend you. You already KNOW what you did, and what it felt like - so there is no need for me to remind you futher.
2006-10-18 12:14:17 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the sex feels weird for him because he doesn't want to pursue a romantic relationship with you, but you two have crossed the lines of just friendship, and he feels confused as to how you should be around each other. You are going to have to address this directly if you want to continue any kind of relationship with him. Unfortunately, I don't think you two are going to be able to remain friends, but you can at least try. good luck.
2006-10-18 12:20:19 · answer #4 · answered by P. C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not under any circumstances call him or talk to him again. Move forward. Live your life, laugh, learn and don't think about him again unless it is as a lesson learned. You have to have a relationship for a while before you can trust someone to have sex with you. His loss he's an a **
2006-10-18 12:05:54 · answer #5 · answered by JULIE J 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
LaLaLand: (hm-mm...) Another girl putting out for her knight in shining armour ! - Why buy the "cow" when the "milk" is free? He played up to you to get into your panties; now, with the mission completed, you will hear nor see very little from him. Have hope though ... he will come back into your life and panties when he gets horny again - then, you will receive the same cold shoulder treatment. Chalk this one up to one of life's lessons in the "things are seldom what they appear to be" column. There are a lot of "a**holes" out there ... so please be careful who you turn your trust over to! When you play with the bull, you will get the horn !!!
2006-10-18 12:18:44 · answer #6 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he doesn't like you, probably he likes only your sex and body. You should talk to him about it. Oh, also he might be dating somebody else so keep an eye on him. If you find out that he is doing something secret, then you should try to get him more interested in you like giving better sex.
2006-10-18 12:06:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a guy and I suggest you begin to rethink your postion in this relationship. Sounds to me that both of you might want to take a couple of steps back for a while.
I Corinthians 13;8a, Love never fails!!!!!
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2006-10-18 12:05:20 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well that's what you get when you don't respect yourself and let a guy respect you...why did you have sex with someone when you were not even in a relationship...it's a blow to your psyche...never do that..you think you are pleasing a boy but you are just crushing your self respect.
you have to live with the consequences and learn a lesson now..and don't do it again.....
2006-10-18 12:10:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sould modify your question. You're asking what a guy would do after sex with a girl when they're NOT in a relationship. That's...probably why.
2006-10-18 12:08:42 · answer #10 · answered by ixi26c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds very immature like he got what he wanted and now he's avoiding you. make sure that the next time he wants sex you deny him and just talk. if he gets really mad then he's not in it for love he's in it just for the sex. this coming from an X-expert in playing mind games to get sex
2006-10-18 12:06:26 · answer #11 · answered by chris s 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋