i ran into this guy about 7 months ago and we really hit it off talking.I was still bitter about catching my ex of a few years cheating on me(he is mutual friends with my ex)he listened and understood.he drove me home that night and i invited him to stay,i asked him to sleep in the bed with me,he did,i asked him to put his arm around me,he did till i slept,he did not try anything.the next morning things were awkward when he left,a mutual friend told me he liked me but is freaked about my ex(who is still trying to get me back)i saw him once since that night and he came to me and said"your killing me",i have thought of him ever since.there is this yearly party coming up and both my ex and this guy will be there,i dont mind seeing my ex,for i m over him now,but i want to see this other guy in hopes of talking to him again,although he rsvp'd for himself plus a guest,so i assume he has a date,should i still go?the host of the party is more my ex's freind than mine.
2006-10-18 06:55:37 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah, you gotta go at least to find out who the guest is....
2006-10-18 06:57:38 · answer #1 · answered by Andy FF1,2,CrTr,4,5,6,7,8,9,10 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dating your ex's friend is never a good thing! But sometime you fall for someone regardless of there involvment with your past. I think you should go to the party if you were invited and bring a female friend that you feel comfortable with. See how they both act. Being over your ex is a great thing. But is he over you? If you respect yourself as a person you may want to talk to your ex and explain to him what your feeling. You dont want to step on anyones feet! But make sure he wants you (the friend) before you open that door. If he is willing to risk it then go with your heart. Dont let amyone stand in your way of happiness!
Good Luck!
2006-10-18 14:05:29 · answer #2 · answered by JJSassy99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is apparent this guy is being torn between starting an relatinship with you and his friendship with your ex he is hearing your ex talk about you and what ya'll had and the ex wants that back you dont but this new guy probably feels he will be jeopardizing his friendship with the ex and the ex WILL feel betrayed by him if he knows you two are concidering a relationship tell the new guy how you feel about him and if you start a relationship you will have to not be included in the past circle of friends and gatherings that will only keep your ex in the picture and a threat to the newfounded love dont go to your ex's party that will just keep him thinking you still want to be apart of his life and he can still know about yours
2006-10-18 14:08:39 · answer #3 · answered by dyxiedoll 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel out of place going because it's your ex's friend who is hosting, then you might not want to go. If your only going for the purpose of seeing this other guy, you have to think how would it make you feel if you saw him with a date? Would it hurt you? You might not want to go. There are a lot of factors here to consider. Good luck!!
2006-10-18 14:02:59 · answer #4 · answered by wenda w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you do attend the party, you are putting this guy in a very awkward situation and he may not appreciate that. If your ex is there, this guy is not going to want to talk to you in length - it seems to me that he is feeling guilty about his feelings towards you and is worried about hurting his friend (or getting punched out by him!) I agree, you need to talk to him but this particular party might not be the best place to do it.
2006-10-18 13:59:57 · answer #5 · answered by flopsyfletcher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with a open heart. Its a 50 - 50 chance. Pls be mentally prepare for the worst!
2006-10-18 13:59:11 · answer #6 · answered by Sob Sob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO AND HAVE A GREAT TIME...IF U GET TO TALK TO THE OTHER GUY THEN THATS JUST A BONUS...BUT IF NOT AT LEAST U GOT TO LOOK AT HIM AND BE THERE HAVING FUN....IF HE TOLD U THAT U KILL HIM THEN THERE IS MORE THERE THAN U THINK....mAYBE HE IS WORRIED ABOUT HIS FRINED UR EX GETTING MAD AT HIM BUT U CAN'T ALWAYS CONTROL UR FEELINGS AND AS LONG AS U KEEP SHOWING UP WHERE HE IS THE HARDER IT WILL BE FOR HIM TO HIDE HIS FEELINGS FOR U..GO FOR IT GIRL...GOOD LUCK
2006-10-18 14:02:10 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you should go. Who knows, the person he's bringing could be a guy friend.
2006-10-18 14:00:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait---go to a different engagement with this new guy
u may end of being disappointed---don't set yourself up for heartbreak if u ALREADY KNOW he is bringing a girl guest.
2006-10-18 13:57:39 · answer #9 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful about this. If your ex is still whiny about the situation, then distance yourself.
2006-10-18 13:57:56 · answer #10 · answered by chrstnwrtr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't go , due too the fact you might get caught up in your own losses.
2006-10-18 14:00:55 · answer #11 · answered by Deandre 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋