To have sex in a relationship when your dating?and not come out looking like a hoe?Just curious my bf and i have been together almost three months and he is not used to waiting.I am 18 and he is 22 so it's legal we both got tested to make sure we are clean and since i have only had one partner he does not want to condom. I am on the pill but my family has a history with it not working all the time .
2006-10-18 08:42:59 · 17 answers · asked by Jackie P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How to convice him to use one?
2006-10-18 08:45:36 · update #1
I feel nervous but dont want him to leave.
2006-10-18 08:51:28 · update #2
3 MONTHS!!! Holy crap I am surprised he is still around. One girl made me wait 3 weeks and that killed me. Sounds like he really likes you a lot!
2006-10-18 08:46:10 · answer #1 · answered by curious caucasian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he really wants to be with you, then he's going to have to wait until YOUR ready. I can see you not using a condom if you were together over a year or so, but you've only been dating 3 months. Do you want to take the chance of having a baby with? You need to sit down with him and have a long discussion on whether or not you both are ready to take the chance of becoming parents and spending the rest of your lifes together!!!
Good Luck!!
2006-10-18 15:47:00 · answer #2 · answered by Amber R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you've waited three months then I think its safe to say you aren't a "hoe". That being said, It's the right time whenever both people feel completely comfortable with it. So if you still dont feel ready, dont do it. One thing on the pill also....Its only 99% effective, even when used correctly so I would suggest a condom also
2006-10-18 15:49:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him about your family's history. Ask him if he wants a baby with you. If the answer is no, tell him to put on a condom. 3 months is fine, as long as you are ready. Not using a condom admittedly feels better, but it's not as safe. If you are not going to use one, make sure you do it on the first day after your period, or 2 or 3 days before it. This is your safest time (next to doing it during your period).
2006-10-18 15:47:09 · answer #4 · answered by largegrasseatingmonster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three months is long enough to wait, unless you believe you should wait until after marriage, which is the way i grew up. I wouldn't worry too much about getting pregnant if you are on the pill. you will be fine. don't think about it too much ahead of time either. let it happen naturally at a time when you can relax and experience it fully, don't do it in the car or an elevator. make sure you are home alone or he is home alone, or get a hotel room, get a bottle of wine, watch a movie and see what happens. maybe nothing will happen or maybe something will happen.
2006-10-18 15:57:13 · answer #5 · answered by Peaches 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's never a right time to have sex when you're dating. YOU ARE WORTH WAITING FOR! If you really love this person, and he really loves, and you're looking at spending the rest of your forever with eachother, than a couple year until your married shouldn't seem like a long time. What better way to prove your love than that?
2006-10-18 15:46:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say at least 6 months. I'd still make him use a condom though. It has to still feel better than the nothing that he is getting now.
2006-10-18 15:45:54 · answer #7 · answered by Jen F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i agree lol does sound like hes the ho!! dude he obviously only wants one thing and he might leave u once he gets it....hold out and see what happens. if he leaves then he was never worth your time anyways.....and without a condom....how about umm....NOOOO!!! always use a condom ESPECIALLY if theres a risk of pregnancy within your family. watch out and guard yourself and your body. this guy sounds like a dick...
2006-10-18 15:46:26 · answer #8 · answered by Jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you decide definately use a condom but I made my husband wait more than six months and he wasn't used to waiting more than a month(yeah I know he is hot) but he knew that was what it took to be with me and he loved and respected me.
2006-10-18 15:46:28 · answer #9 · answered by kiki_t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like enough time has passed to take it to the next level but please use a condom. If he respects you he will.
2006-10-18 15:49:25 · answer #10 · answered by thortiesmom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋