I started dating a friend last December. Dated, broke-up, got back together, then broke up again because he says he didn't wanna cheat and now he just moved in with a woman whom i was battleing for his affection with. His cowardice astounds me because it was not him who told me, it was his Mother! I'm still friends and friendly with his family, they love me... But the contact with them drifts me back to the pain of the situation... It's been a month and things are better than before, but my mind drifts about him... Is he gonna marry her? How come he could commit to her? What if she gets pregnant? It's kinda like self torture. I can't stop it.... Question: What do i do? How can i stop the mental beating?
2006-10-18 07:38:08 · 16 answers · asked by Bianca 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Find someone else to devote your love and mind to. Forget this jerk, because that's exactly what he is, and you need someone that only wants you
2006-10-18 07:39:56 · answer #1 · answered by ^_^ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, who cares what him and that other woman get up to? Your mind is far too precious for you to think about things like that
I know that it feels upsetting to see another woman with him, and it sounds like you two were close (you knew his family)....but the fact is that he's a loser and will always remain one
Go find a boy who will remain true to you...coz even if you two get back together, what do you think the chances are of him changing?
2006-10-18 14:43:42 · answer #2 · answered by Angel_like 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to his house and beg for another chance. Plead and cry. Let him know that you are jealous of his new situation and that you are angry that he choose to commit to her instead of you. Lie to him and tell him that you are pregnant. Make a scene at his job. Follow him around. Show up at places where he is on a date. Call his parents house in the middle of the night and hang up. Start dating one of his closest friends. Key his car and paint "I love you on it with spray paint."
If you do all of these things. the pain will stop. :o) He will see how much you love him and he will come back.
2006-10-18 14:47:00 · answer #3 · answered by Thoughts Like Mine 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Been there and done that one. I didn't date much when I was younger and when my husband died four years ago - I dated this guy and he told me that we would get married, well he changed his mind and told me he was too afraid to get married. He said that he ex-girlfriend cheated......Yeah, right......I don't believe that one anymore......I found out that while he was dating me he was trying to find someone else. I had enough and I walked away. WALK AWAY!!!!! TRY NOT TO LOOK BACK!!!!! Your man is right around the corner. I married my childhood friend back in March. Stop beating yourself up. He ain't worth it.
2006-10-18 14:45:41 · answer #4 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What goes around comes around. And when it does it hits hard. And this is the one that's going to do it. He's entering a new way of life one that he knows nothing about. The way for you to stop beating on yourself is to be glad that it isn't you. Just move on.
2006-10-18 14:48:49 · answer #5 · answered by robert d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think about all that he put you through. It will still hurt but it will hurt less and less when you realize that he had/has the problem. Just take solace in the fact that your free to date whomever you want and have fun and he will probably do the same thing or even worse to her.
2006-10-18 14:44:35 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♪ TrickNice ♪♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep yourself busy and try to do things that will help you not think about him. Move on. If he was into you he would not have made the move he did. To many guys out there who would love to date you, go fishing :)
2006-10-18 14:41:12 · answer #7 · answered by Adri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find love somewhere else. I'ts obvious that he doesn't feel the same way about you, so why waste anymore of your time? Life is too short so you gotta make the best of it. Nothing is better than being in love and being love back. Baby girl please don't waste your time being in love alone.
2006-10-18 14:42:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear ya. Once you move on and find someone else then you won't be worried about it anymore. It will take some time though. Hang in there though!
2006-10-18 14:39:57 · answer #9 · answered by jessigirl00781 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best option is to forget the big wuss, and i mean that in the most caring way possible. he's no good for you...you deserve better than someone who can't even tell you something that important face to face. it's your life, live it on your terms. email me if you want more advice. good luck, and i mean that.
2006-10-18 14:41:13 · answer #10 · answered by Luv Docta Jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋