we originally planned a lavish wedding but due to skyrocketing costs and demanding families we'd like to move our wedding to vegas! but my question is we're doing an open invitation a whoever wants to come can come type thing so do we have a shower or not? i know you're only supposed to invite people who are invited to the wedding to the shower but we're inviting whoever wants to come so i have no idea! thanks for any and all help!
2006-10-18 06:50:29 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There is no rule that says you cannot have a shower. You are so smart to kick the traditional wedding crap to the curb. You will save so much money, which can be used for more productive things. I think having a shower before you leave will give everyone who can't make it a chance to share some wedding moment with you. Good luck!
2006-10-18 06:59:57 · answer #1 · answered by j3572h 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would suggest that you have the shower and let your (families) you mentioned that they were demanding throw you the shower(s). It sounds like they want to have some part in the wedding and it would be a nice gesture on your parts to let them have some control just over the showers. Let them do the planning, the preparing, and the paying for the showers.
With the costs always on the rise, a shower is still a great way to include everyone in the celebration of your upcoming nuptials without expecting them to actually pay to go to Vegas with you. After all, you can't expect everyone to want/be able to attend your wedding in Vegas and they at least get to be a part of the process by attending a shower.
Congratulations and best of luck!
2006-10-18 07:12:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're going to do Vegas, I suggest the Valley of Fire state park. My husband and I got married there, and it was awesome. We have the nicest wedding pictures of anyone I know. There are companies that specialize in doing weddings there and other destinations in Vegas. Plus, if you end up with tons of people you don't have a seating problem, because everyone has to stand anyway!
Do a reception when you get home. Instead of $30 a plate and hundreds for a hall, you can bbq hotdogs and hamburgers as you pass around pictures of the wedding. People will get to congratulate you, see the pictures if they couldn't go, and they can decide whether or not to bring you a gift.
2006-10-18 07:12:28 · answer #3 · answered by calliope320 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no need for a shower, but if you want one, have a family member throw one for you. Give him/her the list of the people you are inviting and be done with it.
As far as it being 'whoever wants to come', are they to RSVP? If not, how are you going to plan for food, space, drinks, champagne, or even tables, chairs, plates, etc? Some places only have room for like 15 people, are you prepared to turn people away?
2006-10-18 09:36:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the shower and extend the same invitation to everyone.
Of course any invitation is 'whoever wants to come' so don't worry, you are not asking too much of anyone.
2006-10-18 07:07:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, what you do is this. If you want to get married in Vegas, get married in Vegas. Invite anyone who is willing to pay their OWN way to witness it. Then come back and have a reception. The reception will consist of whatever guys you and your husband chooses. That way you are saving cost on both the wedding and reception.
2006-10-18 07:24:17 · answer #6 · answered by T W 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't do a shower it will just be easier.
If people want to send you gifts they can, and this way it doesn't look like you are asking people to give you gifts just b/c someone has a party for you.
2006-10-18 07:45:42 · answer #7 · answered by ee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋