HELP MY PLEASE!!! i'm having a huge problem!!!i have a wonderful boyfriend but the thing is......... i keep thinking about his best friend!! is that bad? well... i really like my bf but i keep flirting and talking on the phone w/ his bestfriend. i'v had dreams about him too! they're me and him running away together. i don't know what to do! i just try to stay away from him but it's so hard to! and my bf gets really mad. not @ me but @ his friend. i don't want to ruin their friendship. what do i do!?i just can't stop thinking about him! and i really can't stop flirting w/ him everytime i c him! he just broke up w/ his gf and he told my best friend that it was cuz of me! what am i going to do? I NEED UR HELP!
2006-10-18 10:43:28 · 22 answers · asked by Emy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow,...sounds kind of exciting...bad but still exciting....just be careful...you never know what can happen
2006-10-18 10:57:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of girls go through this believe it or not. The thing is you have a boyfriend and you love him. What your feeling for his best friend is lust maybe because you and your boyfriend need to do more "bonding" don't let this go to your head. I know you have already fallen for this guy but can you really break your boyfriends heart like that? Try taking it slow with this guy. If you want to be friends than be friends but if you know that you can't just be friends than you have your answer. Just remember why you love your bf and what you can do to make things better. No guy deserves this so if your not going to be honest and loyal to your bf then you've lost the morals to a relationship. Think about what you want otherwise this is going to end messy!
Good luck!
2006-10-18 17:54:34 · answer #2 · answered by Shelly7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off... this is just a bf... you're not married... I'm assuming you're under 20yo... next... this will probably end your bf friendship with this other guy...... now answer this... who do you want to be with the most??? you are young and there is nothing wrong with you wanting to be with another guy... you need to date around a little... what if this guy turns out to be the love of your life... your bf isn't because you have your eye on this other guy...and I know your problem is... should you see this other guy and how to go about... if you decide you want to date this other guy... break up with your current bf and wait... lets say a month... and gradually start seeing the new guy... maybe by the time you start seeing the new guy your old bf has gotten over your break up and may not even care... Hopes this helps!!!
2006-10-18 17:54:00 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A smart man once wrote that He did not need to watch what he said, he just watched what he thought. You are allowing yourself to think of this other boy when you have a good boyfriend already. The Grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence.
If you refuse to put him out of your mind then it is your obligation to end your relationship with your current BF before you cheat on him. If you are not thinking of your BF the way you are thinking about his best friend then You are not being fair to him anyway. You are obviously not in love with your BF or this wouldnt be hard for you. I feel sorry for your BF, he obviously can't trust you.
2006-10-18 17:49:44 · answer #4 · answered by Paul S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow your in a really tough situation. But first of all i would like to say if you really love and care about your bf you wouldn't flirt with his best friend and if his best friend is such a good friend he shouldn't allow you to flirt with him. You need to spend more time with your bf and less time with his best friend because that's really not right and if it seems like you want to be with his best friend y'all need to talk things over and get everything situated and if you feel like your going to hurt your bf if he was to find out, you should go ahead and break up with him before he gets hurt even worst.
2006-10-18 17:48:45 · answer #5 · answered by Katrina G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop talking to him. Because you don't want to come in between 2 guy. And if you are not happy with your bf, don't date the best friend. That's just wrong.
2006-10-18 17:48:33 · answer #6 · answered by jlyn1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need help, alright, but am not sure you will find it here. you really know what you need to do. STOP THE FLIRTING. you have to make a conscious decision to be faithful to your bf, or maybe you have to think about if you really want to be in that relationship at all. it's your choice. deal with it!
2006-10-18 17:47:25 · answer #7 · answered by baby doodle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you don't like your boyfriend enough. Maybe that is your mind's way of telling yout hat this guy isn't the right one for you. I wouldn't be too quick to dump the guy for his friend, though. It won't work. Most guys will pick their friends over a girl.
2006-10-18 17:45:26 · answer #8 · answered by harleychic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to explain to him that your not interested in him, and that his best friend is your bf and you don't want to ruin it.
2006-10-18 17:48:38 · answer #9 · answered by Party Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them both run a train on you at the same time. Your old man should slap you upside the head and kick your little ^%$#&$% *%&^ to the curb! S*&t
2006-10-18 17:46:37 · answer #10 · answered by drunkknucklehead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You like your boyfriend but lust after his best friend.
What eager, unable to please, selfish, always searching for a bigger and better deal, woman isn't like that?
I had a girlfriend like that once (key word = once.)
Taps fingers..... I can't wait until your bf stops being angry and MANS UP, then dumps you like a bad habit.
2006-10-18 17:55:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋