What should I do? I been living with my parents since April. I have a 7 week old son?

Question

When I found out I was was pregnant I was living on my own. My parents invited me to come back home due to the fact that this is my first child. ThenI had my son and now they are mad because I named my son after his father instead of giving him my last name. Now they don't helo me with my child or anything like that. When we go to visit my child's father on weekends, it's ALWAYS something negative said. The reason we go there is because my car is in better shape than his fathers car. his father has been there for me since day one but my parents are getting on my nerves saying that he could come here to see us and all that. He's been coming here every since my son has been here and i been off work since August. Now that I'm able to leave the house I decide to goo to h is place since i'm well and all. but everytime I go, there's something said. They never help me out or anything. I'm 25 y/o and can make my own decisions. Help! I'm moving out. What do you guys think about this situation?

My father is EXTREMELY mad that I gave my son his father's whole name but I feel that that ws only right being that this is his ONLY son. He's so mad that he doesn't even deal with my child. i think that is wrong. If he's mad with me than he should take it out on me and not my son right?
He was the one who invited me back home. It's so bad that i'm online EVERYDAY looking for another job so I can get outta here. Am I wron or are they wrong? Serious answers please

I have a job and I've been on maternity leave. I go back tomorrow. When I say helping out, I mean watching the baby while I take a nap, do chores, etc. NOT financially. He has his father and I for that so please read the question THOROUGHLY! Thanks!

Answer 1

I think you should move, I got pregnant when I was 17 and have been on my own since, yes it's a struggle, but it's alot better than having to hear all the bullshit from your parents. Your old enough to make your own descisions and mistakes! :-)

Answer 2

Get married to him atleast for your child's sake. Or.

I say just stay with them. You got a 7 week baby and you can't manage alone and it is safer to be with your parents and you won't feel lonely.

It doesn't matter if they scold. They are your parents, don't they have a right. They have looked after you from the day you were born and fed you and clothed you and loved you. Noone loves a person like a parent loves a child. I'm 20 years and not a parent but I respect them. Imagine your son grown up and does something wrong or making a wrong decision in your eyes, wouldn't you tell him not to do it or would you think you don't have a right to decide your own son's life.

Good luck and hope you make the right choice and you and your baby are happy

Answer 3

I've been through that myself with my parents. It's time to move out and get your own place again. Sometimes, I believe that parents still tries to be controlling even when your an adult. Your parents are a little bitter. Question: Do you they like your sons father? Whatever you do, don't leave on bad terms. You will always need your family. Your parents are wrong for getting mad over your sons name. I did the same exact thing. My son is 8 years old now and they have gotten over it. Plus, it hard being under your parents roof and they have a problem with your decision regarding YOUR CHILD. GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 4

You maybe be 25 y/o and can make your own decisions, but so far you've made some pretty bad ones. Baby out of wedlock. No husband. No home. No job. Why not stop complaining about your parents and start complaining about this loser boyfriend who knocked you up?
I think you should put the baby up for adoption- obviously you're in no position to offer a stable, calm, secure homelife for a child-- and neither is your BOYfriend.

Answer 5

I think you are right you are old enough to make your own decisions and old enough to take care of yourself.. that's the problem with moving home though that is there house and they can say basically what they want you can let them know that it hurts your feelings .. if i were you would just move I'm sure they are only looking out for your best interest but 25 is a little old to be home with a baby

Answer 6

If the father of the child is financially responsible, and since (apparently) you are not married to each other; he should be legally registered and paying child support. I believe if that were the case, your parents wouldn't be as upset. Plus, if you and your baby's father are in a good relationship, then the both of you should build a home for your child together. Then your parents wouldn't have anything to say. JMO

Answer 7

time for you a change if you love your b/f and he loves you why don't you 2 get married and stop leaning and depending on your parent's for a roof over your head food to eat it is a sorry man that sit back and let someone else take care of the lady he love and his baby he need's to stand like a man and from what you said he is not carrying his part wake up lady it is not easy takeing in another family i think your mother did the right thing by asking you to come home while you were pregnant since it was your first child mother worry about their daughter's but now it is time for you to go for what you know

Answer 8

I know it may be tough, but your parents want what is best for you and your child. They probably feel as though, they took you in when you were in trouble and now they feel as though they are not a big part of your life anymore. I went through the same situation with my in-laws. We stayed with them after my son was born, even though we had our own place to live. We stayed with them for 6 months and still paid rent on our place. They felt as though they were helping out and wanted us to acknowledge it in a BIG way. Hang in there, it will get better. Have the dad let your parents know that he is there for the long haul!!! That will help a little, but eventually it will get better. Congrats on the new bundle of joy!!!

Answer 9

Sounds like you made a mistake (at least in your parent's eyes) and you can't figure it out yet.

If the father "has been there...since day one" how come you're still living with your parents, expecting them to be helping out, using their car, etc, etc, etc???

Sounds like your "own decisions" are a bit faulty for a 25 y/o.

Answer 10

If you are able to stay there do so. When you are able to leave then leave. From a fathers view I had rather you stay long as you feel welcome. I would ask that your do your part in the $$$$ that is needed to help with the house. It might not be in $$$ but chores will help.