i know this guy through my ex(i caught my ex of a few years cheating so i left him)this guy comforted me one night while i was still bitter and was so sweet,i heard he likes me but is freaked about my ex(who is still trying to get me back)i have not seen this guy in about 6 months and i still think about him,there is this yearly party coming up and he will be there,i wanna go and talk to him again but he rsvp'd for himself plus a guest,so i assume he has a date.Then there is this other guy who bartends at the corner bar and he says he likes me and always flirts with me and gives me free drinks but he has a girlfriend he has been with for 8 months.I can tell he is not into his girl all that much,but im afraid to get involved in the cause of a breakup,so should i go for my ex's friend in hopes of one day him seeing past my ex?or the bartender,in hopes of him leaving his girlfriend?
2006-10-18 07:10:58 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If someone will do something with you they will do it to you.
if the bartender is flirting with you and likely countless other customers even though he has a girlfriend, when you are his girlfriend he will probably do the same thing.
The other guy sounds like a weenie. I recommend option 3, one of the other 3 billion men out there.
2006-10-18 07:14:57 · answer #1 · answered by Sara 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from the bartender, regardless of his feelings for his current G/F, you don't want to be the onr that brings everything to the forefront and gets a rep as a home wrecker (or similar)...
As for the friend of your ex, he is just bringing a guest, ok so it has been 6 months and it could be a date, but at the same time it could just be a friend...
I would take a friend, and let it be know that it is just a friend. Maybe his situation will be the same... If its not, thank him for his friendship in your time of need, wish him all the happiness in the world and then get on with your life, letting love find you again in the process...
There is no point rushing these things coz if you try too hard, you end up settling for something less than what you deserve...
Hope this helps,
Good luck
2006-10-18 14:20:04 · answer #2 · answered by KJA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first let me address the idea of going for the bartender. You didn't like it when your man cheated on you did you? Respect the girlfriend enough to just drop the idea of going for him. If he's not happy with her then he should break up with her and if he ever does and you are still single then there you go.....as for the friend, you should call him. Tell him you would like to see him sometime and see what happens. Explain that there is no chance for you and the ex to get back together. He will be the one to decide if he wants to persue something with you or not in light of his friendship with your ex. Whether you want your ex back or not that is still his friend and if he knows his friend still has feelings for you he may stay clear and as a friend that would be a good quality. Maybe eventually your ex will move on and then you and the friend can move forward.
Good Luck.
2006-10-18 14:19:46 · answer #3 · answered by Tallulah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems like you like your ex's friend more than the bartender guy.
And besides just because he rsvp'd for himself and someone else doesn't nessicarially mean he has a date. And that doesn't exactly mean that he has a girlfriend. I think that the only reason that he didn't ask you out six months ago is because of your ex. I would go to the party and see him and just talk to him.
2006-10-18 14:17:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the first guy is dating someone else so count him out. As far as the bartender, I would be careful hooking up with a guy with a girl friend ( i have used that same line about not really being into my girl friend). You will just get your heart broken. Take it from a guy who is has cheated multiple times on a few different girlfriends. Guys who cheat, continue to cheat. I don't go in to relationships saying hey I'm going to cheat, but it seems like every time I get in a fight with the girl or whatever I end up hooking up with somebody else. I tend to end up with girls just like you( it's weird how that works). 4 of my ex girlfriends have had an ex that cheated on them and then I end up doing the same thing to them all over again. I have an issue with being faithful to girls and you have an issue with hooking up with guys who cheat. How do you change that? I Don't really know but try and be careful in how you pick your guys. But if you insist on picking the bad boy...I just broke up with my girl friend, give me a buzz ( yes I cheated on her).
2006-10-18 14:21:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well even of the bartender is not into the girl...she's still his girlfriend and unless he breaks up with her, dont try to do anything with the guy. with regards to the other guy, go to the party and see how it goes. If you see some spark then ask him about his date and if he says it's his gf..say too bad and walk away...That will empower you. You dont need a man to make your life happy. Be happy to be single and wait for the right guy for you. If either of this 2 are really the one meant to be with you, fate will intervene...:-)
2006-10-18 14:16:52 · answer #6 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see that you are very needy. What I'm saying is that you are looking for love in the wrong places and people. Jesus is the only one at this time who could give you peace where men or any other matter could solve. I suggest that you take time out and seek Him and He will began a work in you that will change your perspective about yourself and the men you choose. I'm not saying it will be easy but a willing mind is accepted with the Lord.He loves you and wants the best for you. God bless.
2006-10-18 14:20:53 · answer #7 · answered by tfjfiggers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello...Darnell,
Please Darnell, are you really that desperate? Please move on and be more particular about who you date and jump in the sack with. Sounds like to me that you move to fast. You need to think more of yourself so you can attract a good quality man for your life. Do you realize that you are worth more than you seem to give yourself credit for?. Well, you are. A lot more.
You're a woman and I believe in woman, so that means I believe in you. Set your own pace and make the terms yours not theirs. Take a deep breath and slow yourself down. Trust me I don't believe for one second that you will find a quality man in a bar.
So unless you are looking for just a one night stand please stay away from the bar crowd. The bar crowd is worth a dime a dozen. You're worth more than a dime aren't you? There are many ways to meet a good man and mate or husband for your life all you need to do is believe more in yourself. I so encourage you to look the other way and start thinking smart. Be the beautiful lady that I know you really are. Think in your head everyday "Positive attraction will cause a positive action" and you will meet the man of your dreams. And I also suggest to start praying to God for that right person to come into your life. You will know in your heart when you meet him if you give it to God and trust his will for you. please be patient.
Love yourself and love God.
Sincerely, ...J (:
2006-10-18 16:58:14 · answer #8 · answered by Jeanie N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you *like* creating drama in your life?
Low- drama dating rules:
1. If they are in a relationship, stay the heck away from them!
2. If they are not interested, leave them alone!
3. Don't mess with their heads. Literally.
2006-10-18 14:14:39 · answer #9 · answered by eriayasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,,, hmmm,,,,, I will be willing to bet you that the bar tender is not only giving You free drinks.....
I would go for the guy that really seems to care about you....and not just to get in your pants !!!
good luck
2006-10-18 14:13:55 · answer #10 · answered by eejonesaux 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋