My boyfriend had loads of friends and most of them are girls. However, there's on in particular that makes me jealouse. I know he doesn't have any interest in her and vice versa (they dated 10 years ago in highschool for a short while only) and they share a brother and sister relationship. I have no fear of her or him ever rekindling a relationship. However, she cooks for him, cleans for him, sorts out his house, and helps him with his problems. As his girlfriend, I try to do these things (except cleaning his house. I merely help tidy every now and then) but I feel as if she has a bigger role in his life thank I do. My relationship is seriouse and we plan to marry but I also understand this is one of his greatest friends and I would never stand in the way of their friendship. Yet, I'm jealouse because I feel she's better for him than I? Am I wrong to think any of this? What should I do if anything?
2006-10-18 10:00:56 · 19 answers · asked by catch22 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it's only natural to be jealous of your boyfriend's best friend with all that she does for him. She is like an extension of his family from the sounds of it. Just remember that before you came along, she was there and they probleby had their share of moments with tears and joy because he didn't have anyone to do that with. Now he has you and she's only doing for him what was second nature to her. Don't think that she's better for him than you are because after all you're the one with him aren't you?
2006-10-18 10:20:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be jealous too.
No matter what he needs her for, cooking, cleaning etc.
I would feel she is filling a need that I think should be mine.
Sex is not the only thing to be jealous about.
It seems they really have feelings for each other,
Whether it be friends or something else ,
I can't say because I don't know the details.
Yes , I definately would be jealous,
Maybe I'm just a jealous,selfish woman,
But when it comes to a man I love .
I want all, or nothing.
I couldn't handle another woman doing those things for -
My Guy !!!!
2006-10-18 10:14:48 · answer #2 · answered by eviechatter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I t sounds like what she does for him is very sisterly. I have a friend that I call my brother who I dated a long time ago as well. And my bf has a "sister" that he's known for about 5 years but never dated. These can be sticky situations. The best thing to do is to invite her somewhere like shoe shopping or to a movie. get to know her and let your judgment of character tell you whether or not you should be worried. If she isn't willing to ge tto know you or your bf doesn't want you to, then there might be something there. Good luck
2006-10-18 10:05:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand why you feel jealous, but it seems like it is your problem, not his. Maybe you need to talk to his friend and let her know how you feel. Let her know that her helping out is putting undue stress on you and that even though you appreciate everything she does for your boyfriend, you want to play a bigger role in his life and that it is hard to do when she is already playing such a big part.
2006-10-18 10:08:39 · answer #4 · answered by Brad NZ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You actually answered your own question. The reason you are jealous of her is because you have low self esteem. (You think she is a better match for him them you)
I have no idea how you tolerate this close "friendship" they have. Doesn't she have a bf of her own that she can cook, clean and chat with? How would your bf feel if you had a guy friend that fixed your car, balanced your check book and chatted with you about personal problems? I bet he would not tolerate it.
If I were you I would step out of the picture.
2006-10-18 10:08:21 · answer #5 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes...it is Natural..i would be just as jealous as you..but if you are that serious with each other than i think there is no reason to worry about that friend. Maybe you should show her that you can do all of these things that shes doing for him.
2006-10-18 10:06:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
but ur the one that got him right so u shouldn't worry. if she is like a sis to him then dont worry she is seppose to be a big part of his life. u should just be very trusting and try to do more for him. maybe u feel guilt cause she seems to do all the stuff ur seppose to do. just do it before she has a chance lol. try taking her place a bit and see if that makes u feel better.
2006-10-18 10:05:45 · answer #7 · answered by punk girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sitting in a theater..or on degree? in case you're basically gazing this then supply it time. it is an extremely previous drama and there are progams to study in case you % to stick to with them. in case you're on the degree, then you definately are being watched and additionally you certainly have a popular positioned up. What to do? permit it is. Time is the attempt of all issues. are you able to settle for the respond, once you have it? are you able to artwork the respond on your favour? seems such as you like them the two, what's the subject?
2016-10-19 23:07:25 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your insecurity here is understandable. Have you discussed this with him? Their friendship need not suffer because he's dating, but a chick that's playing mommy/wife for him, and isn't sharing his bed is kinda weird...
She's likely to be a stumbling block for y'all because of her wanting to take care of him...but then that does leave you to have him just for the fun stuff...maybe it's not such a bad deal after all. :)
2006-10-18 10:05:12 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should be jealous. She should be doing that stuff for her own man. But then again after your married she can be your house keeper!!!! Weigh the pros and cons.
2006-10-18 10:04:26 · answer #10 · answered by RedDreads 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋