my dad is mentally and physically abusing me and harrassing me and my mother. He wont leave us alone. i live with my mom, but my dad had legal custodial custody of me. He threatens if i dont go with him this weekend that he will show up at my house with cops and papers
2006-10-18 09:02:24 · 35 answers · asked by tjhooker3000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
write to or call any one who is in the government or police
2006-10-18 09:04:34 · answer #1 · answered by ilessthan3larry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Social Services should be called immediately and emphasize that this is an emergency situation. You say you live with your mom, but your dad has legal custody. Technically, it can be said that he has forfeited his custody agreement if he was granted total physical custody and you do not live with him. Do you have proof (school records, documents regarding you that are mailed to your mom's home)? If he is getting any kind of public funding based on the fact that he is the custodial parent, there may be fraud issues to be dealt with. If you can't afford a lawyer, it also sounds like your mom needs to have a conversation with legal aid. Depending on how long you have been living with your mom, she may be able to get custody. I'm not a lawyer, but I've gone through various experiences with family and friends. Good luck and be safe!
2006-10-18 09:26:22 · answer #2 · answered by writerdame 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure about the restraining order persay, but I think you can cause more trouble for Dad than he can for you. There have been cases where an adolescent child has legally "divorced" the parents. Call the Childrens Aid Society, Kids Help Phone (if you have one in your area) and the cops. I think they tend to believe the children over the adults in these situations. Also, a teacher or counselor at your school would be legally obligated to help you if you report abuse to them.
Good luck to you. I'm sorry your father is such a turd-licker. I hope someone can help you.
2006-10-18 09:10:17 · answer #3 · answered by Gallifrey's Gone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police immediately and file a complaint with them. Then, they should call, or you should call, Social Services. A social worker will get involved with the case, and perform an investigation.
Your mom should have an attorney that was involved with your custody dispute previously. Talk to your mom and tell her that you want to change the custody order through the court. Your mom's lawyer should file the paperwork, and after the investigation and police report are completed, you should be able to file a restraining order and change your visitation with your father.
2006-10-18 09:06:33 · answer #4 · answered by Heck if I know! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The cops only carry out the instructions of the court. Therefore, ask you mom to petition the court for a change of custody.
Your mom can file a restraining order on your behalf. At 15 you are old enough to express your own desires to the court. So, if he is seeking custody of you then you can express to the court that you do not want to live with him. Make a list of specific reasons and note examples (and the approximate date) of his abusive actions / comments towards you.
2006-10-18 09:05:14 · answer #5 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to an adult about this. In particular, your mother. You really are old enough at 15 to know what is abuse and what isn't. Your mother needs to get help for you in going before a judge to get custody changed.
Also, document all contact you have with him. Phone calls and all. That will make your claims more credible and help the judge in making the decision about changing legal custody. Good luck.
2006-10-18 09:30:15 · answer #6 · answered by Hallon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds awful!! I'm not sure of the age you need to be to divorce your father, in the States it's 18...it might be 16 here. What I would do in your situation is go to a Guidance Counsellor. I work in a highschool, and the Guidance staff is there for these kinds of situations. Plus if he is abusing you in any way, then he could and should lose custody. Good Luck
2006-10-18 09:07:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your Mom can get a restraining order, against your Dad, just go to the court house, and you will have to see a judge, and explain your case. If he is mentally and physically abusive, then you should do this to protect your self!
2006-10-18 09:07:05 · answer #8 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so, it depends on the situation. If your mom will help you then you could go to the police and figure out a way to get a restraining order. You could get a restraining order against anyone as long as there is a valid reason that a judge would grant.
2006-10-18 09:04:39 · answer #9 · answered by Elisha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one that needs to file the restraining order is your Mom. You should probably consider calling DCYS (or equivalent in your area). You need to remember that if you get the government involved things might not go exactly how you want. It's sad, but possible.
You might want to call your local crisis line, or if there is one in your area, a Women's resource center or abuse hotline.
I really wish you well, and I'm sorry that you're stuck in such an impossible situation.
2006-10-18 09:07:35 · answer #10 · answered by Deirdre H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can tell the cops on him and the situation. Try to record his threatening calls for evidence. You can tell your moms lawyers- have them put it on file or something- but you're old enough to tell them who you want to live with- unless your mom has issues the court is aware of. There is something out there where you can "divorce" a parent, not sure what its called or how it works, but there is something out there to help. Google it!
2006-10-18 09:08:25 · answer #11 · answered by shondak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋