Why do girls lead guys on & then later hurt him, instead of telling the truth right from the beginnig?

Question

This recently happened to me.

Answer 1

Tell me about it. I have always been rejected

Answer 2

It certainly works both ways. I've been trying to find this answer for sometime now, and I still haven't found out why the guy I like leads me on, and now that we're both single, won't go out with me. Some people, of both genders, can be so hurtful because of this. I have to wonder if they even realize what they are doing and how it is affecting the other person. Are they that cruel and mean? They lure you in, making you think they are SO into you, then when you show the slightest interest back...BAM! They won't go out with you and give you all sorts of stupid/childish reasons. I wish I had an answer for you, my friend. Unfortunately, I am in the same boat as you are, and my heart is aching because of it. :( All I can say is hopefully in time, the pain will ease and you will be able to find someone who cares for you. Good luck.

Answer 3

Whether it is the girl who does this to the guy, or the opposite, I think that people who do this have insecurities and self-esteem issues. The pretend to be nice and lead the opposite sex on so that they feel good about themselves and once a better option is offered to them, they dump the person again to make themselves feel better and then move on. Leaving you, in this case, feeling lousy. Cheer up, at least always remember that you are better than them, you wont treat people so harshly and you will be true to yourself as well as to others. And if you need to know in the future ask them to tell you straight up, but you must also remember that there are other people out there who are too shy to answer and by questioning them too much may actually scare them away.

Either way, I hope that this has helped you get a better perception on it. Good luck in the future! :)

Answer 4

Well same goes for guys... I believe that being honest to yourself and towards others is the only way, but the problem is, most often it's not the easiest way... I believe that in 90% of the cases, It was the last thing someone would want to do to an other, but well like I said, to be honest and dealing with emotions changing and stuff... well it's hard, although that's not an excuse

Answer 5

This is happening to me right now, I loved a girl but i just found out she is leading me on. If u do like her dont tell her u dont like her more than a friend because i did this and she got mad. Dont yell at her either because that only made it worse. Well Im gonna tell this girl how i feel tongiht, so if it works out I'll leave you another message and tell u what i said and what was good and bad. So ill write you later

Answer 6

Could be for any number of reasons.

Maybe she is just a **** who enjoys playing with your emotions.

Maybe she is just looking for attention.

Maybe she wasn't sure how deep here interest ran.

Maybe you are just one of those "nice guys" who didn't step up to the plate and take her cues at the right time and she got sick of giving them to you and decided to move on.

Maybe she is still seeing someone and isn't sure whether she should break up or not and ended up not breaking up.

Feelings change as you don't know everything about someone from the beginning, maybe something you did turned her off.

Maybe she is just fickle or the attraction wasn't lasting (you should have boned her while you had the chance)

Answer 7

guys do this too. I had this recently done to me and it really hurts but its just something we have to deal with i guess. In the end it actually worked out for me cause my now boyfriend asked me out a few weeks later and hes great to me. everything works out for the best, believe me!
she just probably wasnt right for you so be lucky you didnt get into a relationship that wasnt going to work anyway.

good luck and i hope you find the right girl soon! were not all that bad ya know!

Answer 8

to be honest, a lot of girls are bitches. and we like to play a little thing called "mind games" for some reason. I PERSONALLY am sometimes too honest and straight forward, and THAT hurts guys just the same. which would you rather have, total brutal honesty before getting a chance or let you off easily, after trying it on?!? its just a matter of what type of girls your getting involved with. and again to be honest, there are a lot of mean girls...sad to say! sometimes it seems the world would just be better if woman were still kept in their place huh!? lol..........yeh right! wah wah wah...get over it hun! theres too many out there to fret...youll be ok!

Answer 9

Guys do the same thing also. Girls like to do that to get to know who you are and what you will do to them, its just sometimes they don't think about it before their actions. I think the person hardly knew who you were...and she just wanted to know alittle bit more, like i had said maybe she just got out of a long-term relationship, and maybe thats why she wasn't ready for a new one and get someones heart broken like hers or yours. She's out there looking for you as you should be out there looking for her too. So don't worry much about it, you'll find your girl one of these days and it doesn't have to be anytime soon. When she comes along she comes along, you'll know when you two fall deeply in love. All you got to do is give it some time so she can get to know you a bit more better before you would try and do anything else to her.

Answer 10

Girls lead guys on because they like the attention they get. So they play along, and then when a really cute guy they like comes along, they just stop because they find someone better. Its all just about getting attention from someone.

Answer 11

Because they are vindictive bitches! Girls always complain about being treated like **** and then they do it. It pisses me off so much! I would never hurt anyone like that but i always get the shitty end of the stick. Lucky i have a good man now!