Help?!!!!!!?

Question

I was talking on the phone to a friend of mine, who is having some problems with her mother in law and I made a comment about how my mother in law and I don't always get along either. So I was explaining to her a situation where we had butted heads. Well little did I know my mother in law was on the other phone and heard every word I said. She said that if I continued to bash her I would find myself no longer married. I know I brought this on myself and feel completely horrible about it. I have apologized to her and wrote her a letter explaining to her my feelings. I don't want their to be bad blood between us and I can't talk about this to my husband because he is overseas. Please help me!!

Answer 1

sweetie, i think you did the right thing by trying to talk to her and trying to work things out.. give it some time shell come through and accept the apology.... whenever you get the chance to talk to your husband just explain it to him so that way he at least can hear your side of the story.... hope you the best of luck...

Answer 2

First I am going to suggest that you write, call or e-mail your husband. I think if you have a strong marriage he should be the one you should talk to about his mother.
Second if you do have a strong marriage your mother-in -law should not have the power to end your marriage to her son.
Third I am guessing that ether your mother-in-law was in your home listening to your private conversation or you where in her home using her phone. In ether case she should have respect for you not to be listening in on your phone conversation.
I think that you have done the right thing by trying to apologize to her. After talking to your husband I suggest that if your mother in law was in you home that you explain that you expect a certain amount of respect from her and that in exchange you will refrain from sharing the past difference you have had with your friends. If you where in her home I suggest that you refrain from using her telephone.
But still the best thing is to share this with your husband. Because as your husband it is his job to respect you and protect you from harm even if the danger is his own mother.

Answer 3

First of all, don't feel bad. You were trying to help a friend and your mother-in-law was eavesdropping. She was totally in the wrong for doing that. Secondly, only your husband can decide that he's no longer going to be married to you. His mother had no business threatening your marriage either. It sounds to me like she's the only one who should be feeling bad right now.

Answer 4

Did you say anything that was not a fact? then do not worry about it. But it was good of you to try and apologize to your Mother-in-law. Just tell your in-laws, I an my husband does not need this tension, and hostility, in our family right now, if I hurt your feelings, I am sorry, please let us try and be better friends, and move on, and try and make this a happy family!

Answer 5

Dear lord, mother in laws are horrible everywhere. My mother in law do not see eye to eye on a lot of things but she wouldnt snoop in on my phone calls. In all seriousness, she probably had her feelings hurt because they see themselves as the perfect woman for their sons. Its sick sounding but its true. I am forever dealing with a mother in law who wants me gone. But its not up to her on the status of your marriage. Its not like you were on the phone just bitching about her. Nobody has the perfect relationship with their in laws.
You have done all you can. Just let her calm down. It will pass and things will be better. Just tell your husband there was a disagreement but you are working on making it better. If she drags him in the middle of this then you can jump in and defend yourself. He married you dear, not his mom.

Answer 6

Does she really have the ability to cause you and your husband to get a divorce? I hope not cause then you really have a much larger problem. I was in a similar situation for years with my ex wife and mother. It sucks to be in the middle but nothing got better until I stood up to my mother for my wife. Tell your husband, see if he can talk to her for you, I was over seas too and it didnt affect me getting the mission accomplished. Good luck, and god bless your husband for serving!

Answer 7

whats she ganna do i mean she can't force you guys to get a divorce and if she can why would you wanta momas boy. Alot of people can't stand their mother in laws mostly because the in law thinks you are trying to steal her baby. Try taking her out to eat find some things you have in common with her and exploit that to its fullest. It would make ur life alot easier if you could become friends with her.

Answer 8

You have done all you can its now up to your mother-in-law she is the one more in the wrong as far as i can see she should not have been listening to your calls. I think you should talk to our hubby about this as he should not be kept in the dark about family stuff.
I did not get on with m mother-in-law until about a year ago we get on great now and thats down to me tlking to her and my hubby about ho i felt.

Good luck hunny xx x x x

Answer 9

I think you did everything you could. You explained yourself and apologized. If she won't accept your apology, that's her problem. Don't let her hold it against you. You shouldn't be feeling bad!

Besides, she can't break up you and your husband! That's ridiculous!

Answer 10

Oh dear!
Well, for what it's worth, she sounds like a beeottch for threatening your marriage, WHAT THE HECK IS SHE GONNA DO?? I have a MIL that I love but can't stand some times, but that's life, tell her to get over it!