because he was very abusive. i left to go to a womens shelter, because i didn't have any friends or family to turn to. i am suffering from anorexia and depression now, and i think it has to do with the way he always told me i was fat or ugly. any one have any tips on dealing with these issues?
2006-10-18 09:52:42 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
First of all, congratulations for leaving before you ended up dead. Abusive people only get worse.
Now get some counselling. The women's shelter may know of someone you can talk to. Calling you fat and ugly is common in an abusive relationship. You know deep down that you aren't, you just have to get your confidence back! Felling depressed is very normal when any relationship ends. It's okay to cry about it. You will feel better soon. Just talk to someone about it.
Start eating healthy meals, and do something nice for yourself. Maybe get a new hairdo, or get some new makeup,or even some nice smelling shower gel if your finances aren't up to spending much money. Just do something for yourself!
And next time, stay away from the guys who want to control you--that is usually the first stage of abuse.
Good luck to you!
2006-10-18 10:15:53 · answer #1 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to be the first one to tell you that you are a beautiful, wonderful woman and don't ever let a man tell you different. You are worth more than gold. You have so much to give because I know you have a kind. caring heart. There will be friends at the shelter you can help and by helping others you help yourself.
Remeber always that you are special in the eyes of the Lord who created you and no human can break your spirit. Okay?
Hand of J, you are very sweet.
2006-10-18 17:03:21 · answer #2 · answered by greylady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had anorexia for 5 years. i am STILL recovering! everyday will be a stuggle, i warn you, but i believe in you! as for depression, i think that meditating might help. for 10 minutes a day, sit cross legged and try to tune out EVERYTHING. all your thoughts, too. doing this comes with practice.
2006-10-18 17:06:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is you are letting men define who you are and what your purpose is in life.
Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like a man who looks at his face in a mirror and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. But the man who looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues to do this, not forgetting what he has heard, but doing it—he will be blessed in what he does. -James 1:22-25
Dont let men and the world define who you are, instead look to God for answers and find peace.
2006-10-18 17:03:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋