my and this guy have been friends for about a year (not like best friends...just friends)
i like him
everybody @ my school thinks that we would be perfect for each other
i'm shy and am scared to ask him out
1)humilation factor
2)i dont know how i would tell my parents if we did go out (they aren't really in to the whole "dating" thing
PS
i am 13
2006-10-18 09:19:41 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Slow down! Wait a few years. You are to young for a boyfriend. You need to focus on school. The only thing you need to do is talk to your girlfriends. You might can have a school boyfriend that's it.
2006-10-18 09:29:08 · answer #1 · answered by Still_21_nheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 13... Well... I don't know what to say. Dating isn't that important at such a young age, but if you really like him, tell him. You can't know if he likes you back unless you tell him. Don't worry about the humiliation cuz there won't be any. If you two are good friends, and he wants to stay that way he'll let you down gentley. We've all been there. But if you do start dating, just please stay away from getting too serious. Things like sex aren't necessary for a relationship. Remember that. It's about how you feel, not what you do. You're young and I'd hate for you to ruin your life.
And try and have a talk with your parents. Mine were the same way. I wasn't allowed to date until I was 16 unless the dates were supervised. But there's a difference between dating and having a boyfriend. There's a title and there's the doing. So talk to your parents about why they're uncomfortable about the whole thing and see if you can't work out a compromise.
Good luck and be safe. :)
2006-10-18 16:29:33 · answer #2 · answered by StarlightRedemption 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you have said, I would ask yourself "Why am I dating?"
I am 24 and this is a question I have to ask myself every time I get the chance to go out on a date. I have ended up in some bad relationships because I did no ask myself this question as well as some others, but In your case I think this is perhaps the most relevant question to ask.
Another thing I would suggest is talking to a pastor or youth leader, and also your parents. Whichever parent you feel most comfortable with. Oftentimes our perceptions of what our parents think can be incorrect. At the worst, you will know what your parents really think about you dating at your age. If they are not crazy about the idea, then you might be able to get an idea of when you would be allowed to date. For example, I was not allowed to date until I could drive (which upon relfection I think was a really good idea. I would hate to have told a girl that my mom and i would pick her up at 8. How embarassing! LOL!).
At any rate, good luck.
2006-10-18 16:26:01 · answer #3 · answered by geohauss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
13 is too young. If your parents are not into the whole dating thing, then you probably wont ever get to see him anyway. Maybe you should just stay friends. Boys are a headache sometimes!! Just hang out with your friends and have fun. You have plenty of time for boyfriends.
2006-10-18 16:24:11 · answer #4 · answered by kittykatmendez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its better to ask him out and deal with the humiliation than to keep your feelings inside and get hurt when he's with someone else. Tell your parents its the year 2006 and If they still dont let you tell them you know you are old enough to make your own decisions.
2006-10-18 16:25:16 · answer #5 · answered by shelbykittygirlie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey no worries just ask your parents if they did the same thing (i would put money on it that they did or tried to but got SHUT DOWN) which i'm sure you won't because your better looking then them. Its all about confidance ask him to go to a movie just the two of you after listening to the world's greatest by R. Kelly. It helps with confidence.
2006-10-18 16:24:34 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Primetime 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 13, too. I am having the same problem. I think that you should start flirting with him to see if he's interested. I like this guy too and I flirted with him and I think he might be interested. You have to let him know that you are interested in him, first. Just don't act like you won't survive without him.
2006-10-18 16:27:57 · answer #7 · answered by Meme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should wait a few years for dating somebody, you will find plenty of guys in next few years, if you like this guy just ask him out. worry about parents once becomes your b'friend
2006-10-18 16:24:17 · answer #8 · answered by Jinha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not too young.evryone at my school is dating lol well i don't really know what to tell you...maybe you should just like ask him out and if he says yes then go out w/him and if he says no then just say you were playing a joke and you just wanted to know what he would say.idk if that helped.
2006-10-18 16:24:09 · answer #9 · answered by tres 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are to young to even be thinking about going out with a boy.
2006-10-18 16:21:56 · answer #10 · answered by sweet tee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋