If you wanted to adopt a child from a foreign country, which country would you pick?

Answer 1

Well, if you are planning to adopt from a foreign country, I would pick the country that fits to you the most, and definitely research research research! I work for an adoption agency (it's just a part-time job and I'm just a secretary! I don't actually do much FOR the adoption except answer phones and do paperwork!) so I am fortunately educated in foreign adoption just from being at the agency..

Carla G, and everyone else who agreed, the children who are waiting to be adopted from the United States have it FAR better than some of the countries outside of our own. I am a United States citizen, but I am also a citizen of the world, so I would pick a country that a child would need it the most. Now I also WANT children (when I'm out of college [I graduate this May!] and married!) so it's not like I'm thinking that this child would be a charity case it's whole life. But I just mean that children in our countries need to be adopted much more than the children of the United States because of the conditions they are faced with.

I already told my boyfriend that if we end up getting married (likely, we've talked about it, after we graduate in May) then I don't want to give birth to children, I want to adopt. I'm not saying it's the easy way out, because I know it's not. I know many people who have adopted from foreign countries and domestically, and some have said it is more challenging than getting pregnant and having children. So I actually plan on adopting when I'm married a couple of years. Now I'm not saying I will definitely never get pregnant, because you can never say never, but I think I would rather adopt. I also wouldn't look at adoption as second best, but as a whole nother way of having a child.

So to answer your question, I guess I don't know. Whenever the time comes which will obviously be in years, I'm sure I will know better. Maybe Liberia or Rwanda, but like I said I don't know. My neice is adopted from Guatemala, but from what my sister tells me the process in Guatemala is getting a little uncertain and who knows what any countries policies will be like by the time I want to have kids! I think I also want to adopt a special needs child, because there are SO many of these children waiting out there! My neice is also special needs and I love her to death, and so do her parents!

If you are considering adopting, I would reasearch countries online. My sister (yes I actually called her to find out the names and adresses, haha!) said this website/message boards saved her life!
http://forums.adoption.com
http://www.soulofadoption.com/forum/index.php
I'm sure if you do a search in Yahoo! there would be much more, but these are the two names she gave me.

I know a lot of celebrities are adopting now, and that is wonderful, and they are also exposing international adoption to people who wouldn't know of it otherwise, which is also wonderful. But this "trend" can also be bad, because it's not all magical like it might be for these celebrities! The child you bring home might have attachment issues, which is also true for domestic adoption, and you might be in for a long hard wait. I talk to waiting parents daily who I feel so horrible for, some who have been waiting for children for a year or longer. I mean it's not always like that, certain countries take a lot longer and some don't. So as long as you know what to expect it can be a great thing! I wish you all the best of luck if you are planning to adopt!

EDIT: Sorry I just wanted to add that I am appalled by some of the answers this question is getting! Adopting from a certain country because the child is CUTER from there?! Or SMARTER?! That's absolutely rediculous. All children need parents (or one! Single parenting too!) and need to be loved. I don't think the infant or child you adopt will care what race YOU are, so I don't think it should matter what the child is! Sorry for the rant, but I see this all the time. "We want to pick a country with a light skinned baby!" etc. I will pick a country that fits what I want, and also a great need of children to be adopted. I don't care what country, or what the child looks like, how smart he/she is, or what race they are! And also, we may be US citizens but we are also citizens of the world, and some of the children from other countries really need us too, more than the children in the US! Please don't think that I am saying US adoptions are wrong, because I don't think that AT ALL, I know many people who are adopted themselves or have adopted from the US, but don't look down on foreign adoptions either! Sorry again for this being so long, but these types of things really bug me. Once again, good luck =)

And also, about Madonna, I THINK the controversy with her is that she was allowed to adopt from a country that was currently closed to the US, when many other families want to adopt too, but because of Madonna's status she was allowed to adopt a child from there. Angelina Jolie adopted from countries that were open to US at the time. Cambodia is now closed currently, though. That is why there is no "scandal" with her!

Answer 2

I would pick the country that my family comes from. Its just my own personal oppion. But it is something that gives the child and you a certain bond that adopting one from somewhere you are not from makes it seem all that more different

Answer 3

I wouldn't pick a foreign country. There are far too many homeless children in our OWN country that need adoption. I would start here first before even considering it.

Answer 4

I would adopt a child from China, because, in China a family can only have 1 or 2 children and if they have anymore, they can't keep them...Since it is overpopulated already...But it is your decision with your money, so whatever child you think that you would want, go with your instincts.....A mother always knows BEST!!! Good Luck and may God be with you in whatever decision you make!!! That child is going to be lucky to have a family at last!!!

Answer 5

Probably Japan...

although I think there are plenty of American children that need homes, so I of course would pick an American child first before worrying about other countries children...

...but, Japan if I had to choose (and a girl). I used to watch this little 5 year old Japanese girl when I was about 14 and I absolutely adored her. She was the sweetest little girl I ever met. She always wanted me to brush her hair (which was absolutely GORGEOUS!) and she would always hold my hand and she was just a little angel.

Answer 6

Which ever had the least red tape! I looked into adopting in the US and to get an infant both parents have to be under 40 (at least in Kansas). My hubby was opposed to adopting so it was a mute point.

Answer 7

probably ghana or communist china.

it's so sad. in ghana, children are starved sometimes BY THEIR OWN PARENTS!!! women are having 8 babies at a time, when they know they can't even feed one mouth. they're bringing life into the world, and then killing it or making it suffer! id adopt from ghana.

in china, it might seem nice and cool (like "omg i see a panda!" cool), but little girls are being thrown into dumsters or mistreated and some not allowed to go to school. its terrible. sexism is wrong.

also, id consider places in the middle east like iraq, when kids are forced to marry at age 10 and some also aren't allowed to be schooled. its where women have no rights at all, and are being controlled. kids can't survive.

good question.

Answer 8

i would have no preference to a country if a child is in need then so be it.
if angelina jolie can adopt then why the big scandal over madonna i dont understand

Answer 9

China

Answer 10

Guatemala.