We're in our early 30's, and have 2 kids already, but it has been about 8 yrs since the vasectomy. Would an adopted child about 4-6 yrs old be able to feel like a part of our family? Would our own concieved baby with 12 yrs difference in age feel like an only child?
2006-10-18 11:35:59 · 3 answers · asked by imzadi 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Well, adoption is less painful then a Vasectomy reversal... My brother and I are 9 years apart, and are very close.. He moved out when I was 9, but was frequently in my life.. It was nice having an older sibling to drive me to school (its much cooler then your parents), and when he was working, he took me out to lunches.. I loved every minute of it.. Alot of people cant tell we're 9 years apart, which means either he looks young or I look old (he's 32, I'm 23)..I say "The more the merrier".. My father came from a family of 10, my mom was the only child.. They both wish they would have had more, or adopted.. We tried to adopt a foster girl who was 9 years younger then me.. She was really close to me.. She loved when i took her to school, and took her out to eat.. I think either option is great.. My mom was adopted and I'm an advocate for adoption.. Yet, when you start looking to adopt children in that age range, they usually have special needs that sometime is hard to address, especially with other children in the household.. Whatever you chose, I wish you the best of luck! Both are amazing and joyous experiences!
2006-10-18 11:44:49 · answer #1 · answered by Ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should consider the background of the adopted child carefully. A 4-6 year old child can be damaged and affect your children and home in a negative way. We adopted a 10 year old girl who had been in about as many foster homes, adopted and rejected by a relative and we naively opened our hearts and our home to her. I nearly had a breakdown trying to restore and give her help. She was mean to our younger children and could not be trusted. I spent hours with her. If I had it to do over again, I would go to counseling and also have the child tested before going into a permanent commitment. I had 3 younger children and did not have the where-with-all to provide the kind of care that was needed.
Your conceived baby with 12 years difference would definitely be like an only child, but that could be rather sweet too as you grow old together.
2006-10-18 11:52:18 · answer #2 · answered by lindakflowers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-08 17:02:31 · answer #3 · answered by fearson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋