I have a three year old daughter who has been acting up at home and school. Recently at school she is saying "No" to many of the activates of the day. She also has problems at home with eating, hitting, acting out. Is this typical of a three year old?
2006-10-18 07:52:00 · 9 answers · asked by aajjj5 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
all kids are different and you got to love them for who they are but help shape them as they grow but give enough room for them to find out for themselves. I know that didn't help.
2006-10-18 07:55:23 · answer #1 · answered by Batman has left the building 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this is very typical of a 3-year-old to do these sorts of things. I am an aunt of a 2-year-old girl, a 3-year-old girl, and a 5-year-old boy. I am aware of these types of things. This is why this age is called (not as common as terrible 2's) troublesome 3's. They have a tendancy to say 'no' to a lot of things, have problems at home, school, and and hitting. This is all totally normal, she doesn't need to see anyone for this reason for that matter. (what I am trying to say is that she can see someone, like a doctor, but not on this topic, but if she was sick, of course then) In any case, there is no reason to worry about this too much. Email me if you have any more questions that I might be able to answer.
2006-10-18 08:08:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal behavior, put your fears aside. Three year olds are growing into their independence, and often get extremely frustrated, even sometimes resulting in physical violence toward others, if they feel their independence is being threatened.
Such as a toy taken away, or the wrong cup they drink from, or it could be just simply not getting their way. They test their boundaries of what is acceptable behavior to inevitably get what they want. An overly aggresive behavior needs to be responded with a timeout. Urge an apology from them, as a way of teaching that this is not acceptable behavior, helps them understand the consequences of their actions. And the above all the key word here is consistency.
I wish you well
2006-10-18 08:15:57 · answer #3 · answered by fryedaddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids love to test the boundaries. They are so used to being told "No" so many times that they think it's their turn to say it! My daughter was like that at 3 also but now she is a wonderful 6 year old. They want to exercise some control in their lives because they realise they don't have much control of their own lives.
2006-10-18 08:00:15 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is 5 and in kindergarten. I find that periodically we go through stages where he is trying to assert his will and independence by testing the boundaries a bit. I try really hard not to loose my cool even if what he's doing embarasses me in public. My suggestion - be firm with your rules and discipline. Saying "no" is not such a bad thing when asserted at appropriate times (when declining is an option). Hitting is another matter. Don't tolerate it and take care not to exhibit it yourself. All I can really say is they do go through stages. Here's a little Toddler Creed that makes me laugh...
The Toddler's Creed
If I like it, it's mine.
If it's in my hand, it's mine.
If I can take it from you, it's mine.
If I had it a little while ago, it's mine.
If it's mine, it must never appear to be yours in any way.
If I'm doing or building something, all the pieces are mine.
If it looks just like mine, it's mine.
If I think it's mine, it's mine
Does that sum up their mentallity at this age?
2006-10-18 08:25:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that it would possibly be some toddler she's in contact with at this preschool, and she's having a problem with this. Or it could be at home; gentle questioning could get to the bottom of the protest. She is protesting something. Find out what it is and all will be well. When my daughter went to preschool she had a similar situation behaviour wise.
2006-10-18 08:00:48 · answer #6 · answered by Bluebells21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes for the most part. At three they are still trying to test how far they can push the envelope. Be firm with your rules and discipline. Don't waver or she will continue to push. Eventually they will grow bored with testing you and move on to tormenting the family pet.... Good Luck
2006-10-18 08:02:34 · answer #7 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typical 3 year old behavior -- annoying anyone and everyone in general vicinity. Thank God I don't have any kids! Yuck!
2006-10-18 07:58:40 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long has she been doing this? If this is something new, it could just be a stage. If she's been doing this for awhile, it could be her natural behavior. Talk to her pediatrician. He or seh should be able to tell you. Also, she could just be acting out due to boredom. I did when I was little.
2006-10-18 07:56:16 · answer #9 · answered by tinkerbell24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋