2006-10-18 07:54:12 · 21 answers · asked by wafflebutt2010 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you really think he is worth your while, try the tactics in the book "love must be tough" by Dr. James Dobson.
Although my ex-husband of 14 years did not return, I got through it better than I would have otherwise with dignity and not making mistakes like appeasement, groveling, clingy, letting him know everything I was feeling, etc
(the tactics in the book also were successful with my son once when applied to a situation I was having with him ignoring me and having no time for me..after applying it, he took me to the park one night, told me how much he loved me, had a long talk with me, and confided to me he was a virgin at 21..and that it was due to me teaching him to not have sex until married or truly in love) and asked me advice on a girl he was falling in love with and the matter of sex.. He normally told me nothing...it was a wonderful night 12 years ago that I treasure.))
For the book, try the library, Christian bookstore, or Amazon.(link below)
Good luck--you will get through this and the only way is to go through the stages of grief unfortunately. You will become stronger and maybe eventually meet another or learn to successfully be single with happiness.
Chin up, honey, life is hard and full of rejection and betrayal, but we are stronger than we realize. Don't do anything stupid and find other ways to find fulfillment and joy in life. Do fun things occasionally and limit the number of hours you think about it a day by refusing to think about it and replacing thoughts of it with other thoughts to give yourself a break each day from anger and grief.
2006-10-18 07:59:02 · answer #1 · answered by janie 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't the love of their life, then you don't really want them around anyway. That would only lead to hard times. Get drunk, sulk, get mad and then move on. Go find a new love interest. It doesn't happen over night, but it will get better.
2006-10-18 07:56:26 · answer #2 · answered by JUNONNKI 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people are saying "move on." But many people in your situation do not know how to do that. Take some time for yourself. Obviously, you are very hurt. Too many people I know jump back into the dating scene too soon. Take a few months to explore your interests; focus on work, school, etc. Spend lots of time with your friends. It will definately hurt at first; but time heals all wounds. In time, you will meet someone who appreciates you.
2006-10-18 08:07:06 · answer #3 · answered by Angrygirl5 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a bonfire with all his stuff that he left at your place and get over it. Not much more you can do. You can't make some one love you. You could try to get a voodoo doll of them made and stick pins in the @ss. LOL!!!!
2006-10-18 07:59:39 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♪ TrickNice ♪♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down...hold on...ready? Do not worry, if he was truly the love of your life, he would not have broken up with you. You will find another love to spend your time with. Just be happy in the interim and be more picky next time.
2006-10-18 07:58:37 · answer #5 · answered by Jeremy K 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
move on the find the REAL love of your life. Your life isnt over yet and probably has just began. Soon your vision will be clearer
2006-10-18 07:55:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
How about learning that you don't need to 'be' with someone to be happy? It's perfectly OK to be by yourself. Enjoy some freedom while the time is right.
2006-10-18 08:04:05 · answer #7 · answered by kurtrisser 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move On
2006-10-18 07:56:21 · answer #8 · answered by mvngs 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wasn't love of your life get over it move on. doesn't sound easy but it is been there and done and happy again. go out enjoy yourself paint the down red
2006-10-18 07:58:58 · answer #9 · answered by saucey 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Date whoever you want and be free. Enjoy the single life.
2006-10-18 07:56:53 · answer #10 · answered by gates_goins 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋