my problem is i am not feeling maternal at all. whaen people ask me about my pregnancy i do not feel to talk about it. i dont like any one touching my stomach and saying nice mushy stuff, it gets me annoyed. i am worried if i will love my baby as i did my first. i dont know if love can be equall yet still abundant.
2006-10-18 09:32:45 · 9 answers · asked by jillane j 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Your hormones are messed up! So the side affect you get are weird some times! Some get depressed, some get angry and some experience other reactions... Try to relax and enjoy your pregnancy! I'm sure you will love the little one when that time comes! :)
2006-10-18 09:46:24 · answer #1 · answered by Angelina 4 · 5⤊ 3⤋
well first of all, how do you feel about having another baby? maybe your really angry at the father of the baby, not ready for another child, having problem or had problems with the first child your afraid will happen again with this one, or maybe it's causing stress on you, your relationship with the father, your family, your job, money problems, or just the changes it's bringing into your life. maybe it's hormones or other pregnancy symptoms that's bothering you such as gaining weight. maybe you just dont like the attention it draws from people since it's definitely not something you can hide or forget about. sometimes women are upset that they cant enjoy things like alcohol, smoking, smaller clothes, or extreme exercise. and for some women being pregnant once is enough that they dont want to go through it again even if they still want more children. basically ask yourself these questions and find out what's really bothering you. then find healthy ways to deal with the issue(s). definitely talk to someone like your doctor, friends, family, spouse, and/or other mother's that have dealt with the same problem. the baby could be affected by what the anger is doing to your body because there's a natural chemical reaction that occurs due to your emotional state so being happy and healthy during the pregnancy is very important. i hope this helps, good luck, and congratulations!
also, if you watch sex in the city you might know about the episode where miranda didnt feel good about her pregnancy until she finally felt the baby kick. give it time (:
2006-10-18 09:54:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're have a new baby, which will bring with it a new love for that child. I hated it too when people rubbed my stomach without invitation! Some idiots just can't help themselves. Your feelings are normal. Enjoy the time with your firstborn now, since this special time will change forever once lil brother or sister comes along!
2006-10-18 09:41:33 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. Strain 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, your emotions are on overload. Stop worrying, that only adds to the pack! The way you feel now has nothing to do with how much you love your child. When your baby is born, you may feel in love instantly, or it may take a while. This has nothing to do with how much you ACTUALLY love your child. You don't have to share the love you already have for your first, your "heart gets bigger".
2006-10-18 09:46:12 · answer #4 · answered by Daisy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunny, i am on baby number three so i think i can tell you that loves expanda to fit in everybody. as far as feeling angry. yep normal. moodiness and constant aggravation is totally okay to feel. frankly, there are times i want to tell my boiyfriend to get the hell away from me because he is being too nice. i just want to be left alone. it's normal to feel edgy as well. and as far as worrying about not being maternal enough, the fact that youare worried i a good sign.
2006-10-18 09:59:46 · answer #5 · answered by Donna L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not everyone does feel maternal.i dont think people realise how invasive touching someones "bump" can be. i was always amazed at how people thought it was ok to touch mine when i was pregnant.... they wouldnt normally.i worried i wouldn't love my son the same as my daughter but i do. i was very emotional with my second pregnancy... i cried at the adverts with the andrex puppy for heavens sake(not sure why)i got angry with my husband for silly things... i felt as if i wasnt me for a long time, and to be honest i kind of resented being pregnant. i thought i was abnormal. luckily i had a great midwife who talked to me all the time reassuring me i wasnt going mad. i adore my two kids very much although i love them differently... hard to expain what that means but it makes sense to me!!! try not to be too hard on yourself and you'll get there.. promise xx
2006-10-18 09:44:53 · answer #6 · answered by kazzy3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to ur Doctor...I understand about the touching ur stomach part. It just gets old and on ur nerves. Could be hormones...
2006-10-18 09:38:32 · answer #7 · answered by LeeLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear never feel angry this is something from God.
You are BLESSED
I would tell people I was Blessed to be this way
2006-10-18 15:39:09 · answer #8 · answered by hayeslf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey-you're hormonal! Wait it out. If you find that when you see your new born baby you feel the same way,...then seek counseling...but not b4
2006-10-18 09:41:09 · answer #9 · answered by charlie21205 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋