after two years of dating because he decided to marry my best friend!!! what am i supposed to do! i totally loved this guy!
2006-10-18 07:35:17 · 28 answers · asked by Dulceata 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're supposed to get over it and find someone new. He made his decision.
2006-10-18 07:36:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing, you must be devestated to loose your boyfriend and your best friend all in one fell swoop.
You are probably in shock and have mixed feelings about what happened. You may feel that your boyfriend has been abducted by aliens and an imposter is there and you are waiting for him to tell you he made a terrible mistake. This is all totally normal.
First of all i would get in contact with some other friends or family members - even if you have neglected them and let them give you some tender loving care.
Get a new hair cut.
Get your friends and family to help you remove every trace of him from your room.
Take up some new hobbies or save up some money and go travelling.
Do all those things you didn't do because you were too busy having a boyfriend.
Its ok to spend a few nights wallowing in sad music, eating chocolate but these should only be a few nights - then its time to do some beautiful dancing with your mates and get back in the driving seat.
Look after yourself, build up your trust in people again - and then in time these people will become - just some body that you used to know - nothing more and nothing less.
Some girls go into a very weird phase - that is common when because of the damage done to theiri self esteem start to hate the other girl but not the ex boyfriend and desperately try to get him back. It is easier sometimes to hate the other woman than deal with the fact that your ex was a lying cheating piece of c£$$££$£$
This will pass - try not to fall into the - its all the other woman's fault trap.
Good luck
This time next year this will all be a distant memory.
2006-10-18 14:42:30 · answer #2 · answered by Bebe 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh, the days of boys. If I had it to do over again, I would invest very little of myself emotionally in boys and concentrated on school, friends and having fun. The boys will ALWAYS be there. Two years invested in another person at your age is a waste; I know, I did it. You know, a long time ago when my mother was in high school, the girls didn't hook up with one guy seriously, they just had a group of friends that all hung out together. I wish kids were more like that now.
2006-10-18 14:42:15 · answer #3 · answered by wenda w 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marry? Sounds to me like somethings been going on behind your back. You can LOVE anyone. You have to put the brain in gear to actually choose who is right for you.
Do you "love" what he's done to you?
Cut your loss and find someone that will love you the way you deserve.
2006-10-18 14:40:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard to hear, but you really need to just move on. He's not worth it, there are so many other men out there that are worth it. Start out slow, going on some dates and then when you find the right guy, again, commit yourself. Eventually you won't even care.
2006-10-18 14:38:33 · answer #5 · answered by married2Hart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is blunt but get over it... It wasn't meant to be and he chose to leave you. He might have been a great guy and stuff but your better than he is and you could have your mourning period but don't let the mourning get to you because then your going to lose your mind and it will run your life. I know this is very clique but there are 300,000,000 people in the world your bound to find your mate.
2006-10-18 14:40:19 · answer #6 · answered by Katt H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are supposed to do?
The only thing you can do is learn form the experience and carry on. Seems like a big mountain now, but you will hal and grow and be a better person because of it.
2006-10-18 14:40:29 · answer #7 · answered by adrian_biccum 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let him marry her if he truly loves her let him go. I know its going to be hard I've been there and I'm still there. I have to let my guy go to if he truly loves his ex I think he deserves to be happy. And sometimes u just have to let the person u love the most go I know its hard but were women and we have to be strong and support eachother. So good luck 2 both of us.
2006-10-18 14:46:07 · answer #8 · answered by Steph1490 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over the guy and find a new best friend...neither of them were working out for you.
2006-10-18 14:39:47 · answer #9 · answered by Jeremy K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that's "F'd" up. The only thing you can do is get over it and the next relationship your in don't let your man and you friends spend too much time together.
2006-10-18 14:40:29 · answer #10 · answered by ♥♪ TrickNice ♪♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah well your heart was broken, that happens from time to time... ummm what I think you should do, is have some fun be single and do your best to remember the good times, forget the bad and tell your "friend" whom he is marrying that he'll leave her for the next best girl... dont trip you'll be fine, it happens to everyone.
2006-10-18 14:37:51 · answer #11 · answered by J from O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋