boyfriend of over a year, we both go to a community college together, and have one class together that is only 3 dats a week and 50 mins long. When I want to see him, I always have to mention ' when is the next time im going to see you", its like it doesnt bother him, he is always with his bestfriend every other night of the week, when i see him its in school for that 1 class and on tues and thurs for 2 hours, and we watch tv., he acts like he has some much more fun with his bestfriend, he calls him more than me, and when I say anything about this on how i feel...he says "not true", i dont know what to do, he says i complain, but i love being with him, he doesnt, he acts like he needs a break from me throughout the days, today, I said when am i going to see you, he said friday after school....which would be for only hours and he goes to work and goes to his bestfriends for 3 to 4 hours and drinks....this constantly happens every week. What should i do, he never brings up "us"
2006-10-18 10:51:58 · 17 answers · asked by old 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know that you probably do not want too hear this but, I am going too tell you anyway. It's time too end this relationship. You actually don't even have a relationship with this guy. He doesn't want too spend his free time with you and would rather be with his friends than be with you! It sounds like he's not ready for a serious relationship. Breaking up is hard, I know, I've been there,. I think that once you find someone else and It gets serious, you come too realize that what you had with this guy was NOTHING. If a man truely is interesed in a woman he wants too be with her,spend all of his free time with her, wants too take her places and etc... so please quit wasting your time on this guy.
2006-10-18 11:10:06 · answer #1 · answered by Rose T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety...he is not your boyfried. He is boy that you hang out with from time to time. Sharing one class and then Tues and Thurs for 2 hours to watch TV, does not constitute a relationship. Life is too short and we are not promised tomorrow. Don't waste your time on what seems to be a very one-sided relation(friend)ship.
Sorry to tell you the truth but he is not that into you. Move one and be happy with yourself and someone that can appreciate you.
2006-10-18 17:59:40 · answer #2 · answered by kissablelipps 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he might just not be taking the relationship quite as seriously as you are. That doesn't necessarily mean that you should break it off with him, he just might be more in to "hanging out" rather than being one 1/2 of a consistent whole. It sounds to me like you 2 are kind of just in 2 totally different mind sets in your lives at this time. If that is the case you have a couple options: 1) you could keep trying to get him to talk to you about it and try to find out exactly what the heck is going on in his head. 2) you could try your best to chill out and be more laid back about the relationship - kind of like how he is or 3) you could decide you're just in seperate worlds and break it off, vow to remain friends (his priorities could change at any time) and see what happens.
Good luck
2006-10-18 17:59:44 · answer #3 · answered by magen n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you really should take a break from this guy. Obviously, I can tell it'll be hard for you because you seem very attached, but if you think about it, you really do deserve someone who is going to put you before anything else. It's what every girl deserves. If you feel like you really need him, go back to him, but try a break first and see what it's like with other guys.
2006-10-18 17:57:19 · answer #4 · answered by Danica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to realize that he's just not that into u and probably not really ready for a serious girlfriend. doesn't have any bearing on u. the 2 of u are just in different places mentally and, more than likely, maturity as well. leave him alone and find a guy who likes u and wants to spend as much time with u as u do with him.
2006-10-18 18:00:20 · answer #5 · answered by feetal2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry your going through that, but and this may be a lil nosey but hey you're on Yahoo questions answers right ~ are you having sex with him cause if you are then thats the only reason he is with you, if not then he might be gay. Either way you should stop asking when and see if he initiates any outings. If not then its time to move on.
2006-10-18 18:05:09 · answer #6 · answered by Sassyazzrican 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe there is no "us" anymore. Face facts.... he has more fun with his friends, he says you complain, he doesn't call much, he needs a break from you, he even denies your feelings...and every week he spends less and less time with you. What's to love about being with him?
I think he wants you to break up with him, but you're not really taking the hint.
2006-10-18 17:58:04 · answer #7 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to read "He's Just Not That Into You" It is a good book!!
Also read "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. It opened my eyes. I have since bought it for 5 other friends, guys and gals!
2006-10-18 18:37:43 · answer #8 · answered by rdwineluvr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you should do is SHUT THE F UP, AND QUIT YOUR NAGGING!!! The world dont revolve around you!!! His friends arent "more important" (i guarantee you say that) its that they are more fun. All you do is nag about wanting to spend tme with him!! Shut up and grow up!!! Find some friends, buy a dog, move on. You young broads have been conditioned to think the world is susposed to revolve around you. The only thing you got for him is your crotch!!! Take that away and he will come around. Unless he is banging his buddy!!!
2006-10-18 17:58:43 · answer #9 · answered by drunkknucklehead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he knows you will allwes bethere no matter what, if he has more fun woith out you try to have more fun with out him, like make planes with his but the only stay with him for a little bit then you and your firends go have a night on the town, im just saying try to send out the message that your the funnest person in the world, and that he would have more fun with you and no one eles.
2006-10-18 18:00:43 · answer #10 · answered by blondie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋