My Boyfriend and I have been together for about two years. He is still confussed about what happen during prom night. Here is the story:
About four months ago, I went to prom with my friends, I went to the after party. and had a lot to drink, I didnt tell him that I was going to go, That was the first time I ever lied to him, and I had asked him to pick me up but he wouldn't because he heard a guy sitting close to me and he was talking to me while I was talking to him. But nothing had happen that night, I remember. As I was talking to my boyfriend, he thought that I was cheating on him with the guy sitting next to me, I told him I wasnt but he still wouldnt believe me. Up to this day he still doesnt. As much as I keep telling him the truth, he wont believe me. I dont know how long it will go on or what might happen next.
2006-10-18 08:06:00 · 22 answers · asked by i.d.k.u. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey Ann,,,,,
When you go to college,,,, dump this guy,,, find someone that is more mature please.......
good luck
2006-10-18 08:14:20 · answer #1 · answered by eejonesaux 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The problem is that you lied to him about going to the party, so now he is assuming that you are lying about this other guy. That was your mistake & you know why you lied to him in the first place, not us. Why wasn't he there at the after party with you? You sound like you wanted some fun time without him & he is still wondering why. He sounds like a guy where honesty is very important to him and you disappointed him. He is just going to have to decide if he feels this way about you now, will he ever trust you like he did before? You need to ask yourself how much longer you are going to be sentenced & then let yourself off the hook. By the way ... did you ever apologize for lying?
2006-10-18 08:15:32 · answer #2 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he claims that he loves you, he needs to back off. most likely he has had his fill of women too, before he met you.
life goes on. if he cant accept whether or not you did or did not, he has issues of his own.
relationships are built on trust and communication.
it was wrong for you to lie to him about the prom, however you did call him to pick you up-which still doesn't look good on his side. so you have to see his point of view also.
if anything he may be upset of just the fact, that you lied.
regardless if anything happened or not, you 'hurt' him by lying. you have to be upfront about everything in a relationship. you have to.
you 2 will have to sit down and talk this out - in private. if you care for him, talk to him, and get it straightened out.
good luck.
2006-10-18 08:12:59 · answer #3 · answered by dragonsclaw27 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know in your heart nothing happened, it is not up to you to constantly try to make this boy believe you. This is something he needs to do on his own. Perhaps he is a little insecure, but trust in a relationship is imperative. If you have never given any reason for him acting like this, he needs to work on his trust issues. If he doesn't, you won't ever be able to go anywhere without him wondering what your doing. That's no way to live.
2006-10-18 08:11:43 · answer #4 · answered by june clever 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I married a my highschool sweetheart, and they never get over things, no matter what it was. All through our marriage, everytime we got into an argument, or disagreed, it would somehow give him the right to dig up dirt. If your boyfriend doesn't believe you, then chances are he will never get over it. He will continue to find things, or try to, or put things in his head and make as if you did it when you actually didn't. You are too young, you know the truth, and if he can't trust you, then move on.
2006-10-18 08:16:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are in a serious bind, because he's probably not going to admit he was wrong to accuse you of anything. I say call it off, and burn him a copy of that Keyshia Cole song "I Should've Cheated" as a good-bye present:
I might as well have cheated on you
As much as you accused me of cheating
I might as well have lied to you
As much as you accused me of lying
You're young enough that it's really not worth putting that kind of effort into saving a relationship. Either this will turn on the lightbulb in his head or you'll find someone better. Promise.
2006-10-18 08:11:12 · answer #6 · answered by Katie S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there is that little trust in the relationship, at your obviously young age (going to prom), then the relationship is ultimately going no where.
Sit him down, explain the story to him one more time, and then tell him that either he truly gets over it, trusts you and beleives you, (not just pretends to), or the relationship will be over.
His response to that will tell you mountains of what he truly feels for you.
2006-10-18 08:09:26 · answer #7 · answered by Allycat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately he may be the type of person that can not get over things like this. Have you tried proving to him that he can still trust you? Such as not lying any more, and telling him everything? If so you may have to just say goodbye to your love. Good Luck!
2006-10-18 08:11:54 · answer #8 · answered by Alyss K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the fact that you lied to him on where you were going makes him very suspicious of your actions ... even though nothing was going on between you two there was something said that makes him think that and he won't let it go because he doesn't trust you anymore ... as for showing or doing anything about it ... you can sit down and talk about it and apologize for lying to him but it sounds like teh relationship is doomed.
2006-10-18 08:09:11 · answer #9 · answered by emnari 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he can't forget it and just get the hell over it, it's going to slowly kill your relationship and your heart.
I used to date a guy who would throw all of my honesty in my face, over and over again whenever we fought. When I finally dumped his ***, it made me realize that he was a cock and I definitely deserved better.
Tell him that either he forgets what happened or he can forget about the entire relationship.
2006-10-18 08:08:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
a guy always knows the truth no matter what a women says...we can tell by the look in your eyes...it's called gut feelings!!
2006-10-18 08:09:54 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋