Check this out. My sister and her 2 kids have been living w/me for the past year. She hasn't done drugs since she's been with me. (She has a history of drug use) My sis has been doing good, and she's currently attending college. This morning I find her high as hell. So I told her that her kids can stay but she needs to leave my house for at least a week so that she can clean up. I told her that I'm not putting up with that crap. So she did leave and now I feel guilty. she didn't say where she was going, she just left. Did I make the right choice?
2006-10-18 10:33:47 · 13 answers · asked by sweet_truth 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think you did!! as long as there is away of her kids getting touch with her ove the next week i think ou did do the right thing.
Your doing agreat job and your sister has been doing geat till now hopeully she will see how wrong she has been and gets intouchin the next few days i think she well.
Good luck x xx x x
2006-10-18 10:38:58 · answer #1 · answered by Dharma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have sent her to a clinic where they help those with drug problems. Sending her away might only send her to those who do drugs which will not help her problem. When you hear from her or if you have any idea where she might be I'd have a talk with her. It sounds like she was really trying and just took a step back. I can understand with kids how you don't want that around but at the same time she's got to get help for her problem where they know how to treat the problem.
2006-10-18 18:19:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she leave the kids?
I don't think you made the wrong choice but... you might want to consider why she got high in the first place. Sounds like she has been doing well all of this time so evidentally something happened to set her off. Maybe you can help her solve the root of the problem. She needs to learn though that she can't be turning to pot everytime she has a problem.
2006-10-18 17:48:25 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very difficult to deal with a drug user and it is easy to get caught up in this enabling process especially when there are children involved and you feel for them. I think that you have many choices to make including whether your sister is sincere about wanting, even though it is difficult, to stop using drugs, whether you can get her professional help if she is sincere in stopping, and what to do about the children if she continues and does not sincerely wish to change. Drug addicts are not good for the children. You should not feel guilty about saying NO to something that is not in your, your sister`s or her children`s best interests. If she returns, please have a long conversation about this problem in a calm way and ask her is she wants professional help and if not take the necessary measures to ensure that the children receive professional help as children of adults with drug addictions and that you also receive support as a family of an adult with a drug addiction. Good Luck and my fingers are crossed that all turns out well for all of you.
2006-10-18 17:42:42 · answer #4 · answered by pre-pastor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you did make the right choice because your sister knows that you mean business. If you gave in then she'd probably just do it again.
It's normal to feel guilty but what you have done is definitely in the best interests of your sister AND her children. Well done you!
2006-10-19 13:14:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't feel bad she needs to realize that if she's not gonna respect you and her kids then she should leave, but don't just close doors on her talk to her and help her realize that she has a way out...
i applaud you because you did think of the children which are the most important, and remember you have to be strong for them, you really are a ANGEL in disguise p.s. don't make it easy for her don't give her too many options what about other family members???????????????
2006-10-18 17:53:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relapse is almost always going to happen. Its your house so she needs to respect your rules. Tough love works for some but for others it just pushes them over the edge. If she has been doing well then it might be a good idea to cut her some slack. Dont offer it to her let her ask. Good Luck.
2006-10-18 17:38:45 · answer #7 · answered by teenypurplebinky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you did make the right choice. She obviously has a drug problem. You should direct her to Narc-Anon and make legal arrangements for the kids custody.
http://www.na.org/index.htm
2006-10-18 17:37:48 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u feel so guilty u should call her cell- get her home and tell her that if u find her high again fill in the blanks- but i htink u made the right choice for her kids sakes
2006-10-18 17:37:35 · answer #9 · answered by cayla_152 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it was a loose-win situaution because you did the right thing for her kids and yourself....but now that you don't know where she is then she could be getting back into hte habit of getting high soo.....I think you should call her and get her home and talk to her about it.
2006-10-18 17:47:11 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋