boyfriend of over a year, we both go to a community college together, and have one class together that is only 3 dats a week and 50 mins long. When I want to see him, I always have to mention ' when is the next time im going to see you", its like it doesnt bother him, he is always with his bestfriend every other night of the week, when i see him its in school for that 1 class and on tues and thurs for 2 hours, and we watch tv., he acts like he has some much more fun with his bestfriend, he calls him more than me, and when I say anything about this on how i feel...he says "not true", i dont know what to do, he says i complain, but i love being with him, he doesnt, he acts like he needs a break from me throughout the days, today, I said when am i going to see you, he said friday after school....which would be for only hours and he goes to work and goes to his bestfriends for 3 to 4 hours and drinks....this constantly happens every week. What should i do, he never brings up "us"
2006-10-18 11:30:12 · 5 answers · asked by old 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's not a mature man yet.
Let him have his "boyhood" time. (may I say that? I'm not a native English speaker)
Find another man, one who can show you respect, love, devotion, etc...
Oh, and one more thing. The biggest mistake would be be to show him these answers. He doesn't seem to understand your problem. Don't ask "when we'll see each other again?". Just leave. And don't look back. Let's see what happens. Spend some time with other friends. And if he'll ever ask what happened in a certain day when he though that you'll meet him after some drinks with the boys... Just let him know you had smth. better to do than wait for him. Maybe he'll get a cold shower. Which I doubt. :(
2006-10-18 11:49:02 · answer #1 · answered by Mircea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like he's ready for an "us" relationship; he's still in buddy mode, funning with his friends. You don't say on what basis you two are BF and GF for over a year, but if you two are sexually involved, you may have given it up too quickly. It's pretty clear you're not part of his emotional life, and you might have to withhold your body from him and see if you can make him miss you that way -- sometimes that's the only way you can make a guy of that maturity level notice you. Good luck.
2006-10-18 11:36:20 · answer #2 · answered by David W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've already told him it's a problem and he's already told you to not worry about it, then don't! Some guys just have a really close relationship with their best friends. If all you do is complain about it, you might make him re-think his feelings for you. The best suggestion I can make is to try to hang out with him and his best friend one day and see if the three of you get along well. If you do, then you win basically. You'll get to see him and he'll get to see his friend and you'll all be happy. If it doesn't work, it's never going to stop bothering you and you may have to re-think the future of the relationship.
2006-10-18 11:35:04 · answer #3 · answered by Ally S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay...you're in college he's going to want to party. But if he isn't considering you than maybe you should reconsider him. Yeah it will hurt, but if he's hurting you then most likely he'll keep doing it. You'll get over him in time but you'll always remember everything that he put you through, but before you do anything try one more time to talk to him. If it doesn't work then. Tell him that you don't want to fight for his attention. Tell him to tell his friend that he won. That gives him a view of what you're talking about. Then be like bye love ya.
2006-10-18 11:40:01 · answer #4 · answered by Sissy Lauren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
reverse the situation, maybe when your not fallowing him like a puppy dog he'll start to miss you, and if he doesn't miss you then tell him it's over and find someone who will appreciate you.
2006-10-18 11:37:27 · answer #5 · answered by Hannah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋