i am in a tricky situation!!!?? plz help?

Question

OMG, i asked this girl out that i really like and she said yes she would go out for lunch but then later when i planned it with her, she texted me" i would say yes but that would be leading you on and i think it would be better if we were just friends" i am friends with this girl and i was hopin one day she would be more than that but i didnt mean to pressure her!!!! what can i do now so she would still go out for lunch caus she is like the coolest person to hang out with

Answer 1

i would say: "why do you think i was asking you on a date??" I think it's kind of rude that she was assuming that you were wanting to date her when all you asked for was a simple lunch "hangout" so to speak. I'd put this all back on her...lemme know what happens!

Answer 2

Sorry bud, she doesn't see you as a boyfriend. Just a friend. There is absolutely nothing you can do to change her mind. This is why you don't take the friendship route if you want to date a girl. It is always better to ask a girl out and if it doesn't work, then become friends.

If I were you, I would appologize for putting her in this situation. Tell her you really value her friendship and don't know if you will meet a girl as cool as she is, and it was just an impulse. If she thinks you still want her like that and are trying to be more than friends, she will dump you like spoiled milk.

Answer 3

Well it is not like it is dinner, so you can still turn it into a friend's lunch.
Be really calm, let her know you appreciate her being honest and that you value your friendship with her. Tell her that is fine and that you would like a rain check on that lunch. After a couple of weeks, so that she sees your aren't mad or upset (ie act normal around her), ask her for the lunch.
Good Luck,

Answer 4

Don't pressure or ask her again. It will only make her uncomfortable and push her away. Be glad that she was honest enough to say I don't want to lead you on. Just keep being a good friend without trying to turn it in to a romance, and maybe someday she will see you as something more than a friend.

Answer 5

She pretty much let you know that she is not interested in you in that way. If you want to keep her as a friend, you need to respect that.
If you want to be honest with her, you could tell her that you think she is really cool, and that you could maybe see something more in the future, but that you enjoy having her as a friend. Keep it low key. Maybe she has never thought about you in that way before and it might take some getting used too.
If you think about it too much, you'll loose her as a friend.

Answer 6

Back off, act like it was no big thing, make sure she knows you are meeting other girls for lunch. The pressure will be off her and she may step up and want to reschedule that lunch date. (Think you can do that?)

Answer 7

get a bunch of friends to go to lunch together with alot of friends and make it a friends day out not a date

Answer 8

Just tell her that's fine with you and tell her even friends have got to eat so let's go out for lunch as friends. ;o)

Answer 9

ummm you need to listen to her dude after all she told you that she didnt want to leaad you on and that she only wanted to be friends so accept it or leave it but i wouldnt expect anthing more than that because ill bet you dont get it. communication is the biggest part of a relationship and she allready told you the answer so just open your ears and listen to the not so subtle clues

Answer 10

oops! looks like she wants to take it one step at a time! maybe she needs to think about it, but she definitely is not trying to play with your emotions.
on the contrary, she is trying to save u from a huge heartbreak. you see, she needs time to think, and she doesn't want to disappoint you because of her own indecisiveness. that's a great thing.
meanwhile, you need to be mature and let her know that your invitation is still standing-she can tell you if she changes her mind again, and not to worry, it's all cool.