So.. what happens when you've given person #1 the chance to say let's not be serious, but let's be exclusive..and he simply gave you a "follow your heart speech.."
You have no intention of going out to find the next best thing, but person #2 just happens one night, and techinically you are not in a committed relationship..
Is it wrong to have #1 & #2 until something develops or everyone parts ways?? I'm confused..b/c the jealousy from person #1 seems a bit unjustified since he had the opportunity to say exclusive..but not serious..
2006-10-18 08:17:36 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if #1 does not want a committment, then he has no place to be jealous.
nothing wrong with 'looking'. if you are wanting a real future with a man, not men, but a man. then yes, you have to set your standards, and 'look'.
if #1 loves/wants you, then he needs to say so, i mean not in, oh marry me now...kind of thing, but, in a way that he thinks of you only and wants you to think of him only.
the boyfriend girlfriend thing. if he cant do that, then you have every right to keep 'looking'.
sounds like you want a family, more responsibility. then you need the same thing in return. and that is not 2nd best. you are doing the right thing.
maybe going out with #2, will open #1's eyes...you never know. but dont settle for 2nd best. you know what you want.
good luck.
2006-10-18 08:23:49 · answer #1 · answered by dragonsclaw27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously not ready to be in a commited relationship. You need to make it clear to persons #1 and #2 that you are just playing the field right now until you decide what you want.
2006-10-18 08:20:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say dating is dating until someone wants a committed relationship. I don't believe in sleeping around with different people I think that's only for "committed relationships" that way nobodies hearts gets hurt or broken.
2006-10-18 08:25:49 · answer #3 · answered by roni_lane81981 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready for a commitment, you should play the field. That's the only way to really know what you are looking for. Just don't get involved with multiple sex partners. That would warrant disease. Consider saving that for Mr. Right! But, there is nothing wrong with dating more than one!
2006-10-18 08:24:29 · answer #4 · answered by Gramms 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be careful-treat these people like you would want to be treated. They always so you reep what you sew and I believe you would want them to be honest with you-so, tell #1 that you are going to date #2 if he doesn't want to date exclusivly-who know he may be seeing a #2 too-thats why he isnt committing. Or if he knows you aren't going to wait for him to be exclusive he may just want to date only you-This may be a wake up call for him to **** or get off the pot
good luck
2006-10-18 08:23:58 · answer #5 · answered by ROOTER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I go with "follow your heart" - if you like both guys and you have no promise to either of them, go ahead.
Until you've both specifically agreed not to date others, you are free to do what you want.
Personally I wouldn't date more than one person if sex is involved though, but until then it's all good.
2006-10-18 08:24:57 · answer #6 · answered by zmj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's no longer "incorrect" in line with se. the undertaking is that your mom and others are plagued by ability of your determination as much as now this ex husband, and so a techniques as they're worried you're intentionally disrespecting your mom. So the undertaking isn't no rely if or no longer that's "incorrect." the undertaking is not any rely if or no longer you're keen to proceed to reason drama interior of your loved ones so as as much as now this person. He could be properly worth that to you, and that's suitable because it is your undertaking. For all i understand your loved ones is a extensive concern and a non-provide up source of issues for you besides so that's no longer something new. even with the undeniable fact that, in the adventure that your loved ones is frequently sturdy to you, and you desire to have wide-unfold long-term unity along with your loved ones, you are able to comprehend your determination to proceed relationship this guy and not reconcile variations will contain a cost. "incorrect?" No. it rather is a controversy of you weighing the advantages with the downsides and figuring out what's ideal for you. It makes no difference that your mom is gorgeous and might desire to be able to get somebody else. that's what this guy represents to her, and represents to the family contributors frequently, that's of undertaking. in case you have been asking me no rely if or no longer you are able to stay with him, i could say you are able to discover somebody else to sidestep greater issues. Of each and every of the human beings available, he's in all probability no longer the terrific determination because of the inherent issues. even with the undeniable fact that, the determination is yours, and purely you recognize how plenty you're keen to lose along with your loved ones interior the long term whilst in comparison with what he's in a position to offer you as a boyfriend, no rely if that be short or long term.
2016-10-02 10:35:56 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isn't exclusive so don't let the sun, moom, and stars revelove around him.
Get out there and see other people...
2006-10-18 08:19:33 · answer #8 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,it is very wrong.It means your cheating.And when you cheat nobody will wanna hang out with you.
2006-10-18 08:20:33 · answer #9 · answered by Nicole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from a guys point of view yes its wrong. full stop.
2006-10-18 08:21:40 · answer #10 · answered by GothicRevolution 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋