ok...i've always been in striaght relationships...(i am a women) but i've always been a bit curious about being with a women...so maybe that makes me bi curious....if your gf came to you and expressed this to you...how do you think you would react? i'm not sure if i should tell my man...or just dismiss the whole curiosity?
serious answers please....and no, the gbl section wouldn't really help me...because my man is striaght so i need an opinion from a striaght man...thanks again.
2006-10-18 09:33:08 · 34 answers · asked by tigerlily 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes you should tell your BF, this is a pretty major thing! It is not about a threesome, it is about finding out who you are!
I am bi, I have usually told most of my bf's or gf's right up front. That is part of who I am and anyone thinking of starting a relationship with me deserves to know that basic fact. I generally do prefer monogamous relationships though :)
I would like to tell you this story... When I was 18 I told my bf I was curious, not necessarily that I wanted to do anything about it, but that I am attracted to girls and I thought it was only fair that he should know. He said he wasn't sure how he would feel about me 'experimenting' but at least we could agree that if I did decide later that I wanted to, I would not go behind his back. So some time later we were hanging out with some friends playing monopoly, and I landed on this girl's property, didn't have enough money, and she said well, I'll let it slide if I get to kiss you, if that's okay with your man... he shrugged smiled & said something like, she's a grown woman, she doesn't need my permission to say what she can or can't do... now THAT is a man secure enough with himself, and secure enough with the relationship, to step aside and let me test my curiosity. And yes I enjoyed it (ended up kissing the girl several times that night) and guess what? I came home with my man that night just overwhelmed with gratitude for the fact that he could love me without restriction or possession or jealousy.
Anyway, the point is I realized, male or female, the MOST important thing is unselfish love!..... Sadly, lesbians tend to be more threatened by my attraction to men, than men are by my attraction to women. Therefore I personally find women more fun for once in a while, and men better for long term relationships. :)
2006-10-18 10:14:27 · answer #1 · answered by zmj 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
9 out of 10 guys fantasize about that. Tell him you are thinking about it and are worried he won't approve. You have a 10% chance he won't support it.
IF you do, set ground rules for what he can do and he can't do. How would you feel if he was banging some other chick right there in front of you? Just think about all situations and what you are ok with. He'll probably be ok with just watchinig, now that I reread your question you didn't mention anything about a 3-some. Ok, um, if you are open to letting him watch sometimes and don't hide it from him, he is more likely to be ok with it. but sneaking around is sneaking around, regardless of the person's equipment.
2006-10-18 09:39:28 · answer #2 · answered by tightlies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok. I'll give it what I got. I've always been in straight relationships. You blame me though I'm a guy! I think that he'd be only ok with it as long as he get's some from this other woman as you do. As long as he's cool enough to handle the routy sex to handle two's and three's, he could verry possibly be ok with it. But I don't know his type of personality eather, and yes we aren't all *** holes. Especially if he's got a sweet sensative side to him that you may not even know about. He could just be ok with you doing it with her, but then it's technically cheating and if he's not gay, then he might decide to sleep with other woman, unless he get's it from the both of you. Then again it all does depend on the scource. If you dismiss the whole curiosity, that is, if you don't believe it is right. That'd mean that you are totally straight and you just want to try and have a few small situations, with anouther female, so you can see what it is you like? Personally, I believe it's everyone's decision to make on their own, and I don't think people are born with it, but believe that people impact it and, I honestly can say I believe it to be wrong, and kind of adorable, at the same time. If he doesn't like that you may want other girls, he may just find anouther girl himself.
2006-10-18 09:48:14 · answer #3 · answered by Skylerd murtle 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you were my g/f and expressed an interest in being with another chick 'cause you're curious, I'd say, "Sounds cool baby. Just make sure she ain't no 300 pound sweat hog." Then on the night of your "date," I would leave the house and conduct an inspection of the girls at HOOTERS.
Before leaving, I would appreciate being introduced to her or at the very least having you take a photo of your bi-date.
2006-10-18 09:45:36 · answer #4 · answered by Ozz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm married, so that's out of the question. However, back in the ol' single days....
Seriously, a lot would depend on my plans for any future with said gf--if it was just a casual relationship, then yeah, um, OK! If, on the other hand, I/we had intentions of someday settling down and marrying, I'd be pretty freaked out.
2006-10-18 09:42:11 · answer #5 · answered by Trollbuster 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok it really depends on your bf . He might be the sensitive kind who knows that you might be a little confused or he might be Ignorant and say like some have said and imply a threesome. if this is the case then dont do it because if your really interested then this isnt the way to figure out if your into girls.
Hope that helps :)
2006-10-18 09:38:35 · answer #6 · answered by The Beautiful Ordinary 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If my wife seriously came to me and expressed a desire to have a go with another woman, I'm pretty sure I'd say yes. Let's face it, at least she's being honest with me and if she really wants to do it, it's gonna happen whether I know or not.
The one thing I don't want to do is have threesome with her and a friend because I've done it more than once in my younger years (not with my current wife) and found it less enjoyable than one on one.
2006-10-18 09:38:21 · answer #7 · answered by vwhobo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, that to me would be a sign that her love for me is (or may be) over. She is considering other people, and it doesn't matter to me if it's male or female.
You can't just be curious, you have to find yourself, take time to think it over because along the way you could hurt people...the guy you love, or the girl you try to have affections with (and possibly find out it could be a mistake).
On the bright side, if you do figure things out for sure then it could be awesome for you and you partner. Whether it's the current one or...well, you know.
Good luck.
2006-10-18 09:41:04 · answer #8 · answered by endrshadow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that everyone is bisexual to some extent. either as little as 2% or as gay as 70%. it doesn't matter. it is totally healthy and normal to be curious about the same sex. i would be fine with my gf telling me about this. i prefer open relationships. the thing is, i don't know your bf, so i wouldn't be able to tell you about how he would react. if you 2 are used to honesty in the relationship, then feel free. he'll probably think it's pretty sexy anyway. ( i would!)
2006-10-18 09:38:23 · answer #9 · answered by Q 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in an honest relationship....the reaction would be the same as saying you want to experience another man.
If you are both open to that then... float your boats and have fun.
Remember, great relationships grow together over time!
2006-10-18 09:36:09 · answer #10 · answered by on2try 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋