My boyfriend & I live together along with our 5-month baby and he's two children from a previous marriage age 7 & 8. He is taking the other children to disneyland in Dec and also planning another trip for the other children in April. He is not accomodating neither me or our baby in these trips. He says we can come along if we want. Is it wrong for me to be upset?
2006-10-18 11:49:37 · 6 answers · asked by Snow White's Mother 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He needs to include you in most things, or its trouble -- but not everything, and his older kids need to know he'll have time for them and not just for the new baby.
Try to calmly ask yourself if he is there in most ways. If so, don't put too much stress on his trips with his older kids. But if he isn't, then you need to talk to him about whather he is pulling away, and about what your new baby needs from him, and what you need.
2006-10-18 11:52:38 · answer #1 · answered by C_Bar 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, now you know what it's like to live with a guy, have a baby by him and not be married to him. Let this be a lesson to other young girls.
You are living with someone who doesn't care about your feelings. Of course he should include you in these trips. And you have every right to be upset. But if he doesn't care about how you feel, you are in for a life of heartache. Sorry, but it's true.
Be a good mom to your baby, and do something to make yourself happy.
2006-10-18 13:11:19 · answer #2 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its perfectly fine for your to be upset. I would be if my boyfriend was behaving the same way as yours. You just carried his baby for 9 months in your body, plus looking after him and your baby plus his other kids for 5 months. You definetly deserve a trip girl. I could understand taking his 2 kids to disneyland, but the second trip is unfair. He should be taking you, himself and the baby somewhere nice to relax and recuperate. May i ask why he feels he needs two vacations (when he never had the baby) when you havent even recieved one yet? I feel bad for you girl. You deserve better!
2006-10-18 11:55:55 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer Lopez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They'll be plenty of times where you'll want to bond with just the youngest. You might regret going when they run off with mickey and leave you with the stroller. LOL!
There's something for the infants in disney. Make an agenda for just the baby once your there. It's plenty of colorful shows that baby will "oohh" and "aahh" to. That way you wont be left while the big kids get on the rides. You know daddy will be riding too.
2006-10-18 12:15:51 · answer #4 · answered by miss tique 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no i would be upset what does he mean you can come if you want well jee hubby thank you what an @ss hole
2006-10-18 11:51:57 · answer #5 · answered by BROWNLYN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you should be running your household, i suggest you break up with him or start slowly posioning his chili.
2006-10-18 11:54:36 · answer #6 · answered by Another Chubby Feminist 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋