I've been lying since I can remember. It became an usual thing when I was probably 5-6 years old. Lying has so far destroyed one marriage and it put me in jail for a white collar crime. It also has severally damaged the lives of several family members and friends. The funny part is that I’m totally aware of my lying habits, I try to stop it but I can’t. I put a lot of effort every day, and I try to promise myself over and over that is not going to happen again. I know it will kill me one day, but I continue lying. I tried the divide-and-conquer approach, starting with small lies but it didn’t work. I saw a professional who pretty much told me that I didn’t need medication or anything like that, but that I needed to “learn how to accept it because it was induced by an overprotective family that didn’t show me how to confront the world”. After more than 10 sessions and +/- $2500, I feel worse and more depressed. Sometimes I feel the only option is to depart this world. Help anyone?
2006-10-18 10:44:53 · 13 answers · asked by A R C 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
my hubby is or well was a pretty hard core CL. he would lie about lil dumb things like, did you have coffee this morning, NO, well whats this extra dirty cup doing here, ok yes i had some... i don't know why he does it nor does he. he has said stuff like he is afraid of what i'll say if he tells the truth, or the lie seemed easier, or it seemed a better story. but some how we have manged and i understand and i try to support, even tho i always, always gotta keep asking and dig for the answers. don't give up or waste any more money on somthing that you just need a good supporter behind you. and if you do wanna continue with getting help, please please, tell them how you feel about wanting to just depart and give up. at least maybe then you could get on meds that could or may help your symptoms. good luck and no departures
2006-10-18 11:03:11 · answer #1 · answered by Becca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is extremely unfortunate that lying has put you in some difficult situations and cost you lots of money. But I find it encouraging that you appear to want to fix the solution (and you should too!). For a bad habit that has taken over it is going to take all of the strength you can possibly gather from within yourself to conquer this demon. No matter how hopeless it seems, you are going to need to give it 110% to fix this. It doesn't take a psychiatrist to tell you that! lol.
and if one doctor is saying you're not in a serious dilemma (which it appears you are: constant lying and heavy depression are not symptoms of someone who is o.k.) it doesn't hurt to get a second opinion. Maybe try to find a counseling group that deals with people suffering from the same issues you are?
wose comes to worse, maybe shock therapy could be an option :/
This is a battle within yourself and u need to pull that strength together and fight through...
and when you find it hard to fight this battle, think of all the people you have hurt that you really cared about and how your lying has hurt yourself...do you really want to keep going through that? Because you will if you keep lying the way you appear to be.
I honestly wish you the best of luck.
Take Care of Yourself, please.
2006-10-18 11:06:03 · answer #2 · answered by Curiosity killed the cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fully believe that this lying is part of your ADHD. The main symptom of ADHD is that a person is not able to stop and think before they speak. I believe this is what is happening to you. If I was able to give any of your friends a tip to helping you it would be that they stop and look at you after you have spit out a big story. That way you would have the chance to sop and think about what you just said and then have the time to say "no, what I meant was that" or "oops, I meant that she really said this". Once you get in the habit of correcting yourself, you will eventually learn to think before you tell the lie. My son has ADHD and this has worked for him. Good luck. If you are not on meds for ADHD maybe that could be another area to try.
2016-03-28 00:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing about all this is you are aware of it and trying to find solutions. (unless your lying_ haha). Seek counsilling for help with behavior modification stratagies. You are on the right track and seem to want help, don't give up, your not an awful person. It will be fine.
2006-10-18 10:52:12 · answer #4 · answered by Skanky McSkankypants 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you lost a marriage . you went to jail..and have hurt family and friends and you still lie.. you need to face up to your childhood and move on.. you will be alone completely if you don't .. try harder and each time you think about or start to lie. Stop..!!and keep a reality check on your self. face the truth and be real..
2006-10-18 11:05:49 · answer #5 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a psychiatrist , there is therapy for your problem something like negative reinforcement. Dont feel depressed , talk to someone close who can understand that you have a real problem
2006-10-18 10:48:25 · answer #6 · answered by vanilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think some people lie cause they are afraid of what the truth will bring, but just think the more u tell the truth the less trouble you will be in....
2006-10-18 10:55:57 · answer #7 · answered by cali gurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read and dig deep-Good luck!! To support Hugs and Kisses answer
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2006-10-18 10:47:58 · answer #8 · answered by MalibuSS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step up and take your rightful place at the helm of the DNC.
2006-10-18 10:53:03 · answer #9 · answered by Trollbuster 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg everyone lies you just have to try your hardest not to and try to do the best thing but if you do lie then God will forgive if you ask him in your heart.
2006-10-18 10:47:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋