i have just started a chastised life, which is pretty easy cause i'm a 14yr old virgin. i dress modestly but also very feminine, avoiding teenage cloths as they seem to invite sex, prefer flat but feminine mary jane shoes, knee high socks and dresses with collars and i wear my hair very short and never wear make up. Women tell me its a pretty and respectful look to them and school girls my own age who are not christains say a look dorky and will never get a boyfriend dressed like that. i like it and i think is a good way for a christain girl to dress if she's serious about her chastity and avoiding the attention and tempation of boys, who seem to a pretty one tracked mind.
2006-10-18 06:37:53 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Bravo Sister!!
Dressing modestly is not "dressing down" as someone else has said. Modest does not equal frumpy.
It's tasteful, elegant and stylish. I have found the most wonderful modest dress from an Islamic site. See the link below.
Trashy clothes do not make us feminine. Do not make us pretty. Revealing clothing just screams loud and clear that one is insecure and will do anything for attention.
Let me give you a for instance: I had this friend. We'll call her Nikki. Nikki and I both loved Irish Pubs. We found one we went to sometimes two or three nights a week for dancing. Nikki was very insecure and used to wear skirts so short I'd call them wide belts. She'd also wear 4 or 5 inch stiletto heels. I always went in very modest cloths. Jeans and basic tees.
Nikki would get "propositioned" every 5 minutes. I'd get asked out to dinner and invited over to meet the "family."
Rather than change, Nikki began to hate me. We are no longer friends.
2006-10-18 06:53:07 · answer #1 · answered by Max Marie, OFS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Little One,
I am not a Christian but i am a mother! I have two daughters and two sons! To me what you wear is how you see yourself! I must admit that some of the dress girls are wearing today is a bit tacky and tasteless and I thank my lucky stars my girls never wore them.
I wouldn't want my child to feel plain and insignificant about themselves but, if what they wear makes them happy.. I can't ask for anything more!
However, Wearing clothing that reveals too much can be a very bad thing. You attract the wrong attention and sometimes violent attacks. I'm not just talking about physical attacks I'm also talking about verbal ones. People are mean, and they can say things that are disgusting.
Besides, there is no reason to lower yourself when there are so many outfits out there that can enhance every quality without making you look cheap!
Be wise and be happy! Dress in a way that makes YOU happy! It is really all that matters. You will make everyone else happy just by being so yourself!
2006-10-18 07:23:42 · answer #2 · answered by wonderingmom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all teenage clothes invite sex. You can be very hip and not be out of style. Your outfit sounds like you are starting a new trend.
The bottom line is:
How tight are your clothes?
Does your stomach or breast show?
You can wear makeup tastefully.
I think if you can wear "modern" clothes in a modest way, you can teach some of the other girls that it's possible to dress cute & modest.
One thing my teenage daughter & I use as a barometer is her brother. If he comments, then we know it's too tight,etc. Find a teenage chaste boy that can give you feed back.
Good for you.
Another good thing to not worry about is getting a boyfriend. If you are a Christian, then you don't need the attention of earthly men to feel loved & valued. When you're old enough to have a boyfriend, then a respectable boy will respect you and not make passes and will be saving himself for you. Check out Girls of Grace or Rebecca St James. You may have already. God will bless you for it!
2006-10-18 06:45:26 · answer #3 · answered by megmom 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Don't go overboard. I'm like you--I want to dress modestly to keep boys' minds off my body, but I also dress somewhat fashionably. I would recommend, for a slightly more stylish look, a pair of not-skin-tight jeans, a shirt that comes all the way down past the top of the jeans and isn't low-cut or with spaghetii straps, and maybe a pair of earrings. You can get fashionable-yet-modest shirts from PacSun and Aeropostale and Hollister if you look.
Remember: you don't need a boyfriend who only wants you for your body!! If girls tell you that, say that you don't want one if that's all he's thinking about anyway!
Keep it up!
2006-10-18 06:43:13 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I'm impressed. I must say, I didn't figure out the importance of modesty until I was 17, but you definitely take it to a further level than I ever have.
I just made sure my shorts or skirts went close to knee legth, that I didn't have a plunging neck line, and at least cap sleeves.
I never worried about wearing heels or a bit of make-up, but whatever makes you happy you know, just go for it.
Seriously, one day those girls are going to grow up and realize there's a lot more to life than having a boyfriend!
best wishes!
2006-10-18 06:56:16 · answer #5 · answered by daisyk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The clothes you wear doesn't stop guys from looking at you in certain way-look athe muslim women who cover from head to toe and they still get raped, But they way we dress is a factor. The more men see the more they want (though this is not the case for some).
Modesty has several meanings, and i think Christian women can still wear the lastest fashion's without looking like hoochies. Props to you girl
Women yes you should be free to wer what you want, but you need to realize that it has consequences
2006-10-18 06:50:18 · answer #6 · answered by Niki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am impressed that you are 14 and know your mind that well already. I live a live of chastity. I don't dress suggestively but I dress in style. I admire you for your choice. Don't worry about the girls who think you look dorky,peers are tough on other peers.You have chosen to follow GOD and that is whole lot more impressive then what outfit you got at the mall.Keep setting an example and hopefully one day it might catch on.You go girl!!!LOL
2006-10-18 06:47:19 · answer #7 · answered by Piper 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Modesty is the best policy.
Thanks for dressing mosestly. It not only helps you, but helps the boys you are around. The boys will respect you for it, and you will attract the type of boy that is interested in you, instead of just finding someone who will sleep with them.
The teenage years are very hard, and have only gotten more difficult since I was a teen. Good luck in all you do, and remember that you're worth more than the world may think you are.
2006-10-18 06:44:05 · answer #8 · answered by Tonya in TX - Duck 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't believe dress makes any difference in Christianity. Obviously you shouldn't wear anything inappropriate, but wearing fashionable clothing is not a sin. Boys (and men) are attracted to a wide range of appearances. If this style makes you happy and is who you are, then don't let anyone discourage you. If you are, however, altering yourself because you feel this portrays an outward statement, I would reconsider. God knows what is in your heart, you don't need any kind of sign to anyone else.
2006-10-18 07:06:14 · answer #9 · answered by shanesmommy01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Little Sister, I think you mean you have started living a "chaste" life, not a "chastised" one. To be "chaste" is to decide to remain pure, to be "chastised" is to be corrected for wrongdoing, ie rebuked.
You may dress however you feel comfortable. I personally don't wear skirts in cold weather, they aren't practical. I also don't wear sport socks with skirts; leotards or tights or nylons look much better.
Just follow your heart, sis.
2006-10-18 06:51:53 · answer #10 · answered by MamaBear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋