This relationship is very domanationg, controlling and mentally abusive. However one of my other friends is totally crushing on her and she likes him. What should she do and how should I help her.
2006-10-18 07:34:33 · 15 answers · asked by Redneck Girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
jus let her deal wit her affairs.....
get on wit ur work, coz she obviously has a crush on him...
and if u interfere, u may lose ur frnd....
jus don encourage, either!
and,....
if she is as smart as u, she'l soon dump him herself!
so,
gud luck wit ur frnd
2006-10-18 07:43:59 · answer #1 · answered by yusuke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are her friend, you only hear her side of the story, stay out of it. If she is interested in someone else already, then there really is no relationship with the first is there.
You can help her by listening to her as you have obviously done but I wouldn't give advice, especialy if your friend is married, if the relationship is as bad as she says, why hasn't she done something about it besideds complain. No one has the right to abuse another and having said that she should have taken the matter into her own hands and dealt with it, before looking at other men.
Only she knows what is good for her, she chose this relationship she will have to choose whether it is worth salvaging or not.
If you are only kids and it is not a union like marriage, then by all means she should get away fast from anyone male or female that abuses and tries to dominate, we are past that stage hopefully in life, and bullies must be made to understand that we are not having any of it, and he will end up a lonely person if he doesn't seek the help he needs. Just be there for your friend.
2006-10-18 07:44:47 · answer #2 · answered by Neptune2bsure 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend in the simular situation minus the other guy. It is very hard to get them to see how abusive and controlling they are being. You just have to keep telling them and showing them the better side of a relationship without them. Take that person out to dinner just you and her and have the other guy just show up out of no where and have a chat with him and her for a while and see if you can get her to change her mind. Good Luck tho it is really hard. My friend says she really loves this guy she is with but just won't walk away when it is the best thing for her. Just hang in there and be supportive of her and she will see what you are doing is helping her.
Good Luck
2006-10-18 07:38:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has to decide that she wants out. If she wants to be with him there is nothing you can do to convince her. If she has talked to you and is looking for a way out she just needs to do it. Don't let her wait until its to late. My best friend was murdered by her husband two years ago. There were no signs of physical abuse but he was also controlling and mentally abusive. People never believe it can happen to them, but it happens everyday. Theres a great organization called Safeplace that will help.
2006-10-18 07:44:24 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when this has happened to me I learned that you being their friend is the best thing but if you talk badly about her guy she'll get defensive and start making excuses for him. I've seen this many times just chose your words wisely and try it from a different angle (then dogging on him), even though this guy may be the biggest a--hole. Good Luck it's hard to see a friend in that situation.
2006-10-18 07:38:25 · answer #5 · answered by janet_67_1998 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get her help, i was in an abusive relationship for two years (physically abused, mentally, emotionally, verballly, he tried to kill me twice). that is what will happen to her if she does not get out of the relationship now, it will only get worse. i wish someone knew about my relationship when i was in it and was concerned about me, and that is just awesome that you are so concerned for her, and you should be. Well, confront her about it, tell an adult, and get that c**kface away from her. You are a GREAT friend...
2006-10-18 07:39:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to get out of that relationship she's in, but spend some time single before hooking up with someone else. Rebound relationships suck for both parties involved.
2006-10-18 07:45:59 · answer #7 · answered by calliope320 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
help her get out of the bad relationship she is in . thats not healthy fo her an even tho a friends crushing on her she shouldnt move on so quick after getting out of a bad relationship
2006-10-18 07:37:10 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to allow your friend to make her own decision. Be an ear to listen and let her know that you will support her in whatever decision she makes. Though I would probably warn her that her bad relationship will probably only get worse.
2006-10-18 07:38:54 · answer #9 · answered by Beauty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a female buddy who had a crush on a user. A user is a guy who once you have sex with him he treats u like crap. You'll just have to deal with it and keep persuading her on how bad the guy is. Evidently she'll come to reality
2006-10-18 07:37:28 · answer #10 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her the reasons why she shouldnt be with the jerk, and how ur friend is a lot better for her. point out the jerks flaws to her and have ur guy friend show her how a girl should be treated. talk to her about this. it will help
2006-10-18 07:36:56 · answer #11 · answered by MiDnIgHt FiStFiGhT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋