Theres a guy i like in the office and ive known him for just over a year i want to ask him out but im worried that he may say no and i would have to face him day after day. Hes shy so i dont think he would make a move anyway so am stuck! I want to ask him to a concert but dont know if ive got guts
2006-10-18 06:19:19 · 27 answers · asked by joanne100uk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What you got to loose? The worst thing that can happen is that he says no. And if you continue being scared to ask him out, you will never know if there could be something....
2006-10-18 06:22:56 · answer #1 · answered by Vanilla C 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy who's been in a similar situation. I fancied a girl I worked with but was too shy to make a move. We got on well but I just didn't have the bottle. She left after about a year and I found out a few months later from another work mate, that she felt the same way about me. You think the worst thing that can happen is that he could say no but in fact, the worst thing is if you don't ask and you will never know either way. I've never seen this girl in 2 years and still regret it! Just go for it.
2006-10-18 15:31:12 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok. i know the feeling. i knew this guy for almost three years before i got up the nerve to ask him out. we've now been going out for three months so far. if i were you i'd face my fears and ask him. i wish i would have sooner. the worst that could happen would be he'd say no. i know that's a big "worst" but, follow your heart and go for it, if it's what you really want. i'm glad i did.
and by the way, my b\f was shy too. i don't usually make the first move, but i didn't really have the chance not to.
2006-10-18 13:27:29 · answer #3 · answered by troublemaker_4_life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm all about taking chances, etc. A missed chance might be regretted...
however, I also believe in the policy-don't dip your pen in company ink...
How need to weigh the pro's and con's of this situation. How long will you be at work for if it doesn't work. Can you get a different shift or transfer?
I can say that hurt relationships do affect the workplace-not only between you two, but your coworkers as well. they might take saids or act awkard to you as well.
It will be your decision in the end. Good luck either way!
2006-10-18 13:22:56 · answer #4 · answered by b-rad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've got an interesting idea for you Joanne.
Why not invite him to the concert and say that there will be three of you going and then at the last minute the third person "mysteriously" drops out if you know what I mean and it's you two together on your own!?
2006-10-18 13:26:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Joanne! To be completely honest with you, I would say not to ask him out just because alot of guys would ask you out if they were attracted to you. They would put all of their worries and fears behind and step up to the plate and be a man. That's not a woman's place to ask a guy out. And besides, as you mentioned you would have to see him everyday at work and knowing that he rejected you. But then again, it's a gut thing. If you think that he's going to say no, just flirt with him til he opens up to you and then if he's liking you I'm sure he'll ask you out!
2006-10-18 13:28:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then do it as a friend rather than a date.
Tell him you have two tickets because a girlfriend had to cry off and does he fancy going with you.
Away from the office things may be more relaxed and you never know.
Good luck.
2006-10-22 10:39:04 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is shy, then you will have to make the first move, and will have to be a little more direct. Like you can say.."Hey..I really wanto to go to this concert but I cant find anybody that wants to come with me, do you like this artist? want to come?"
that is a bit cassual and he does not have to think you are bsolutely crazy about him...or you can sayon luch break....did you had lunch alreeady? cause I dont want to have lunch by myself...wanna join me?
always remember the important thing is to do it very casually..like if he says no...say.."oh well...maybe another day! bye"..with a smile and like you are suuuper cool with his answer...like nothing happenned.
and once in a while you can make him a nice comment.."hey..thats a cool tie!..or i really like the way your office is decorated...anything that is casual and spontaneous..and of course honest! it will reflect!..good luck..try it!
2006-10-18 13:27:17 · answer #8 · answered by mswildsexycool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you gotta go for it... do pie and coffee thing or a lunch to start out with ... so he feels no pressure if he is shy like you wrote. But you have to ask him out ... because you'll kick yourself in the butt later if you don't ... you will always wonder... Plus sometimes guys need a little help in the girl department... You could school him!
2006-10-18 13:26:32 · answer #9 · answered by Jill c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask him. if you are that scared ask him out as part of a group thing and just take over to a quiet corner and get to know him. Or ask him to do something innocent like take lunch with you that way the pressure is off and both of you can relax.
2006-10-18 13:26:27 · answer #10 · answered by cashis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋