I have been knowing this guy for a few months. I met him at work and we would have lunch and stuff together everyday and text and call back and forth. Well he got laid-off and I broke up with my boyfriend the same day, so we had sex that night. We talk or text often and he seems like he likes me. We have had sex quite a few times since then, but he's also spent the night and not had sex with me on several occasions. He sometimes says things that makes me think that he is interested in a relationship, but I don't know. I am new to this whole dating thing and I don't want to just come out and ask him too soon and push him away. How could I tell him that I don't want to just have sex with him without making it seem like I am giving him an altimatum? Does he really like me?
2006-10-18 07:45:25 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He does have a new job, better than the last one, and he usually pays
2006-10-18 07:52:55 · update #1
Quit having sex with him. If he really likes you then he will stay around. If he leaves then it was only the sex he wanted.
2006-10-18 07:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by Doc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
From what you explained here, sounds like ALL "green lights" to me.............................
You're establishing a BOND right away, and sounds like you "Click".
My advice? Take things slow. The guy already told you, in many ways that he IS interested, so sit back and let him "make the next move", so to speak! Sounds like a good beginning.
If he ONLY wanted SEX from you, he wouldn't have bothered to SHOW interest AT ALL------------ your 1st Clue!!!!!
Also, it says alot right there that your "Friend" has spent the night with you and you guys didn't get "intimate" on occasions!
I get a gut feeling that the signs point to caring, and genuine feelings! Don't worry that you might push this guy away, I mean, there isn't anything wrong with talking; just go easy and don't say anything that would RUSH the situation, ok? Let your intuition take oveer, but, I'd advise, it seems HE has lots on his mind now------------ give it a few days and let him call you, be........cause.......... you are forming an emotional connection as well, at this stage, and you don't want to come on too strong!
Let him TEXT you or contact you. I'm sure he will miss you when he doesn't hear from you........... get my train of thought?
Yes, Yes, I take it HE likes you! ALOT!
Take it slow!
2006-10-18 07:59:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to tell him you don't want to have sex with him, just don't have sex with him. You went way too fast hopping into bed with him right after breaking up with someone the same day! Sounds like you are seeking constant security (boyfriend, no boyfriend, sex within 24 hrs leaving boyfriend), and believe me sex is not the tool to catch a man for a relationship. He has to be interested in you also with his mind.........sounds like you were setting this up even though you had a boyfriend (lunches, etc) & have you stopped to think what the new guy is wondering in the back of his mind if? Will you treat him the same way once he is the new boyfriend & you become interested in someone else. The best bet is always to leave someone you are not happy with & then persue a new relationship....I think deep down you must know that is the decent way to handle people.
2006-10-18 07:53:31 · answer #3 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he likes you, just give it time and patience, don't rush. Normally if it's just for sex, often you'll find he'll only come or normally only try to see you for the sake of getting some. As far as relationships, normally if they wanna keep you they'll be a bit more giving, and more nice....and would want to hang out with you more instead of just..go home....watch a movie, and then have movie sex. So give it time, seems kind of early I suppose, so just have patience, and the answer will come.
2006-10-18 07:52:06 · answer #4 · answered by Dennis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Problem is that you have already given it up without building any sort of meaningful relationship. To try to go back now and do a step by step would be very hard with the prize already out and on the table. Good luck. Cut him off and see if he hangs around.
2006-10-18 07:52:54 · answer #5 · answered by Bobb-o Rooney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one you should not have had sex with him. No he doesn't like you because if he did he would have married you and then had sex. Let me say this, some men don't respect women because all they feel is that women are sex toys. They hurt your feelings and leave you dry. Of course he will say things to make you feel like he is interested but you better believe me he has someone else too. If I was you I would repent before God and seek him to bring that special someone into my life who will love me feral. You think about this because I'm sure you don't want to have babies by someone who really don't care about you. God bless
2006-10-18 07:57:33 · answer #6 · answered by tfjfiggers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first mistake is being afraid to reveal what you're really about! So what if you want a relationship, and he don't? What's so horrible about what you want? Don't try to hide your feelings or beat around the bush for fear of embarrassment! Life is way to short for all of that! You shouldn't worry about pushing him away. If your being honest about your feelings pushes him away, then he wasn't worthy of your time to begin with! He most likely wants the same you do, but maybe he's afraid of pushing you away? Either way, stop wasting time and go for what you want girl!!!! We'll all be dead someday, so make your life all you want it to be.......F0ck being embarrassed!!!!!!!!
2006-10-18 07:52:53 · answer #7 · answered by Jenintn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try staying away from your homes. Go out for a movie, or a romantic date. Just don't let it lead up to sex, be mysterious. If he doesn't want to "hang out" with you anymore, then it was the sex, if he still wants to pursue you then you're fine.
2006-10-18 07:50:48 · answer #8 · answered by These Fights 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a guy for crying out loud..of course he wants sex. the difference is that he also enjoys spending time with you obviously. Just go with the flow. Go out and do things on your own.
2006-10-18 07:51:35 · answer #9 · answered by SweeT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he likes you too but you will never know unless you ask, if he is coming over and stayin the night and you guys arent having sex wow.............Most guys just want sex..........you had better look in to this a little more.........he sounds like a good man
2006-10-18 07:48:53 · answer #10 · answered by I love ♥my Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋