My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. Tomorrow is our 3year anniversary and I want to ask him to marry me. I'm so scared though. I don't want to get rejected. He is my soulmate. I love him with all my heart. I don't know how to go about asking him to marry me. I need help. I want things to go as good as they possibly can. We just got an apartment together although we have lived together for 3 years. I'm not totally sure what his answer will be. I hope it is yes. I need ideas. Are guys put off by girls that ask them to marry them? Are they more likely to say yes when a girl asks them? I need all the advice and ideas I can get on this subject. Thanks
2006-10-18 09:48:10 · 21 answers · asked by Wondering 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
After three years, I say go for it honey and ignore what everyone else is saying about give that man the chance- he has had PLENTY of time to ask you. If it were me in your situation I most likely would do something corny like have someone take a picture of me holding up a Will you marry me sign and a big ring made out of cardboard (you can always get him the real thing). I would get it developed at the 1 hour photo and buy a cute ring. When I got the picture in the frame I would put it in the freezer so it blocked the way (make sure the door closes). When the time was right I would ask him to get me a glass of water with ice in it. When he opens the freezer, I would come up behind him and tell him exactly how I feel about him and let him know that no matter what he is the one for me and if he would have you, from now until forever, you would want him as your hubby.
Romantic enough.
Good luck and way to go for stepping up to the plate!
If you are worried if he may say no, then change your wording to let him know that whenever and if ever, he is ready to get married, your answer will be yes.
2006-10-18 10:40:35 · answer #1 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy a blank card and write this on the inside:
A new place calls for new things,
New curtains, New towels,
New sheets for the bed
a pillow for the New wife to lay her head.
Its been three years sweetie
Will You Make Me Your Wife?
Now before you ask him this question you need to decide how important marriage is to you. In other words if being married is important to you are you prepared to leave if he says no.
and pay no attention to what people some people are saying, its the 21st century women can ask men.
2006-10-19 02:23:28 · answer #2 · answered by missnuarlens 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm planning on asking my ex-husband to marry me on what will be the tenth anniversary of the day we met. I have sent him an e-card he will get right when he gets home from work, saying "Let's "DO" all over again" Cheesy yes, but fits who we are. Then, I'm going to get our two children involved. Going to have my 7 year old son ask Dad if he would re-marry Mom, and going to have my 4 year old daughter hand him a memento from our first wedding. Might not help you, but you asked "how would you".
2006-10-18 16:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by stunner_mama 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A very close friend did this earlier in the year, they had been together for 5 years and it was obvious he just wasn't going to do it. He wanted to but just couldn't get up the nerve. She got on her knee's at a social event with friends and simply told him she loved him and wanted to be his wife, and would he marry her? They had a lovely wedding and are happier than I have seen them in 5 years. I guess in your case, it depends on why he hasn't made the first move.
2006-10-18 18:24:37 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
That's cute!! I plan to ask mine to marry me!! I see all these answers making it sound bad that you want to ask him because you're a woman. Now days women should ask men for things they want. Men have feelings just like women do. I asked the man I am with now out. He was thrilled and thought it was cute. I has asked my man if he would feel intimidated if I asked him to marry me, he asked me "Why do you plan to" I asked him if he'd reject me if I did, he told me no, he wouldn't be the least bit intimidated nor would he turn me down! As far as the proposal goes, I have plans for my own but I can't tell you because I haven't done it yet and he reads through yahoo answers.
2006-10-19 19:20:36 · answer #5 · answered by ladystarrchild107 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
WOW! You are brave!! I would assume he'd say yes, however, proposing is something some guys really look forward to sometimes... But I would just go for it if I were you, not really do anything all that fancy, maybe a candlelit dinner and just ask him then...and just tell him how you feel! Good luck!
2006-10-18 16:54:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would never ask a guy to marry me. As old fashion as it may seem hes supposed to be the one that gets down on his knees and asks you to marry him. You proposing to him may totally turn him off, and make him feel less masculine. Three years and he has yet to pop the question than you may be waiting another three years. Theres plenty of women that just sit and wait years and years for their boyfriend to propose to them. So you should bring the topic up and slip in the question of how does he feel about marriage. If he doesn't seem like he's into it than maybe you should think about other options.
2006-10-19 13:58:41 · answer #7 · answered by nefertiti186 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
NOOOO don't do it! You been dating for a while and he knows that thigs are going to get serious at this point. If you love each other, he will feel the same way as you. Maybe he woul dtomorrow... who knows? Id HIS job to propose, don;t set yourself up for hearache as you may put him on the spot and men are not goo dealing with emotions and feelings.
My advice to you is to way. Your anniversary is tommorow, Christmas is coming up , so is Valentine's day. It could happen during this time if you are both mature enough, have jobs and are financially viable. Don't spoil the moment by getting ahead of him.
Or wait until the next loop year. At least it's expected and acceptable.
Good luck
2006-10-18 17:12:30 · answer #8 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 5⤋
Here is my opinion. I beleive that couples should not live together until they are married. I know of a girl who lived with her boyfriend and they were planning on getting married, but he kept showing hesitation. Why should he get married if he is already getting sex, lives with the girl and has done everything else besides the paperwork for marriage. Those who live together before marriage have higher divorce rates. Move out and then see what happens. That's my opinion!
2006-10-18 16:59:11 · answer #9 · answered by Bubble Yum 2 · 1⤊ 5⤋
I say let him do the proposing! It's a guy's job! He'll enjoy doing it, and that way you need he's really seriously ready to get married (since it'll be coming from him)
okay, good luck
2006-10-18 21:23:56 · answer #10 · answered by Tania 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋