IS Chivalry dead? and Why?

Question

Is chivalry dead? I know i was brought up to show chivalry to women, but it seems that they end up abusing it and taking advantage of me.

Answer 1

Chuy, its not dead but very hard to find.

I think girls take advantage of you because society today teaches immediate self gratification...its all about # 1. . . get what you want when you want it...with no consideration of other people. Not the right way to be but its reality.

Hang in there, you will eventually find someone who appreciates you and doesn't use you.

Answer 2

This is a good question. I think that the sexual revolution was beneficial to women but it has also created confusion among both women and men in regards to expectations from the opposite sex. Chivalry, and the lack thereof, is an example of an area that has become confusing. Do you open a door for a woman or not? Do you help a woman with a heavy bag trying to store it in the overhead compartment on an airplane? Do you give up your seat on a bus if it's the last seat and a woman gets on the bus?

These are all areas where I've observed that for the most part men are not so inclined to help these days. Is chivalry dead? Well, I think it's rare.

Ultimately, I also think that it goes back to respect and compassion for others. These are two qualities/characteristics also lacking in much of society today.

Answer 3

Nah... it's not dead... some guys just seem to care about being polite and doing the chivalrous kinds of things... I know I've heard it a few times from older women when I'm leaving a building, or going in before them and I hold the door open (because, a'duh. of course I would) and they say "Ohh look at that, I guess chivalry isn't dead!" ::shrug:: it's just that most guys don't have that mindset, I do those kinds of things without thinking, really... if women are taking advantage of it (I don't really know what you mean by that) then just turn the other cheek and let them walk away ^_^

Answer 4

Chivalry IS about turning the other cheek. Its about the repect you show towards women. You don't have to perform every chivalrous act to every woman every day. Do the simple things like opening doors or standing when she does for the everyday people, then do the truly special stuff for the women in your life. Obviously your female family members (although I think the standards are for girls starting around 14 or 15) and don't go totally out on a limb for a first or even second date. Pull the stops out when you're mostly sure she's not just dazzled by the fact that she found a gentlemen!!!

Answer 5

Chivalry is dead to the idiot women that killed it. To a lady that wants to be treated like a lady, it is very much alive. As far as taking advantage of you, a lady will not do that. She will appreciate the few and far between gentlemen that still exist. Remember, if she spreads them for you on the first date, who else will she spread them for on the first date or when she gets angry with you. Keep the course. You'll find a woman that appreciates you.

Answer 6

I don't think it's dead, but it's rare. I think that chivalry has to run both ways, If these women are taking advantage of you, they're not chivalrous. Keep looking, there are still plenty of women out there that will appreciate your kindness and courtesy.

Answer 7

What are you defining as chivalry?

Opening doors and offering your hand is chivalrous.

Giving a woman your money is foolish.

Seems that chivalry is pretty hard to abuse, but foolishness is easy to take advantage of.

Answer 8

A maximum decisive and resounding NO! Chivalry isn't ineffective, even though it has usually fallen by using the wayside because of the fact human beings do no longer comprehend what to do with it whilst it is provided. Gallantry is now fallacious for creepiness.

Answer 9

Ilove it and was raised by a Knight in shinning armor- but its more about respect, casualness is ok, that doesn't have anything to do with being honorable, truthful, polite and a gentleman- or lady. Wouldn't it be nice to have the extra openess we have now (sex,relationships etc) and have aliitle more courting and old fashioned romance? A bit of mystery? Maybe girls shouldn't open up (ahem) on the first date and guys shouldn't expect it- maybe it would be nice to get turned on by playing the game longer- not teasing, just "dancing" if you know what I mean....PS-I married an englishman from Africa, the closest thing to Tarzan I could get!

Answer 10

I love chivalry, but its really rare to see it in L.A. Those women don't know proper etiquette. If someone opens the door for me I say thank you, that's it! Don't stop being chivalrous because a few "Lady's" do not appreciate it.