My mother and sister are incuded in the commision of these crimes which include arson, insurance fraud and conning churches out of money. That is just part of it. I am not sure how to handle this. Tell or not? My sister put me down as a contact source with the insurance company. I will not lie!
2006-10-18 06:44:36 · 28 answers · asked by Gretta 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Wow! They are manipulating you. Tell them you will not get involved with their chaotic lifestyle. Don't let them drag you into it because if they go down so will you. I'm not sure if you live at home or not. I'd say keep them minimally in your life. If you turn them in they may go to jail and if you are a juvenile you may end up in foster care or if lucky another stable family member. People like this are leaches and you are their host they suck the blood from. Stay away!
Tough decision. Good luck
2006-10-18 06:50:43 · answer #1 · answered by Aidge 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are very noble to want to do the right thing. I'm sure your heart is torn - this is your family you are talking about!
I think you already know what that is you must do you are just wanting affirmation from some non-biased outside sources.
You must, must MUST turn them in to the authorities! Do it TODAY! They are placing you in a position where you can be dragged into the crime not by means of actually COMMITTING a crime but by aiding & abetting a criminal. If you continue to allow this to happen WHEN your family members get caught - and they always do - you are going to go down with them. Especially now that your sister has listed you as a contact source.
I'm praying God will give you strength to do the right thing and turn them in to the authorities.
God bless you!
2006-10-18 14:04:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have knowledge of a crime and you fail to report that crime, you could be charged as an accesory to that crime. If you don't want to face the possibility of doing jail-time because of your mother's and sister's actions, then I would suggest that you go to the police and report them. Yes, they will be mad at you. Yes, mad is probably an understatment. Yes, you will have to go to Court and testify against them. Yes, it will be the most difficult thing you've ever done. But .... do you want to do jail time for them? And, more importantly, could you live with yourself if you ignored this or lied about this? I think you answered your own question in your post, but I thought you might like some additional help. The right choice isn't always the easiest choice, but in your heart ... you know what the right choice is.
2006-10-18 13:50:59 · answer #3 · answered by kc_warpaint 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a really tough spot to be in. However, now that you know about the crime and your sister has even gone as far as to include you as a contact source you have become involved. That can cause you to get into to trouble. You really have to tell. Perhaps you can call anonymously and just suggest an investigation. If you are able to remain anonymous your family won't have any bad feeling towrds you. Good luck.
2006-10-18 13:48:59 · answer #4 · answered by tsopolly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister and mother are committing serious crimes as you say.. Complaining to the police about your own family is not at all an easy task. But watching them commit crimes against people is far more worse. Yes you need to tell. And you need to act on it immediately before anything worse happens. You will do both your mum and sister a favour before the get in to serious terrible..By telling you are doing the right thing...
2006-10-18 13:52:36 · answer #5 · answered by julia1975 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respectfully inform your sister, via letter if you have a hard time saying it, that you are uncomfortable and that it's not fair of her to expect you to lie. Tell her you love her and your mother and that the strongest evidence of that is your willingness not to turn them into the authorities. But then tell them both that they ought to stop...what if someone got hurt? What if a fire accidentally ignited a nearby home and killed an innocent person? They might not care, but would they want YOU to have that person's life or injuries on YOUR conscience? If worse comes to worst, tell someone you know what's going on, like a preacher or a friend, and tell them you can't rat out your family but you feel awful for what they're doing. If they care about you, they'll inform the authorities for you, and it'll be off your shoulders. Sorry you are going through this. Good luck.
2006-10-18 14:03:32 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Family or not you cannot put yourself in such a precarious situation! Should it ever come down to having to testify against them to save yourself, don't think twice about it!
Do let your family members know of your intentions if and when they get busted. Be assertive, don't back down!
Some of the crimes they are involved in are very serious because they can possibly endanger life. Don't hesitate to turn them in if you ever know of any harm that has some to innocent people.
Remember that in the eyes of the law you are just as guilty for covering as they are for committing the crimes. You are considered as accessory to a crime and can face still jail sentences.
Good luck!
2006-10-18 13:51:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right. You just said you won't lie and you shouldn't even get involved, especially w/ the church thing. I would let them know that what they are doing is wrong and if they don't like it (which they won't) then I would stop speaking and being around them cause when they do get caught and you know what they were doing and didn't say anything. that's the same as committing the crime. If your first instinct was to tell whether its your family or not then tell.
2006-10-18 15:49:41 · answer #8 · answered by krazyrenee91606 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should probably disconnect yourself from your family that is committing these crimes because one day you may be with them when they do get caught and rather or not you did any crime you will be taken in also and if you know about them that is is a heavy burden it will be hard at first but you will be better off to not have anything to do with them at all dont lie or cover for them that will pull you into their circle the insurance company can press fraud charges against you if you lie and they find out and one day they will find out good luck and get out of there
2006-10-18 13:50:10 · answer #9 · answered by dyxiedoll 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not as easy as do it or don't do it. On one hand, they're stealing and it could get you in trouble. On the other hand it is your family. No one knows if you should turn them in or not, No one knows if you should bleach the truth a bit or be 100% honest when the insurance inspectors call. Your mother gave birth to you and your sister grew up with you. How will you feel when they are sitting in jail for 5 years? I know its not your fault that they broke the law, but you will feel responsible for them going to jail. think it over and think about how you'll feel if you lie or if your mom and sister go to jail for 5 years. either way, you need to be honest with them and let them know how you feel. I hear you saying you won't lie, but not telling them you're going to turn them into the cops is not what one could call "honest"
2006-10-18 14:10:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋