I bought my boyfriend tickets on the 50 yard line on the 7th row to a NFl game for his B-day the game is in another state so we were going to drive there and spend the weekend, I had everything planned and a hotel suite and dinner booked, we were going to spend the whole weekend together and we were going to start driving up on Saturday. He told me today that he's going to go do something with his friends and that we'd have to leave later on Saturday, which means we would have to miss our expensive dinner and we would have to check in at night into our expensive hotel, I paid alot for this room and now were just going to get there and have to go to bed, he's ruined all of my plans and I so wanted everything to just be perfect for his birthday. Am I being selfish or am I right???
2006-10-18 11:05:22 · 27 answers · asked by Pink Girl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Depends,
Did you tell him to clear the day for you in advance?
If not it is YOUR fault you didn't reserve his time. Regardless of what you did or how much you spent, if you did not at least give him notice and he made other plans then you can't expect him to break them just because you went and spent money.
If you did tell him that you wanted to do something special and he went ahead and made plans anyway you should cancel on him and take someone else to the game and spend the night and dinner with someone else because that is really a dick move. That is also something to end a relationship over in this case as he totally disregarded you and that you were doing something nice for him and he ignored you and made plans anyway. It shows he is taking you for granted if you told him and he ignored it and planned something else.
2006-10-18 11:13:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very pissed off. I would tell him that he could go out with his friends on another day. This is a great birthday gift and if you choose to go with your friends instead of the weekend I planned then I guess you don't mean that much to him.
2006-10-18 18:26:11 · answer #2 · answered by greenidlibra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain to him how important this is to you and what you put into getting all the reservations for the 2 of you. then give him a chance to explain. see if he can't postpone his plans or do them friday.
get both of your stories out there. if he's not doing anything really important woth his friends that just cannot wait then yes you have every right to be upset, just don't let it ruin your trip. you'll have plenty of time to vent when you get back. let him celebrate his birthday without you being mad the whole time
2006-10-18 18:10:02 · answer #3 · answered by gardener24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well arent you a sweetheart... if i were you id tell him to just meet you at the game on sunday and for him to forget the weekend then you should go up there and party your *** off with one of your girlfriends while hes out with the guys. hed be so jealous and i would be his own fault... that way you could have your weekend and have a good time and he could have his too and you wouldnt have wasted your money. you might as well do somethin with it. or you could just takeyour g/f to the game to and forget him all together, of course you have the right to be mad
2006-10-18 19:46:11 · answer #4 · answered by chester 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I for one would never do that. If my significant other did something so extraordinary like this. But you should speak with him first and see what's so important that he had to be with his friends that day. Remember there are alot of important people in everyone's lives. They might've asked him to meet him somewhere for some sort of special gift too. You never know.
I say just try to understand him, it is his birthday afterall right?
2006-10-18 18:10:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be really, really, really pissed at him...You must really like him a lot to go to that much trouble and expense for him. However I'm not so sure his feelings for you are as strong since he is placing spending time with his friends above spending time with you. I even bet that this spending time with friends is time without you and that your not even allowed to hang with him during this time. I have to wonder if time with his friends might even be time with some other girl considering what he is turning down with you.
2006-10-18 18:12:18 · answer #6 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if there is a compromise. Cancel the dinner but see if he is willing to leave a little earlier so you can enjoy the hotel room.
2006-10-18 18:17:59 · answer #7 · answered by country girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u is doing the right thing u waisted all your money on him in he waisted your time and money.u just wanted his birthday to be the best birthday but he don't want to listen.that's not right u should cancel the whole thing u should turn it back around.u should have him do something for u but then u should tell him that u have something else to do.
2006-10-18 18:14:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so right. He should be so happy that you are doing all this for him. He is being selfish when you have spent all this money and gotten good Super Bowl tickets. You are totally right.
2006-10-18 18:07:54 · answer #9 · answered by Melinda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been together? If not for very long, that is a lot to expect from a new relationship. If you have been together forever, than you have every right to be mad as heck!
2006-10-18 18:08:57 · answer #10 · answered by harleychic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋