now when he goes just cries and when I pick him up he is still crying plus the daycare does not lett you come inside they meet you at the door they watch you on a video monitor when you pull up I don't know but it fishey to me what do you think
2006-10-18 08:51:34 · 15 answers · asked by bettyboop 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I think you if you could financially stay home w/ your child until 2 yrs. of age that would be good. This is an important stage for the little ones and you need to plant some good seeds. You don't know what they say or do with your child at that age. Plus it would help if you got some opinions from other parents. Also before you left him at daycare, did you sit with him about 2-3 days so he can get used to this environment with you? If they don't allow you, then that is fishy. Remember a mothers instinct is usually correct. God has made us like that.
I wish you & your son the best.
God Bless!
P.S. Praying about this doesn't hurt either. Plus God can lead you to the right daycare as well.
2006-10-18 09:06:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Wow like that huh? If I were you I would pull my kid from this daycare and place him elsewhere. He is trying to tell you something is wrong with that place. I have a 4 yr old and for the first 3 1/2 years she went to the same school and cried every morning when I dropped her off. Finally I pulled her and put her in a new school and she no longer crys. Turns out the old school was doing a lot of yelling, pinching etc. Also by law you have the right to drop in an view what's going on, if this is not allowed you need to act quick and switch daycare providers. I wish the best for you.
2006-10-18 16:16:51 · answer #2 · answered by lilma 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The crying thing is normal...the first few days they are fine and then after a week to two they protest because they know you are going to leave them there. All of a sudden they think "Wait a minute!" and start to cry when you get close to daycare. I've heard that they cry and even misbehave when you pick them up in the eveninig because they can relax around you and let out their emotions.
However, any day care that won't let you observe your child is NOT the place you want to be. A video monitor outside is okay and even a little reassuring that they're being careful who they let in. But NO WAY would I just drop my child off and pick him up without going inside. Besides, if your son is having trouble adjusting, you can spend a few minutes when you drop off/pick up to play with him and help him acclimate. Pretty soon he will be mad when he has to leave!
2006-10-18 16:10:45 · answer #3 · answered by eli_star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. dont even let him stay there!! my son was in a bad daycare and he actually wasnt learning anything and was still acting like a 4 month old at 6 months. U should be able to go inside see where they take care of your baby and walk in when you want. I usually come at diffrent times of the day to catch my daycare off gaurd and they are great. I dont know what state you are in but you can go to your city and ask them about where you can find good daycares. We have one in N. California called child action and you can give them any daycares licence number and they will tell you all the bad things that have been reported about them. They also give you refrences of the top daycares around your area. talk to your city and find out if you have this!!! Just get that baby out before its too late. its better safe than sorry. Good Luck.
2006-10-18 16:03:03 · answer #4 · answered by fleur_loser 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What in the world? My baby has been going since she was 6 weeks old. There is no way in the world I would even go for what you are saying. How did you find this place? Do a background check on these people alert children services.
My child goes to daycare on a Military installation and they have an open door policy and cameras. I wish they would tell me I cant go inside to see where my child is being cared for. You need to rethink this place. Sometimes spending the extra money is worth it. Think about the baby is is health at danger?
2006-10-18 15:59:23 · answer #5 · answered by dark_lipps 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Kids have about 3-4 days of memory. They like to know what going to happen. They like this to repeat from the last 2-3 days they remember. It helps them know what to expect. If you had him out 3 days..He only remember the 3 days at home. And hard for him to remember the days at daycare. If you think that there is trouble at daycare....check his body daily and keep a journal of what you find and suspect. I think it can be he's just afraid you're not going to come back. Just have to reassure him that you will be back...Be on time the same time everyday just so he knows you will be there. Its hard when you c them crying, just know if someone can calm them down or if you c him go to someone he trust, then you should be in good shape.
2006-10-18 15:59:07 · answer #6 · answered by csabrinam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would switch daycares immediately. Any facility that limits your access to your child and their surroundings is definitely "fishy". Obviously security is necessary but most daycares I have visited (I checked a LOT before I enrolled my daughter) have code panels on the doors. I consulted government suggestions and multiple articles on what to look for when picking a daycare and all of them emphasized never leaving you child in a place that restricted your access to them or the facility. I'm not implying that your child is being harmed he could just be upset at the change in schedule but I would still switch caregivers.
2006-10-20 01:18:38 · answer #7 · answered by evilangelfaery919 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they won't let you come in, then I wouldn't let my child go in either. That's stupid. I working in a daycare and parents got to come to the room. Find another daycare.
TV monitor? That's freaky? Why do they need a warning when you are about to arrive? I don't like that at all.
2006-10-18 18:13:56 · answer #8 · answered by april_hwth 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Legally they can't keep you from entering the building. Your child is being cared for in there and you have the right to inspect anytime you child is there. I would request to see the films for the last few days and to inspect while your child is in attendance. If they do not comply then I would take my child out and report to the department of children and families immediately.
2006-10-18 16:10:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a little fishey to me to i would ask why cant i see my child at work and they probably got video monitor to make sure the children r safety ,in good hands so be sure look into it a little more and if u wont to change your mind about it then do so keep in-mind about your child's safety!!! do what u feel is best 4 u and your child..............
2006-10-18 16:03:42 · answer #10 · answered by christine s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋