how long should it take a newly wed couple to send thank you notes?

Answer 1

You have up to a year to send out your thank yous, but I would suggest to get them done as soon as possible. That way you don't have to worry if you sent one to this person or that person if you wait to do them.

Answer 2

Ideally, you should write the thank you notes as you receive the gifts. Gifts are typically sent to the home of the bride before the wedding. If you wait until after the honeymoon you should have all thank you notes sent within three months of receiving the gift. And, even though you haven't asked this I'd like to mention, not to just sign your name to the bottom of some pre-printed card. Personalize each of them with a special note to your guest letting them know that you actually know and appreciate their gift. After all, your guest has gone to the trouble of selecting a gift so you should at least acknowledge it in a personal way.

Answer 3

We took a week-long honeymoon and the second we got home, I sent out thank you notes -literally one week after the wedding. A year later, people are still talking about how awesome that was. By the way, we had 135 guests at our wedding...

Answer 4

I think that as a matter of courtesy they should send them within a few weeks of getting back from their honeymoon. Sadly though, good manners are dying out so many may not even realise they ought to send them. They may feel saying a verbal thank you at the reception is enough. Not very elegant but unfortunately becoming not uncommon.

Answer 5

I had ours out 2 weeks after the wedding....we also had a second reception (because we were from different states) and I had those out within 2 or 3 weeks. Just do a few a day and before you know it, they'll be done!

Answer 6

They have up to one year just like you have up to one year to send a gift. However, I can't see why anyone should take more than one month to send a thank you card (after returning from the honeymoon).

Even if they have 150 thank you's to send,... if they wrote out 5 a night then they would be done in about a month's time. And that's with 150 thank you's! If they have more like 75 then there really are no excuses (I don't think, anyway).

Answer 7

Depends on how big the wedding was and how long the recipient expects the notes to be.

For instance, my Husband is 100% Italian. There were 400+ at our wedding and each Italian relative expected an elaborate, gushing note to thank them for their gift(s). Even those that didn't bring gifts, called us after the fact and told us that they had never received their thank-you note.

I understand that it is nice to thank everyone, but with 400+ guests, I didn't think that we should send thank you notes to guests to thank them for eating the food and the open bar that WE had shelled out all of the dough for!

18 months later ... I am still hearing about people that didn't get thank you notes.

So, to answer your question, I would say that within 6 months of the wedding for large groups with intimate notes and within 3 months for large groups with plain notes. For smaller weddings, I would say that within a month of the wedding is appropriate.

Make sure that your new Husband sucks it up and writes the notes with you.

Good luck!

Answer 8

The answer used to be one year, but this is no longer proper or polite.

You have 1 year to send a gift, but thank yous need to be sent within 2 weeks of receiving the gift. Period. Anything else is just plain tacky.


Edit: Don't you just love it when you get thumbs down for giving the right answer? lol.

Answer 9

No more than two months after the wedding.

Answer 10

The note for each gift should go out ASAP, preferably within two weeks of receiving THAT specific gift. If away on honeymoon, ASAP upon return.

The "one year" thing, for giving a gift OR for thank you notes, is a huge etiquette MYTH.

Answer 11

2-3 months usually with a wedding picture is the average time..but i heard up 2 6 months