whats the best way?

Question

im looking for suggestins on how and what the best way is to help with a almost 3 year old tantrums. we already use the naughty corner but.. its well not having the desired effect anymore

any suggestions ? thanks

Answer 1

Naughty corner isn't a punishment, it's a joke. In life if you do wrong you get punished, the sooner your child realises that the better. How is sitting a child in a corner punishing it, it's merely excluding it from your family society, you don't think that might induce a little personality disorder later in life as your child clings to everyone they ever meet in order to avoid being excluded. Simple answer, short sharp punishment. Spanking is one way, but if you can't see yourself doing that,take a toy, place it in the bin and make sure it stays there, the child will not want any other toys thrown away so they'll learn. If you do something wrong in life you get fined. Do this with your child and they will soon learn that actions have consequences .

Answer 2

Hi....
When my daughter throws tantrums I pretend that I am very sad and pretend to cry and i tell her that she is making mummy sad, she gets upset seeing me like that and stops then comes over for a hug and says sorry :o) I know it's silly but it works.... try it at home not in public otherwise ppl might think u r loosing it!!LOL

Spanking or yelling at him will just make it worse... I do give her a small spanking when she is naughty (like playing with fans or plugs) but 4 tantrums I think it's worse cause it will make him cry more!!

If that does't work get some ear plugs or turn d music up LOL
Good Luck :o)

Answer 3

It sounds silly but ignore it. I have 4 children youngest is 1 and a half now so i will have to do all this again. With my second youngest i have started to mimic her like on the advert in the supermarket, do the same if you are out and the tantrums start they soon learn that you can also embarrass them to. Good luck any way hope all goes well x

Answer 4

It's hard, but ignore the tantrum. Having a fit loses it's effectiveness if you don't get any kind of reaction. Even if it's punishment, the kid knows you are stressed and mad, but he's still getting attention for his behavior. This is what worked with my daughter. Even in public, we'd just act like she wasn't doing that. It stopped her tantrums pretty quickly.

Answer 5

Its so amazing how I hear of kids throwing tantrums, especially since people are afraid to spank there kids where ever and when ever they act up. My husband and I have 7 children and no one throws a fit, people commend us on well behaved our children are. We spank ( enough for them to get the point, not enough to kill them or bruise them ) our children and take things away that we know they enjoy the most. Children have to be put in their place before the be grown adults throwing tantrums and that isn't attractive at all.

Answer 6

Get the book "The New Dare to Discipline" by Dr. James Dobson. My kids are grown up & have kids of their own now, but I used his original "Dare to Discipline" 20 years ago. It's really works! He has really simple solutions to problems, and delivers them with humour too!

Can't recommend it enough!

Answer 7

Ignore them. Kids throw tantrums for attention and as long as you are giving them attention they will keep doing it. Ignore it and it will stop.

Answer 8

hiya
my son used to throw really bad tantrums he banged his head on floors and doors the heath visitor said its because he cant express himself properly he couldn't talk very well he just turned two but
i couldn't sit back and watch him hurt himself so we put him out side the back door and closed it and left for 2 mins he got panicky and it did stop him all he wanted was a cuddle we said to him ( aww you poor baby whats wrong )
and he used it to get more cuddles he did forget why he was crying 'i know its sounds really nasty but i only left him where he couldnt see me but i could see him'
when it was raining we used are house alarm and phone we said that he did it because he was crying and he did stop crying that worked wonders and we turned the TV off or paused it and said he did it
two weeks later he stopped his tantrums
and he loves car alarms now (he loves cars)
kids need a desraction from what they where cry for and it does work
it takes a week for it to really work
good luck :o)

Answer 9

I understand what you are going through! When both of my children were 3 I had a fail sure plan to keep them from being naughty....I'd write their name on a piece of paper and stick it to the front door; every time they saw their name going up for the world to see they would be incredibly sorry and quiet for a very long time.

Answer 10

ignore the tantrum and it will stop