the guts to tell her&now we say hi to each other everyday but thats it. She makes me so nervous&i am tongue tied when i see her... I guess because i like her so much...I want to take it further be her friend&go out on dates with her...what shoud i do next?....what should I say next?...also,she is black&I am chinese so I dont know if that will be an issue with her too...
2006-10-18 06:21:38 · 15 answers · asked by strongchin1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thats so sweet frist of all. Sweetie, its hard to do when you get butterflies. When I met my husband he always gave me butterflies but I knew he was the one. Just get up the corgour to talk to her, and ask her to have coffee or a coke or (if you both are over 21) a drink. Bring her a rose and just tell her you wanted to her to know you where thinking about her, write her a poem, not one of those Roses are Red things either something from the heart, something to where you can ease it in "I'd like to take you out" or give her your number and get hers. Good LUck hon
2006-10-18 06:27:31 · answer #1 · answered by msoutherngirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk up to her and tell her that you would like to find out how a black/ chinese baby looks like. LOL , Nooo wrong answer. Sorry but....She's just as nervous. So don't worry. Start of by doing something thats hard to mess up and don't need much talking. Actions say a lot. Go ahead and buy her a chocolate or something small and tell her that its just something small because you thought about her when you were at the sweets shop. (In the mean time you think about her all the time. lol) That will help her to decide if she likes you and also make it clear to her that you romantically interested. Not just like school mates. Ask her if she would like a cold drink or whatever during break. Maybe at this stage she told you what she likes. And ask her out to a movie. Ask her what movie she would like. Be considerate. Not all on one day please. 3 days..lol Otherwise she could feel to overwhelmed and you don't want that. Main thing is, be just yourself and make sure you do everything in a fun way. Don't be too serious and take it step by step. If she says yes for the movie I can assure you that you both will be on full speaking terms. No problem. Good luck.
2006-10-18 13:33:09 · answer #2 · answered by paypaldoppie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be an issue with her, but I think the two of you would make an interesting match. She might not want to date you, because it might cause too much contraversy with her friends. She might be afraid that people might make fun of her. I am happy that you chose to tell her how you feel :-) I know what it's like to feel nervous around your crush. But if you found enough courage to tell her she was beautiful, then I would encourage you to try and engage into conversations with her. I would send her all the signals that you are interested in her. Compliment her, stare at her and when notices smile at her, make eye contact and try to find some way to have a conversation with her. Ask her about school, homework, what she does after school, what she does for fun, etc. If you don't think you can handle the pressure of talking to her, try to get your friends to talk to her so they can find out if she would consider hanging out with you. If she says no, then I wouldn't worry about it. She's probably a little nervous about dating outside her race but I would hate for this to be a race issue. I admire you for looking past these issues. But if she doesn't want to hang with you, then there's probably nothing you can do.
2006-10-18 13:35:47 · answer #3 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that you don't have the guts to tell her..It's more of the thing you don't know what to say when you want to say it, because your nervousness and your feelings of being rejected step in and make you speechless. However you can solve this by relaxing. Just go up to her, tell her how you feel.. Most females like to hear, a guys feelings, especially, if they like her. Most of all, you will never know her reaction if you don't take a step up and do it. And being of 2 different skin tones and backgrounds. Does not matter. Were not really different. Except for what nationality we have in us. But either way it doesnt matter. And yes, be yourself.
2006-10-18 13:29:47 · answer #4 · answered by JJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way your going to find out is be a man and ask her out. Let her know how you feel about her but don't jump right in till you get to know a little bit about her. She might not be all that you think that she is. Plus just because you don't have any problems with mixed races she might have some peer pressure that she can't handle. Just take it slow and treat the situation delicately and you will be fine
2006-10-18 13:26:14 · answer #5 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone here. The interracial dating is no big deal. You need to talk to her more. Ask her if you can walk her to the next class (assuming there is enough time between periods so you don't get in trouble yourself). If that is too much in front of all the others, then slip her a note with your phone number. see if she will call you. Keep saying hello, but you must get her to talk with you more.
Good luck!
2006-10-18 13:29:24 · answer #6 · answered by Sirena 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it dude!!!be an absolute gentle man toward her,also it is very important that you complent her at all times ,look your best always and speak appropiately when speaking to her in general(we females love the attention and the details.)Take my advice and you can not go wrong.Good luck!!!!!
2006-10-18 13:39:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would it be an issue?? people really need to get passed that!! you allready made contact with her and that was the hard part so go for it ask her to a movie or whatever i bet she will say yes!!
2006-10-18 13:25:53 · answer #8 · answered by notyochic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath and ask her out...could be something as simple as a drink after school.
2006-10-18 13:24:00 · answer #9 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it, it shouldn't be an issue. Ask her about her day, her name, introduce yourself and strike up a conversation just like you would do with your friends.She might like you too.
2006-10-18 21:09:45 · answer #10 · answered by uglyvanity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋