Do I have a reason to worry?

Question

Do I have a reason to worry?
I asked this question yesterday. And people who answered my question think I snooped. But I didn't. I found an email address in my fiances room when I was watching a DVD in his room. It was in the table next to the keyboard by his computer. It was visible. The email address was unusual. So I went to my house to check on it. When I did a reverse email search it belonged to a woman in England. But he has never been to England. I haven't asked him about it. He didn't realize that the email address was visible. But when he noticed it he hid it under the keyboard in front of me. Three weeks ago I found a phone number on top of his dresser. It didn't have name on it. So I went home and blocked my number and called that number. A woman answered it. I asked her if she was married and she said yes she was. I have not asked him about it either. Because I don't want to ruin our relationship. And I love him to death. He promised me he would never leave me and he loves me to death.

Answer 1

It seems like you're looking for reasons. Stop being so paranoid.

Answer 2

First, you said you found the number on top of the his dresser with no name on it. Maybe he left that number out with no name on it as a trap to see if you trust him, and maybe the number belonged to a friend or a co-worker that agreed to help him out. Now so far as the e-mail not sure sounds a little fishy, but if you can't trust him then you don't need to be with him. Things will only get worse if you too get married and have no trust a relationship is built on trust and if you can't trust him you don't need to be with him. You need to sit don't with him and talk to him and say "Hey we need to talk about some things." Then ask him about then phone number and e-mail address. Give him room to talk and let him give you his side of the story. Another key point to a relationship is commutation between the two of you. If he story sounds far fetched then just tell him say I love you and I don't want to get hurt so that's why I am asking you these things and not just assuming god knows what. Hopefully he is a understanding guy and says OK I'm sorry I didn't mean to have it hidden or anything blah blah blah....Just try to talk things out before you assume the worst cause not all guys are bad.... I hope you get this resolved with him and best of luck hunny.....

Answer 3

I don't think I would call that snooping at all, obviously by him hiding the email after he realized it was visible shows that he has something to hide. Just ask him about it, I mean you did check it out, and you did check the number, so face him with this. I think you were justified it what you did.

Answer 4

You're scared of confronting him?

That tells me that you are fairly young, possibly younger than 20. You are still in the mindset that a fight means that your relationship is over.

Don't snoop around trying to find out what's going on. Instead of avoiding the obvious, just ASK HIM! It's not going to ruin anything if you express your concerns. If you don't express your concerns, you are going to be miserable with a lack of trust.

My advice? Take a step back and breathe. Maybe this is JUST a friend? You need to be secure enough in your relationship. You're going to be in for a HUGE surprise after getting married when nothing changes.

Answer 5

Trust and communication are both very important in a relationship. If you are concerned, talk to him about it. If it is something innocent, then it will make you stop worrying, and if it isn't, then at least you know, and then you can decide together what needs to be done about it. You could maybe start by saying that you didn't mean to snoop, but...

Good luck, I wish you the best.

Answer 6

You say you wer not snoopping, but you took the email address home and searched for the user.

If you have to check up on him then you don't trust him. Dump him

Answer 7

Yes you do.This woman is somebody he knows or he has contact with her. You have to find out who she is and what is her business with him? Maybe they are on line friends . but phone number ? they call each other . was this woman in UK? where is she? you have a mysterious fiance and he is not completely honest with you.I don't know about what but he needs to tell you what he is up to if he really loves you. If he is honest ,,, you should not be worried but if he is not then you should not get marry.

Answer 8

wow...thats big...you guyz are engaged,and i cant believe you havent confronted him about it....its normal to want to protect yourself and i would have done the same thing....but i would have asked more to the woman like....hello are you dating or messing around with my fiance,,,you dont have to be a b itch about it but you need to know...was the number a local number...or the same person in england??? either way it was a women you dont know to be a previous friend of his right? so ask hunny....you have all the right , even if he is talkin to someone on-line that is cheating! and why would he hide the e-mail address if there wasn't something to be hidden along with it?!?!?!? sounds fishy to me.

Answer 9

I guess by now you know that he is a player! The think is you should let him know what you know! Why can't you and him just be friends, he is not going to be faithful to you. he has not finished playing around yet! You need to get this sorted, so you can have peace of mind!

Answer 10

my take........ trust him. If you love some one yopu give him your all. Im not saying close your eyes, we should all keep an eye on our surroundings and our loved ones. no reason to go all crazy chic because he may have a female friend. just lay low and watch. if you find panties in his jacket pocket then get all crazy, e mail seems like no big deal.