my dad did molest my cousin and he went to prison ...and i havnt seen him in 5 years and he said he has changed!!!should i trust him...(sorri last time i did not give enough information)???
2006-10-18 11:23:52 · 16 answers · asked by daddys_girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
no way.
2006-10-19 12:26:41 · answer #1 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, sweetie. I stand by the answer I gave last time around. Especially if he says he's changed!!! Good for you for not seeing him in 5 years! Stay strong.
I know this is difficult and I know that he wants to make up for lost time, but that's not a reason to trust someone. He may argue that he's been locked up for 5 years. Yeah, well, he was locked up because he hurt a kid. Do you want to be next?
People EARN trust. It isn't something that is given just because they say they've changed. Even, then...this is a person who has molested a child. I would ALWAYS keep that in mind in all dealings with him. I wouldn't be alone with him and I wouldn't leave my siblings or my kids alone with him.
The price he has to pay isn't just going to prison and now being registered as a sexual offender. The price he will pay for the rest of his life is losing your trust. There's nothing to feel guilty about.
Good luck, sweetie. It sounds like you've got a good head on your shoulders and you know what's right...again, you just need validation!!
2006-10-18 18:35:44 · answer #2 · answered by Joy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can trust him. for some reason in a molesters mind they always have that feeling. take my husbands uncle. my mother in law Say's that he tells her that he still has the urge to go and do this. even though he knows that she and every one else in the family are against it! but he stil has the urg. he lives in Missouri now and that is only because that is the only state in the union that doesn't require him to register as a sex offender. so to the moral of the story is that i really don't think that they can ever change it's some kinda of chemical imbalance in his brain that will never be right. and he will all way's in the back of his head what to do this again. It's to scary if i were you I really don't think that I could ever trust him again! not to mention when you have kids of your own what will you want them to be around? Think about that!
2006-10-18 18:38:52 · answer #3 · answered by tygereyez03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you have to deal with something so terrible. Did your Dad have any counseling while in prison? Good chance he didn't. I think counseling might be good for you. Someone you can talk to about how this whole thing affected you. Hang in there!
2006-10-18 18:39:35 · answer #4 · answered by terriyo63 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is tough. You have to make this decision by considering your life. What your circumstances are. Are you afraid of him? Do you have any kids that may be harmed if he turns back to old ways.
So the decision is yours and yours only and you have to consider all the facts.
Ask yourself, have you forgiven him for the act he committed?
2006-10-21 07:30:05 · answer #5 · answered by nice guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone should b given a 2nd chance. u should sometimes b able to forgive n forget, if ur father has truely change.
2006-10-19 01:14:22 · answer #6 · answered by queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not at all! i think child molestation is a really serious crime and i don't think he must have changed! he can even molest you! so be aware!
2006-10-19 05:21:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he didn't change...he still molested her! he may not do it again...but at the same time...he may do it again! can you forgive him for doing that? I don't think I could...
2006-10-18 18:33:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No..
Not sure of your age... But if you ever have children...I say no... It is not worth the risk... Too much at risk... I am sorry to hear that... Take care.
2006-10-18 18:27:45 · answer #9 · answered by canadianbakn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, don't trust him. does snakes leaves its habit how much u take care of it. it is the same thing over here.
2006-10-19 14:32:09 · answer #10 · answered by hennaasrani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-19 08:30:41 · answer #11 · answered by LAKSHIKA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋