Lately I've been trying to get out and meet more women. The trouble is, I've noticed, whether at work, clubs, even the supermarket--most of the attractive women I see seem like they want nothing to do with me. I don't have any problems approaching women, but shouldn't I get some type of sign of interest first? When I smile or say hi, women often look away or just act like they'd rather be anywhere but near me! The ironic thing is that I do have lady friends and THEY believe women are falling all over me. They're not much help because they won't take me seriously when I tell them how SOOOO wrong they are. Even some guy friends I have say "Dude, if I looked like you I'd have ALL the chicks!"
I'm not really interesting in having "ALL the chicks" as they say. I just want to know what I could be doing that seems to be putting ladies off? I'm friendly, I don't smell, I'm fairly confident (not cocky) and seems like people think I'm a decent looking cat too--so what's the deal??
2006-10-18 08:16:56 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Woman don't normally date a ladies man if they want a commitment. That's all I can say.
2006-10-18 08:20:03 · answer #1 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a hard question because nothing seems to be wrong. ( you are tired of hearing that right!!). Maybe its the type of women you are attracted to, or the way you come up to them. Me personally. I don't try to talk to anyone I meet in a club or even in the stores. For me its first impressions. The way you approach a woman make a big deal, the words you use or even the way you look at them. Before someone comes up to you, you will know if you want to talk to them of not. Everyone seems to think you look really good so maybe the women or imitated because you look like a ladies man. If that the case don't worry about it. Stop looking and just have friends and the right woman Will find you
Good Luck Babe
2006-10-18 08:28:25 · answer #2 · answered by trice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am good looking if you don't mind me saying and like lots of other women no matter how a guy looks if he approaches me I will ignore him. Seems like the right thing to do. I'm not into stranger's asking me for my info seems a little wrong. I only ever enter relationships with men I have some type of connection with another person or no through time of being in the same place.
What I am trying to say is all my friends are the same and you can't jsut approach us or we will just look at you like you are dumb and keep it moving. Join a fitness club or something. Then you will get to show your body off and make new friends.
2006-10-18 08:23:27 · answer #3 · answered by kiki_t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women think men who are good looking are dogs or conceited and feel like they can get who or whatever they wan't. Maybe your cockyness and good looks and your forwardness are a leathal combination. Take the humble approach or more of the friendly helpful approach. Example you are in line at the grocery store and you see an attractive woman you want to get to know her better and you see she is having trouble putting her grocery up, you could say let me help you with that and strike up a conversation like Oh I love this ice cream it's great isn't it and feel your way along from there then ask her out when she is comfortable with you.
2006-10-18 08:28:08 · answer #4 · answered by barbie2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are intimidating. If you are way good looking, or extremely smart you might just be scaring them off. If you are using some kind of corny line, you know what I mean, then you might try another approach. Some women are just self-concious or somewhat shy, don't come on too strong. Or if your the intellectual type, try using normal every day words instead of sounding like a professor. Good luck!!
2006-10-18 08:23:18 · answer #5 · answered by deardra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They may automatically assume that your full of sh*t because you rare attractive. Or perhaps the ladies that you have been flirtatious with are taken. I know when I was madly in love I wouldn't look another guys way or even engage in friendly conversation. Check yourself too is your approach that of a a perverted jerk or what - how about how you dress - something is giving off a bad signal
2006-10-18 08:21:50 · answer #6 · answered by Jazz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have to be urself? Dont try and be something u know u arent.. Going to the club isnt always the best place to meet a woman.. If your friends say u look good then just take that as a compliment.. The ones u say just look and turn away. Gaurantee they "aint nothin but hoes"...... Dont think u have to settle for the first one that comes along.. Good luck to u...
p.s. If u cant find anyone hit me up ill take u out!!!
2006-10-18 08:21:30 · answer #7 · answered by blue eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure....
Personally, I shy away from most men that approach me, especially if I'm alone. I'm in a committed relationship, and not only that, you never really know who the person is. I still have the whole, don't talk to strangers thing ingrained in me. I'd rather error on the side of caution. I'm also not into small talk, or deep conversations with a total stranger.
2006-10-18 08:26:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your problem is your trying to hit on women and we know it. I'd ignore you if you hit on me at the supermarket.
You need to join a club or get a hobby or volunteer so you can meet people and get to know them, not just pop up and expect to be making instant connections. Maybe it's your tone of voice or something, but we women know when a man isn't interested in us as people, but is looking to "score a date."
2006-10-18 08:25:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well don't give up. Sometimes we meaning females are too busy to even pay attention when someone is trying to pick us up. LOL.... You know that there is a saying that there is a time and place for everything. Don't worry someone will realize you and appreciate you.
2006-10-18 08:21:47 · answer #10 · answered by Melissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋