See my boyfriend and i have been together for 6 months and it's both our longest relationships and he tell me how to dress where i can go and when i can go. i love him and have stuck through alot that he has put me through but now my family's nickname for him is Daddy what should i do . or is it just me.
2006-10-18 06:59:51 · 29 answers · asked by j_sweetness18 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Without meaning to offend you...In this relationship, HE is the adult, and YOU are the child. Listen to yourself-please...in 6 months, he has already put you through alot...only 6 months...now, he has total control of how you are allowed to dress, where you can go(and can't), this is control...next he'll be telling you what color and type of undies to buy and wear...what you can and can't eat, and who you are allowed to be friends with, and which of your family you can and can't be in contact with... please don't loose yourself in this relationship.
2006-10-18 07:08:47 · answer #1 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you should listen to your family! This guy is a total control freak!! Why are you putting YOURSELF through this??? Do you like being told what to wear, where you can go or not??? Is this what you think love is?? Most people want to grow up and make their own decisions, don't you? It will never get better, only worse!! it's up to you do end this!!! Unless you like having another daddy! oh and by the way, it's these kinda guys that end up killing their g/f or wife when they loose control!! You really better think this through. Love isn't controlling someone!!
2006-10-18 14:06:23 · answer #2 · answered by wish I were 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in a relationship like that for 2 1/2 years. I had to leave him...and it worked out for the best! He was very controlling, and told me what to do, what to wear, how to cut/color my hair (and that's not even half of it!)...it was ridiculous! He was also older than me, so he would make the excuse that "I've been through a lot more than you, so I'm just looking out for you" which wasn't what he was doing at all..because none of it benefited me!
Talk to him...tell him that you feel you need to make some choices yourself, and see what he says. If he truly loves you, then he'll let you go where you want, wear what you want, etc...Some men just have a superiority complex, and think they need to make the decisions and be controlling...which is unhealthy for a relationship. If it continues...get out of the relationship! Trust me! It's for your benefit! As soon as I left my ex, I found the love of my life...and I am more happy than I have even been in my life! :)
Good luck and hopefully things work out for the best for you :)
2006-10-18 14:07:42 · answer #3 · answered by Huliganjetta 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my my .....it looks like my story man.. u know i was in a relationship with a guy who acted like a boos.. he loved contolling me.. he hated my friends and all the time he wanted me to be around him. he called me every hour just to see where i was and used to pointout at my dressing.. he was adorable and very sweet when we started the relationship but as the time passed he started becoming more and more possessive and dint let me go anywhere and in the end i literllay colassped.. things wud get worse if u will prolong.. u have to make a choice between love and freedom.. u will have to suffer and ur social life wud end if u will stay with him.. rest is on u
2006-10-18 14:13:35 · answer #4 · answered by hi_psychologist 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run far and fast - guys like that are a dime a dozen....... this wont be the first guy you'll have that wants to control you - you can try talking to him about it - but control freaks wont listen- they expect you to do all the listening... so if he doesnt try to work with you - give it up before you become so emotionally attached you wind up in an abusive relationship...
2006-10-18 14:04:06 · answer #5 · answered by beachnut222000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him he is controling and it will lead to abuse later down the road i was in a thing like that i was 16 going in and all most one year i was going to the hospital for battery and every month after that for somthing diffret and 18 going to the hospital for a broken arm when he pushed me down a flight of stares and that night when i got home he tried to tell me that i told on him because the cops came to the house then i was at the hospital they where askinng him if there was any abuse or constent fighting because of the broosing on my body and that was the day i left him but it might not be as bad as my guy but dont stay to find out please just dont stay it could get worse you dont know this guy stay friends for a little and get to know him
2006-10-18 14:07:00 · answer #6 · answered by schansack87 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
is your boyfriend very possessive and controlling on all aspects? Choose what you want to wear and if your out go out you can't have him tell you what top do forever he'll be telling you what friends to make next and who to drop. If my boyfriend starts i go kk dad and make a joke out of it as it is very annoying, sit down and talk aswell and tell him and explain that you feel like his daughter instead of a girlfriend etc.
2006-10-18 14:03:48 · answer #7 · answered by sez75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the bf should have some say in what you wear, where you go, and when. I think your family is not too worried if they just gave him a nickname. Apparently they think it is appropriate for him to have some say as well. i think you need to calm down and realize he is trying to keep you safe, and trying to prevent perverts from staring at you. You should feel honored that he cares that much for you.
2006-10-18 14:03:17 · answer #8 · answered by ~Happy~ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
one or two things happened. you chose him because you saw your dad in him or he is just like his dad. This is why it is so important to get to know someone before getting involved. Getting to know is more than the person. If you spend time w/ the parent you will better understand what child is going to be like. REMEMBER: The apple don't fall far from the tree.
2006-10-18 14:05:00 · answer #9 · answered by Chris T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the jerk. Are you out looking for another father??? I doubt it. I actually ending an engagement because the dude i was seeing thought he was gonna tell me what to do who i can talk to and what to wear, honey you are better off without him, its hard enough making your own decisions you don't need him telling you what to do, kick his *** to the curb!!! That is not a healthy behavior!
2006-10-18 14:04:18 · answer #10 · answered by Lindsay W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋