I am very happy with my current boyfriend, and I believe he is
the one, and I just want to know when will be our lucky day?
2006-10-18 07:46:23 · 21 answers · asked by Lida P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
chica, your time will come. You know that he is the one for you, so let him find out if you are the right for him. Don't pressure a guy to do something he is not ready for. I guarantee you that the day he is ready he will proposed to you and you will say that it was worth it. Take the time to know each other more and share things that you guys have in command.
2006-10-18 07:52:22 · answer #1 · answered by J.J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, he's the one who has to decide that one. I've been with my boyfriend for over 4 years now, we both know we're in it together forever, and we've had a lot of talks on the subject. The fact is, he's still just not ready. He's always dreamed of being a lot better off financially before he gets married, and I don't think he feels like he's there yet. Also, he's 25, but he feels that he's still way too young to be a husband. A lot of people actually bug me about when we're getting married, and they say I should give him an ultimatum, but here's the deal- all a marriage is, fundamentally, is a written contract stating that the two of you can now merge funds and assets. If what you want is a GREAT marriage- full of love, romance, and happiness- the last thing you want to do is push the guy into it before he's ready. You may both end up resenting each other over it. This may be the blilnd leading the blind here, but I think you should do what I'm doing and focus on your beautiful relationship and how happy you are together, and just let the marriage details work themselves out in time.
2006-10-18 14:56:35 · answer #2 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well this depends on a lot of factors. How long have you two been together? Not that time is necessarily a good way to measure the readiness of a couple to marry but it would seem more likely that a wedding would happen sooner if you have been together for a long time. Really, engagements happen when both people in the relationship are ready and acknowledge that they are with the person they want to spend the rest of their life with. This varies with every person. If you are curious, try bring up the topic of engagement with your boyfriend and pay attention to his reaction. Does he freak out or is he willing to talk about it? You don't want to rush into anything you aren't ready for and neither will your boyfriend. Take is one step at a time....right now, just focus on the engagement process...which is actually pretty exciting and fun too. Good luck!
2006-10-18 14:53:29 · answer #3 · answered by MyrtleB831 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will only happen when he decides he wants to marry you. It has to be mutual. The only way to know is to wait and see if he ever brings it up. If after a year or so he doesn't mention it, that's a good sign you will be waiting a long time - he may not be the one.
I say - wait and let him bring it up first. If he really loves you that much - he will.
2006-10-18 14:49:15 · answer #4 · answered by Sirena 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awwww, you really want to be married?! If I were you then I'd drop some hints to my man. I came straight out and told my boyfriend, "we've been together since middle school (8 yrs.) and we've lived together 2 years, I think you need to make me your wife already!" He laughed and said, I think you may be right. We never talked about it after that but a few months later, he proposed to me on HIS birthday! How unselfish is that!? and he did it at his birthday party in front of everyone! Hell, we just turned his birthday into our engagement party.
2006-10-18 14:57:22 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs_Rivera2U 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have the two of you talked about marriage? If not, I wouldn't plan on it being anytime soon.
Be patient, getting married is a serious commitment and shouldn't be entered into lightly. It will happen when it is right and when it is suitable for the both of you.
2006-10-18 14:54:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will happen when he's ready. Don't push it. Men hate to be pressured. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years and we have a beautiful child together, he even calls me his wife... but he hasn't popped the question yet.
2006-10-18 14:58:30 · answer #7 · answered by jbellaboo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can either ask him to marry you or you can wait for him to ask you. Getting married is a huge step. Chances are if you have a conversation about you, you may get a better idea of when it may happen.
2006-10-18 14:54:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever he's ready to ask you, if you guys haven't talked about marriage, it may not be anytime soon. Just be patient!! Don't force the issue or you just might push him away if he's not ready for that huge step. Good Luck!!!
2006-10-18 16:42:42 · answer #9 · answered by Lil'MissSnshne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he feels that you and him r ment 2 be and when he is ready to be responsible enough 2 start a family and pay the bills meaning get a job . someday you will meet the one 4 u
2006-10-18 17:11:37 · answer #10 · answered by andi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋