Is it ok to buy the guy an engagement ring?

Question

Ok, I know the proposal is coming and me and him have talked about it many times. But I wanted to get him something in return. When the couple get engaged only the guy have proof of it not the guy. So I have already talked to him about it and he kind-of agreed that he would like an egagement ring too; that he would wear it proudly. But when do I give it to him should I what for him to propose like I know he is or give it to him as a promise ring for christmas?

Answer 1

If you give it to him before he proposes as a promise ring then it really isn't an "engagement" ring for him or it would be like you proposing to him. If that is the way you want it to go down then go for it but It would mean much more if you give it to him after he proposes. Make a special date out of it, make dinner, go somewhere special etc... so that it is memorable. Or you can go ahead and get the ring, wait until he proposes then go get the ring and say that you've been wanting to give this to him for awhile now....
Good luck.

My now husband and I did something similar. After he proposed (with a mood ring lol) we picked out our wedding bands together. I got a beautiful wedding set. I was able to wear the engagement ring part and put up the wedding band and then we picked out one for him. He wore his for the year we were engaged. About a week before we got married we took it in and got it cleaned and polished and used it in the ceremony for it to become his wedding band.

Answer 2

Women usually have an idea of what they'd like in an engagement ring. I personally would not want my man to buy an engagement ring at all as I already have mine. It's currently in my mother's possession, but it's my great grandmother's ring. That is the one I like and that is the one I want. It would be a waste of money for a guy to buy a ring that won't be wanted. At the most, buying a diamond in advance is one thing, because the style of the ring can be picked out later and the loose diamond can be set in that.

Answer 3

There is an increasing tone with men getting promise/engagement rings these days. My suggestion: I would purchase the ring and have it ready but wait until he does the asking and things are official. No matter whether you have talked about it, the future groom takes pride in being able to "pop the question" and sometimes makes it a special time by arranging things and themes just right. I wouldn't want to take that time away from the both of you by giving him a ring prematurely, even if you classify it as a promise ring. So, keep the ring on "hold" as you will until that time is right then you can present it to him just as fancifully as he did for you. Prayers and future congratulations =)

Answer 4

Why is it important for you to have him display that he's engaged? Are you worried that he's going to cheat or something?

Try this: get him a nice watch instead. You're already have to buy him a wedding band, so why waste money a ring he will NOT wear after the wedding?

I would skip the whole ring idea. He's a guy--don't force him to wear a ring just because you feel that you're obligated or are afraid that some girl will hit on him if he doesn't wear it.

Answer 5

I think thats a neat idea, but I have one question? What will he do with the ring once he has his wedding band? If you could figure out a way to fuse it in with his actual ring or if he would be willing to wear both rings afterward.... That would be my only reservation. As an alternative, you could always get him the "egagement watch" or maybe a necklace. You could always get him a signet ring with his initials on it that he could wear on his right hand after you get married. Either way, I think thats a really neat gesture! However, wait until you've got your ring before you give him his.

Answer 6

I don't know if that's a good idea. Let him propose to you first. Has he? What would be an engagement ring for a guy? the actual wedding ring? Engagement rings are really for woman which should tell you that it's you who needs one not him.

Answer 7

i would give him the ring right after he proposes! are you going to get him a wedding ring too? So then I guess he can wear the engagement ring on his right hand....unless it is really thin, then he can wear it the same way we do!! My husband and I talked about this too, before we were engaged and we agreed that if he proposed, I had to buy him a big screen TV!! I was smart enough to wait until after the weddin though, so our bank accts were already combined!! =0)

Answer 8

It is OK, but I suggest that instead of this you might want to instead get matching sweetheart rings. This ties the two of you together prior to the wedding by the ring set.

Whatever you do wait for him to propose and use your ring to him as your way "to seal the deal." If he doesn't propose you would be wasting your time by giving him a ring in advance.

Good luck on your life together.

Answer 9

Wait for him to propose. If you buy a ring for him before he proposes, you would be robbing both him and yourself of one of the most amazing experiences you will ever share. Let your guy take care of this one.
My buddies got married not too long ago and the guy wore his wedding ring several months before the wedding to get used to it. An engagement/promiss ring for a guy sounds kind of odd. I would recommend using his wedding band if you'd like.
If you really want to get him something nice, you could get him a nice watch. He'd probably like that better.

Answer 10

Sure, it sounds like a nice idea. I would wait for him to propose, and then go pick out his ring together. It will be a very special gesture. Congrats.