ok so im a virgin and my bf wants to have sex. He talks about all this stuff that i dont know about. does it hurt? do i bleed? i mean, what happens?
2006-10-18 07:01:55 · 9 answers · asked by shauna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Before you ever consider having sex, make sure you are comfortable with the relationship you have, and make sure its something you BOTH want to do. Sex will not save a relationship, and honestly, doesn't make it specifically better, especially early on. If you're being pressured for sex, that's all the more reason not to do it--it should be something special for you, not a source of anguish, stress, and possible regret.
Sex can be uncomfortable the first few times, as it is definitely a new sensation. You may bleed a little bit, and that is perfectly normal. In general, you should wait until it's something YOU want. For girls, the first experience is a very powerful one, and can shape the way you feel about sex for the rest of your life. If you rush into it, if you're immature, if you feel like it might be a mistake, you could wind up feeling guilty and regretting your decision for a long, long time.
Saving yourself for marriage is an excellent goal, but in the world today, it's more realistic to save yourself for a stable, honest relationship. But most important, you should wait until you are sure. No one can make your mind up for you, but it is important to be at peace with your decision. Going in to your first experience with a clear conscience and an open mind is vitally important.
Good luck!
2006-10-18 07:15:07 · answer #1 · answered by lydia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first question would be how old are you? A lot of people say you should wait till your married everyone I guess has their own opinion. My opinion is that sex should be done with someone you love and when you are old enough to take responsibility for what can happen after words like getting pregnant. Everyone is different some say it hurts, some say it don't, some bleed and some don't everyone is built different. If you have to ask then I don't think your ready. Don't do anything you don't want to and if your not ready don't there's really not a right or wrong time it's something you just know when it happens.
2006-10-18 07:32:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, u REALLY need 2 talk 2 ur boyfriend about this. I hope it's a lovin, open, respectful relationship blah, blah, blah
But anyway, 4give me if this stuff sounds crude, but I'll try 2 explain the best I can:
My 1st time didn't hurt. I bled slightly afterwards (when I cleaned myself up in the privacy of the toilet), so he had no idea it was my 1st time.
My 2nd time (different guy) hurt. Not majorly, but there was some pain. He'd obviously gone somewhere no man had been before. However, no bleeding (hurrah!)
After that, it was all fine. If u r 2 nervous about stuff, ur body clams up & makes the whole process much more difficult.
As 4 the stuff he talks about, I wouldn't know where 2 begin if u don't mention specifics. If u don't know the basics, find out 2 give urself greater confidence, but nobody can b expected 2 know everything!
Good luck, x
2006-10-18 07:11:55 · answer #3 · answered by viv friend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it will be uncomfortable and may even hurt a little when you first do it. Don't worry it does get better. Yu may bleed a little the first time but dont worry its normal. Just make sure that when you do decide to have sex he plays alot down there first. If he does this it will produce lubrication and maybe loosen things up a little bit down there. This way it wont be so uncomfortable. You may want to go to the drugstore and buy a bottle of lubrication there as well. This stuff is slippery and it will go in easier. If his penis is big you really want to do this, because the bigger it is the more it hurts. Good Luck!
2006-10-18 07:08:41 · answer #4 · answered by Candace T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will hurt, to a certain extent, you may bleed. everyone reacts differently and things happen differently for everyone. you may feel disguisted or maybe happy or excited. it is a decision that you must make on your own. follow your heart. don't let anyone talk you into something that you're not sure of. this is something that you'll never get back. if you have religious reasons, that's great too!!! sure there will be lots of people telling you to do it and others saying don't. all i can say is that you are your own person and you must decide what is best for you...of course, i hope you're not 12 and asking this either otherwise i'd say NO WAY!!!! There are more important things at that age for your to worry about. Hopefully you are mature enough to handle it...good luck
2006-10-18 07:07:35 · answer #5 · answered by Jeni O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You give up your self esteem and the one gift only YOU can give to your future husband. You give up your respect for yourself and he gives up his respect for you, although he sounds like he has already given up respect for you. Any guy, ANY GUY who wants sex does NOT hold you in respect. He will dump you, hurt you, and leave you to cry.
First time sex with a guy like that WILL hurt, you WILL bleed, and you WILL regret it. You WILL live to hate the day you give in.
Don't do it. PERIOD!
2006-10-18 07:06:51 · answer #6 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you cause it doesnt sound like you need to be having sex till you do some research for yourself. dont do it just cause he wants you to. hay dont do it till your married.
2006-10-18 07:05:13 · answer #7 · answered by HEATHER O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
save it for marriage. Its for your own benefit. Im doing it, cause to me there is nothing more hotter than my future wife telling me she saved it just for me!
2006-10-18 07:04:03 · answer #8 · answered by jackalope_00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will hurt the first time. just make sure he is gentle and doesnt be rough
2006-10-18 07:04:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋