My 2 Yr.old son is mean to other kids and talks back to family members and friends,and very defiant HELP!?

Answer 1

He's 2. That's what happens at 2. Punish him appropriately and with means that you believe in. If that's time out, restricting his TV time, restricting his play time, grounding him to his room, or a swat on the butt, whatever will get him to realize that there is a consequence to his actions.

Get in a playgroup with other mommies and talk to them in person about him. They will know him and can comment on it with experience. Good luck to you!

Answer 2

I am going to tell you the problem may not be your son's. It just might be your parenting style or the lack of parenting. Sorry if that stings but the truth hurts sometimes.
I have raised 2 sons and was always worried about what has been dubbed as the "terrible twos." But it was the threes that my wife and I had to deal with.
Children have a tendency to mimic what they see and hear at home. If you and your spouse argue a lot and talk back to one another than he will do the same. So changing you own habits may be the way to change your sons.
If this is not the case then I suggest that you change your style of discipline. I do not condone beating a child as one person has suggested that you do but I do beleive in spanking a child. There is a right and loving way to spanking a child. So many times I hear people tell their children that "if you don't stop I am going to do ________". You can fill in the blank. They keep repeating themselves over and over untill it becomes a game with the child. I suggest that you read a book that is highly acclaimed by Dr. James Dobson titled "Bringing Up Boys" and it can be found on ether www.christianbook.com or at www.focusonthefamily.org. and most bookstores. eg Life Way Stores, Barnes and Noble and Books a Million.
Keep in mind that there are differences in the genders which means there are different needs for boys than girls. I can't tell you how to raise a daughter because I have never had one but I feel that I am some what of a pro when it comes to boys I have made my share of mistakes but I raised 2 God fearing youngmen that are a blessing to their mother and I.

Answer 3

It isn't unusual for a child this young to be exhibiting all these behaviours. At age 2, children are beginning to test their boundaries and limits. Also, sharing is a concept that is totally foreign to them. And even if something doesn't belong to them, should they touch it, it is suddenly theirs. They don't understand differently. Now is the time when you, as a parent, must assert yourself, and do it quickly before your 2 year old is a 4 year old! I can't stress enough how much easier it will be for you to gain control of the situation now. Firstly, being mean to other children isn't abnormal, but your son needs to learn that being mean equals being disciplined, talking back equals discipline, and being defiant equals discipline. I am not against spanking a child, but I do believe strongly that if you control the situation properly, you should NEVER have to spank.

When dealing with your son, please remember that at 2, his understanding of the world around him is very limited, as well as his ability to comprehend the lessons that you are trying to teach him. The next time that he is mean to another child, get onto his level and firmly tell him 'No! You do not *hit that child* (or whatever action he just took). If he does it again, you repeat your last statement, and this time tell him that he will be 'timed out' if he does it again. If he does it again, don't even speak to him. Take him and put him in time-out for 2 minutes (1 minute for each year of age). The same method works for most behaviours that you want to change.

Remember, children often act out to get attention. A good idea is to evaluate your own behaviours in that regard and see if you are giving your son the attention he needs when he's 'being good'. Quite often, parents forget to give the attention that's deserved for good behaviour. Good luck to you!

Answer 4

He needs to be disciplined every time he has a behaviour problem. He is 2 and he is testing boundaries but it's your job to show him where they are! He does need his butt spanked when he is mean. If you do it now you wont have to when they get older. I have a 8 and 9 year old and the last time I spanked either of them they were about 4 years old. Once you teach them what is right and what is wrong, they stick by it. At least you're not ignoring the problem like it's going to go away.

Answer 5

Ok i watch my cousin who just happens to be two... i dont think spanking a child is the answer just for the fact they learn by example so we are just teaching them its ok to hit... i learned with my cousin that if you explain to him what he did wrong oput him in the corner for two minutes three at the most then explain again and make him apologize to the person he was mean to he learns quick what he did was wrong... if he is talking back tell everyone to ignore him and he will quit doing it... my cousin is still learning but this was the only way i could get him to actually learn wrong form right it works well... if you are for spanking do it but i just sugest not doing it cause your son is learning by the example....

Answer 6

Welcome to the terrible twos!

This is the time when your child is beginning to learn about their world and their independence (or dependence) in this world. It is a very trying time for all parents, but a very necessary one for your child. You didn’t say if your child was still taking naps or not, but my suspicion would be that “Junior” is tired and acting out. If he’s not taking naps (or refuses to take naps), insist on 30 minutes to 1 hour of “quiet time” each day.

For “quiet time”, he must lay in his bed quietly with one book or one toy. If you can hear him from another room, then he is not having “quiet time”. You will probably find that he ends up taking a short nap and his “attitude” will improve. If he doesn’t nap, the quiet time will help him cope with the rest of the day and it will give you a short break.

You could talk all day and all night to your child about what they should or should not do, but children learn by example. This is a case where “do as I say, not as I do” does NOT apply. In order for your child to show love and respect, he must see love and respect practiced daily. Lead by example!

When your child is out of control, you need to help him get back in control and fast – before someone else gets hurt. The first line of defense at this age is to distract your child with another activity. If he is hitting another child, offer him a pillow or a doll to hold. Tell him that he can hold the pillow or the doll until his mad feeling goes away and he is ready to play with the other child.

If he is too worked-up to hold the pillow or the doll, you could put him in the corner for a “time-out”. Time-out is generally one minute for each year of age. For your 2-year-old, you would put him in time-out for 2 minutes. When my children were this age and I needed to use a time-out, I put my kitchen step stool facing the corner and told them to sit on the stool until it was time to get up. They will fuss and fume about being in the corner, but gently and firmly make them sit until they have completed their time.

If your child is too worked-up to sit in the corner for a time-out. Gently and firmly take him to his bedroom, and close the door. Tell him that he can come back out when he can be with everyone else. He will throw a fit, scream and probably try to open the door. Gently remind him that he isn’t over feeling mad yet, and he needs to stay in his room until he can be with everyone else – even if “everyone” is just you.

The basic premise behind all of these ideas is for you teach him self-control by exerting external control. You need to continue practicing external control until your son has grown enough to exercise his internal controls. This is an extremely important step in his development and if you don’t get a handle on it now, you could face years of heartache and disappointment because your son will expect to get his way by hook, crook or force.

Good luck!

Answer 7

u need to learn how to disipline ur kid better. tell him no dissert or lock him up in his room for about an hour that usually works. but i cant stand people that dont know how to tell their kids to shut the **** up!

Answer 8

Kids that age tend to act out what they see elsewhere.

Answer 9

you give him a good ol a s s whippin and put the fear of god in him

Answer 10

WHY DON'T U JUST BEAT HIS A S S!!!!!