How can I get over a player?

Question

I know he played with my heart, but i just can't get who he "was" out of my head. How do I get over the idea of him?

Answer 1

i think after time, we forget the bad and only remember the good and idealize those "oh so great" memories. Remind your self your are lying to yourself. I'm sure he wasn't that great. Remember his bad qualities. Like deceiving? tricky, uncaring? Occupy yourself with other dates and guy friends. when you are busy on a date you can't think and obsess over another guy, right. Also, its a bruise to your ego and that's why you obsess. That's why the play him back works, too. hehe! play or be played -jk- kinda

Answer 2

It is sooo hard. I was played once myself by a man I thought was the most beautiful, sexy, attractive guy I had ever laid eyes on. It was only a 6 month relationship and I took me over at least a year and a half before I could even acknowledge another male. I wanted him to love me so bad it hurt. He burned me so bad, I still have feelings of hate, betrayal, sadness every time I remember it. Ackkkk if only I wasn't so stupid as to let myself get in so deep. The lesson I learned is that you have to try so hard not to get bitter after wards, its been over 4 years and I still struggle with the distrust.

Answer 3

yeah im going through the same thing right now..its awful cauz you wonder why you can never move on from them and you keep going back to thinking their meant to be with you or somethnig. but its wrong. you've got to fight it. im not totally over it..but ive gotten a lot better. you've got to keep busy with your life and just know that being with them is not better. i always have as much fun doing things as i possibly can...like i dont think ive ever enjoyed life this much before and its all cauz of him. its kinda weird i actually use him as making myself stronger and happier..cauz if i can get over him..i can get over anything. and by the way almost all guys are assholes...and now you know what you really want in a relationship..its kind of funny if a guy even thinks about asking me out hes gunna have to treat me like a queen or he wont ever get me. that fact that hes done all these things to me has made me so much better and i know i deserve so much! and so do you! so i hope ive helped xoxo

Answer 4

Same as you get over anyone else...Time. Busy yourself with other things...don't beat yourself up for being played, but learn the lesson(s) of this experience and look for the signs and red flags in the future that may help you avoid a repeat experience.

Answer 5

Start dating new pple,Reading also plays a part.Talk it over wit him let him know he hurt u.Talk 2 god and ask him 2 help u try 2 forgive and forget that youngman.Than,Go out and live ur life.There's other fishes in the sea babi!

Answer 6

The best thing to do in a situation like this is to make sure you have enough distance between the both of you. Cut contact and remember the things about him that hurt you. Oftentimes we find ourselves remembering the goodness of a person, even after they hurt us. But in this situation, time WILL heal. Believe in that, and focus on yourself.

Answer 7

you probably saught love in him He was probably very loving and kind to you. He made you seem like you were the only one in the world to him that even mattered. Well there is no way to get over the ideal of him. This is because in your mind this is the perfect ideal. But there is a way to get over him. Find some one who will truely love you. Find some one you can trust. I know it sucks to hear this but you will find ssome one in time.

Answer 8

Um...Just do you. Do things that make you happy and keep your mind occupied. You've passed a major step- realizing he was a player and he had no intentions on being true and real. Don't trip, Skip! You're stronger then you realize, and in time, it won't hurt as much. Live and learn!

Answer 9

You make a choice to control you thoughts. Stop thinking about him. "Waaa, it's so hard"- so what? You control your thoughts, you get busy with other things, you get hobbies, you do fun things, you control your thoughts and you just stop until one day you don't even remember him.
PS People can't play with your heart unless you let them. You knew he was a player, didn't ya?

Answer 10

Time heals everything. As women (& some men), we all go through a similar phase. Ask yourself, what are you missing from this player? Once you identify it, get it from a righteous man who wants to belong to only you!!! Good luck!